money or love

  • comoesta

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    Feb 20, 2014 5:47 PM GMT
    what would you rather choose, if a already married guy offers you money. Or would you rather wait for true love to move you way.
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    Feb 20, 2014 5:52 PM GMT
    I understand you're sick of not having the newest, coolest, things, and that you have to work to support yourself through college, but that's life. If you're wanting to go out with somebody just for money and shiny new toys then I'm sure things are going to blow up in your face sooner than later.
  • MikeW

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    Feb 20, 2014 5:57 PM GMT
    Call it whatever you want but it is exploitation and prostitution. I have no moral argument against prostitution IF that is something YOU can feel totally and 100% comfortable with. If not, if you're going to feel guilty or dirty or victimized or this is going to underscore some negative self image you already have of yourself, DO NOT GO THERE. It could ruin your life.
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    Feb 20, 2014 5:57 PM GMT
    lol, he's telling you that you MUST be exclusively his, but is he going to be exclusively yours?

    He can use his generosity as a big stick to whack you with if you get tired of this, but you have nothing to whack him with if he cheats on you. The power is all on his side, and you have none.

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    Feb 20, 2014 5:59 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    He can use his generosity as a big stick to whack you with if you get tired of this, but you have nothing to whack him with if he cheats on you. The power is all on his side, and you have none.


    EXACTLY! OP is sick of being in debt, but now he's just putting himself in someone else's debt!
  • MikeW

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    Feb 20, 2014 6:00 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh said
    meninlove said
    He can use his generosity as a big stick to whack you with if you get tired of this, but you have nothing to whack him with if he cheats on you. The power is all on his side, and you have none.

    EXACTLY! OP is sick of being in debt, but now he's just putting himself in someone else's debt!

    More bluntly: He's agreeing to be someone's sex slave.
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    Feb 20, 2014 6:02 PM GMT
    MikeW said
    JumpMan_Josh said
    meninlove said
    He can use his generosity as a big stick to whack you with if you get tired of this, but you have nothing to whack him with if he cheats on you. The power is all on his side, and you have none.

    EXACTLY! OP is sick of being in debt, but now he's just putting himself in someone else's debt!

    More bluntly: He's agreeing to be someone's sex slave.


    Pretty much! I have a feeling OP already knows what the right decision is, but just needs a bit of reassurance (and maybe a swift kick in the butt).
  • MikeW

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    Feb 20, 2014 6:36 PM GMT
    comoesta saidWell the thing is for past six months i' e been crying to bed on the weekends. Worst case he'll be fed up with me in 2 years, by then i'll have a degree, little something in the bank and work experience. He got married young, no kids, nd goes without sex for months. Wife just lays there. He's only 30 for crying out loud. Nd i'll never score something like dat ever.

    Ok, well, look. First of all, all you know about him is what he's telling you and obviously he is a liar. So keep that in mind. If a man cheats on his wife and lies about it to her, he can just as easily lie to you about what is really going on in his life.

    That said, it is your life and you should do whatever is right for you. I'm not going to judge you for whatever you choose to do. I'm just concerned, that's all. If you can be someone's paid for sex toy and feel ok about yourself while doing it and afterward, go for it. However, I strongly suggest you do NOT develop 'feelings' for this man. He is married and so far as you've indicated, has no intentions of divorcing his wife and having any feelings for you.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 20, 2014 6:39 PM GMT
    I bet he is a protestant minister icon_biggrin.gif

    Usually, nothing in life comes easy. If your dating pool is slim now, it will become nil. The world is full of hustlers, so you'll probably just be a shortterm arrangement, so don't quit your day job, for one you'll have nothing to fall back on and for two, you'll have no past experience to refer to when you go looking for a better job. What are you going to do, list him as your last employer?
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 20, 2014 7:07 PM GMT
    pellaz saida gay man should stay away from someone in a straight married relationship

    I have a feeling that the OP has no problem kicking her off the "ledder."
  • MikeW

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    Feb 20, 2014 7:08 PM GMT
    comoesta saidhe's a doctor, whose parents are already super rich. My fee is due next month $1,500. He's paying it up front and then also hooking me up with an entry level office job at his friends's firm. I've done a similar internship already, so chances are I will get it. He says, he wants to fuck my virgin ass for as long as he wants. I've checked his facebook for all the previous years. and he seems legit.

    Sigh. What do you want from us? Permission? You come here and start a thread asking our opinion. You got it.
  • MikeW

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    Feb 20, 2014 7:09 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    pellaz saida gay man should stay away from someone in a straight married relationship

    I have a feeling that the OP has no problem kicking her off the "ledder."

    LOL
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 20, 2014 7:11 PM GMT
    MikeW said
    comoesta saidhe's a doctor, whose parents are already super rich. My fee is due next month $1,500. He's paying it up front and then also hooking me up with an entry level office job at his friends's firm. I've done a similar internship already, so chances are I will get it. He says, he wants to fuck my virgin ass for as long as he wants. I've checked his facebook for all the previous years. and he seems legit.

    Sigh. What do you want from us? Permission? You come here and start a thread asking our opinion. You got it.

    He's probably a fake. I'm not sure why a hunky 30 year old doctor who's out of his league would pay him to be his BF.
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 20, 2014 7:22 PM GMT
    kiwiLifter said
    comoesta saidhe's a doctor, whose parents are already super rich. My fee is due next month $1,500. He's paying it up front and then also hooking me up with an entry level office job at his friends's firm. I've done a similar internship already, so chances are I will get it. He says, he wants to fuck my virgin ass for as long as he wants. I've checked his facebook for all the previous years. and he seems legit.


    Go for it, a chance to escape the poverty trap that more and more people are being pushed into by Big Finance and their bought politicians.

    Ignore the hypocritical queens on here, they all have their dirty little secrets. icon_lol.gif

    Does he want bare back? HIV is raging again.

    Have a backup fast get away plan ie build up cash savings as soon as possible.

    The fact that he's rich and hot and 30 and a doctor should outweigh such petty concerns.
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 20, 2014 7:55 PM GMT
    kiwiLifter said
    HottJoe said
    kiwiLifter said
    comoesta saidhe's a doctor, whose parents are already super rich. My fee is due next month $1,500. He's paying it up front and then also hooking me up with an entry level office job at his friends's firm. I've done a similar internship already, so chances are I will get it. He says, he wants to fuck my virgin ass for as long as he wants. I've checked his facebook for all the previous years. and he seems legit.


    Go for it, a chance to escape the poverty trap that more and more people are being pushed into by Big Finance and their bought politicians.

    Ignore the hypocritical queens on here, they all have their dirty little secrets. icon_lol.gif

    Does he want bare back? HIV is raging again.

    Have a backup fast get away plan ie build up cash savings as soon as possible.

    The fact that he's rich and hot and 30 and a doctor should outweigh such petty concerns.


    No that's just the icing on the cake. icon_biggrin.gif


    I think someone's being gullible. It's either the OP, or anyone who believes his story.
  • MikeW

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    Feb 20, 2014 7:56 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    MikeW said
    comoesta saidhe's a doctor, whose parents are already super rich. My fee is due next month $1,500. He's paying it up front and then also hooking me up with an entry level office job at his friends's firm. I've done a similar internship already, so chances are I will get it. He says, he wants to fuck my virgin ass for as long as he wants. I've checked his facebook for all the previous years. and he seems legit.

    Sigh. What do you want from us? Permission? You come here and start a thread asking our opinion. You got it.

    He's probably a fake. I'm not sure why a hunky 30 year old doctor who's out of his league would pay him to be his BF.

    Yeah, sounds right.
  • MikeW

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    Feb 20, 2014 7:56 PM GMT
    TheWhiteMan saidMilk that sucker for all he's worth.

    LOL
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    Feb 20, 2014 8:09 PM GMT
    Well, at least it's new trolling topic: Should I be a burger flipper or a whore? Hm, please RJ, decide for me.
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    Feb 20, 2014 8:34 PM GMT
    As much as you want this to happen you have no debs in its outcome. if you dont see hard cash chances are you never will see anything.

    under no conditions do anything not protected sex

    develop a new video hobby.

    no moral issues here; the planet's oldest profession. You are providing a service be happy. Dont get emotionally attached.

    i personally think the OP is getting scammed or at minium things will not be as expected. If things seem to good to be true generally they are not true.
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    Feb 20, 2014 8:45 PM GMT
    It's understandable for young guys to consider this. I dated two 19 yo freshmen in the past, both virgins too. While I didn't pay their tuition, loans or rent but I did spent some good $$ going out and stuff but I'm not married or want them to be exclusively mine or anything. It sounds like you want to do it but just asking us for our permission. I don't have any judgment against this if you want to be his **booty call on the side. Don't get emotionally attached or worse trying to wreck his marriage, be numb and be like a robot, learn a skill, be great at your new job. Then end it with him, I guess.
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    Feb 20, 2014 11:08 PM GMT
    he sees you as an item to purchase, use as he will and when he tires of you will toss you out like an old cheap piece of furniture and go shopping in ikea again.

    If your cool with that make use of it, keep your own bank account demand he put the money in there he should not control the purse strings and make sure he uses protecting all the time every time.
  • MikeW

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    Feb 20, 2014 11:50 PM GMT
    ^^^ Excellent advice.

    I'm not giving you permission. If you're an adult, you don't need anyone's. I hope it works well for you and you develop a higher appreciation of yourself over time.
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    Feb 21, 2014 1:06 AM GMT
    Your answer is your question.

    Regardless of what it might tell you--though by how you structured your question, your answer seems clear--you can listen to your conscience now or hear it later.