What traits do you want in a husband?

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    Feb 22, 2014 1:01 PM GMT
    When choosing a life long partner list things you'd expect:

    1) Career
    2) Body type
    3) How often you'd expect sex would it decrease in time
    4) Values you won't negotiate on (honest communication, loyalty, empathy etc.)

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    Feb 22, 2014 2:09 PM GMT
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    Feb 22, 2014 3:44 PM GMT
    1) Career - For now, I want him to be in the military like me. It'd be easier on both of us. Military or civilian, though, the government won't pay for his move unless we were married.

    2) Body Type - What I consider an average body type is a rather "fit" body by American standards. I want to see some nice pecs, a hint of abs but more of a lil' tiny belly, strong arms, very little body hair, as tall as me or taller and definitely a bit heavier. When I say strong, I mean big but not heavily defined.

    3) Sex frequency and decline - I'd want frot every few days, no matter what age. I'd want anal maybe once or twice a month and much less as time goes by.

    4) Values you won't negotiate on - True monogamy, the want to be married, not wanting children (or at least, not more than 1... after I'm 35 or so), similar views on healthy eating and overall lifestyle, a true gamer, compatible sense of humor, similar views on nudity, similar artistic views in visual and aural arts, wanting dogs and cats... stuff.
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    Feb 22, 2014 4:35 PM GMT
    The other day you asked me in a PM what the secret was to my ten year relationship. I'd say it's committing to vows, for better or worse. If I were to listen to advice from magazines and serial monogamists, I'd be single right now (or at the very least, not with my honey bear). We're taught to be unforgiving and uncompromising. We're taught that men who have a temper won't ever change, were taught that we should be loved for what's on the inside yet we demand our partner to have a perfect body, we're taught that sex is shallow yet we demand monogamy, we're taught to expect so much and give so little.

    The thing about promising to love each other in sickness and health, in good times and bad, is there are no deal breakers, no stupid lists, etc. If, and when, you get into a fight, or one of you does something stupid, you just have to either support each other through it to the end, or call it quits. Neither me nor my partner are perfect. If we demanded perfection from each other we'd never last.
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    Feb 22, 2014 8:55 PM GMT
    strongbull saidLegs open mouth shut.


    Very crass. Good luck with that. Sex is a dime a dozen; love adds value to your life.
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    Feb 22, 2014 8:57 PM GMT
    KittenpasteCompany said1) Career - For now, I want him to be in the military like me. It'd be easier on both of us. Military or civilian, though, the government won't pay for his move unless we were married.

    2) Body Type - What I consider an average body type is a rather "fit" body by American standards. I want to see some nice pecs, a hint of abs but more of a lil' tiny belly, strong arms, very little body hair, as tall as me or taller and definitely a bit heavier. When I say strong, I mean big but not heavily defined.

    3) Sex frequency and decline - I'd want frot every few days, no matter what age. I'd want anal maybe once or twice a month and much less as time goes by.

    4) Values you won't negotiate on - True monogamy, the want to be married, not wanting children (or at least, not more than 1... after I'm 35 or so), similar views on healthy eating and overall lifestyle, a true gamer, compatible sense of humor, similar views on nudity, similar artistic views in visual and aural arts, wanting dogs and cats... stuff.


    May I ask what your views on nudity are? You have an adorably cute face.
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    Feb 22, 2014 8:58 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidA professional masseur/chef multi-millionaire who takes his work home every night.


    Lol not a maid too icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:03 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidThe other day you asked me in a PM what the secret was to my ten year relationship. I'd say it's committing to vows, for better or worse. If I were to listen to advice from magazines and serial monogamists, I'd be single right now (or at the very least, not with my honey bear). We're taught to be unforgiving and uncompromising. We're taught that men who have a temper won't ever change, were taught that we should be loved for what's on the inside yet we demand our partner to have a perfect body, we're taught that sex is shallow yet we demand monogamy, we're taught to expect so much and give so little.

    The thing about promising to love each other in sickness and health, in good times and bad, is there are no deal breakers, no stupid lists, etc. If, and when, you get into a fight, or one of you does something stupid, you just have to either support each other through it to the end, or call it quits. Neither me nor my partner are perfect. If we demanded perfection from each other we'd never last.


    Awe your "honey bear". Congratulations on your 10 year relationship!!!!!!!!!! Longer than some marriages.

    But I want to become an ideal and perfect like Beyoncé icon_rolleyes.gif I want to be someone's everything. Okay I realize this sounds silly.
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:14 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidA professional masseur/chef multi-millionaire who takes his work home every night.

    Totally agree! I found 2 out of 3 there, so I'm a well fed happy man. I'll just make the money myself and be happy with that.
    Honestly, I'm content with a man that's after my heart and nothing else.
    Jack's honest, loving, loyal and caring.
    The rest I can overlook as he surely looks past my short comings as well.
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:30 PM GMT
    My widowed oldest aunt described what attributes she would want in a man:

    He had to be well mannered, educated, urbane, dress well, be kind & considerate, and very important: He had to be able to drive at night.
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:31 PM GMT
    1) career wise-someone educated following their dreams
    2)body type-average to fit, not really too picky.
    3) every few days, but not every day.
    4)needs to be honest, monogamous (sorry I didn't sign up for a threesome or open relationship), I would like to ideally spent my life with them
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:32 PM GMT
    AnOriginal saidWhen choosing a life long partner list things you'd expect:

    1) Career
    2) Body type
    3) How often you'd expect sex would it decrease in time
    4) Values you won't negotiate on (honest communication, loyalty, empathy etc.)



    Career - whatever they love but got a thing for management sorts.

    Body type - just don't be too obese or too skinny.

    Sex - my bf has a high sex drive so probably a lot if we were together forever lol. Tbh though it's down to who I'm with if they want it a lot or not.

    Values - respectful and not controlling and i'm happy!
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:36 PM GMT
    I dont believe in men/men marriages anymore. In my experience most guys are not committed enough to get married to another guy, they say they're only 'curious' or just don't think marriage can be applied to men and chicken out at the last minute.
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:38 PM GMT
    to be honest for me i just want a genuine person who cares enough to stay with me as i would them
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:39 PM GMT
    David3000 saidI dont believe in men/men marriages anymore. In my experience most guys are not committed enough to get married to another guy, they say they're only 'curious' or just don't think marriage can be applied to men and chicken out at the last minute.


    Don't have to be married though can just be with someone forever.
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:50 PM GMT
    David3000 saidI dont believe in men/men marriages anymore. In my experience most guys are not committed enough to get married to another guy, they say they're only 'curious' or just don't think marriage can be applied to men and chicken out at the last minute.


    David I'm so sorry :-( He wasn't right for you then. If you weren't a total top and after dating for 3-7 years I could easily commit and be loyal to you/someone for the rest of my life. I prefer having sex with only one guy. If I want thrills I'll go to the movies or a concert, but when I come home I want what's true and steady. I want to appreciate what I'm used to and to cherish her/him. You can't replicate going through all of lifes up and downs with someone it ideally builds a unique connection.
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:53 PM GMT
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    David3000 saidI dont believe in men/men marriages anymore. In my experience most guys are not committed enough to get married to another guy, they say they're only 'curious' or just don't think marriage can be applied to men and chicken out at the last minute.


    David I'm so sorry :-( He wasn't right for you then. If you weren't a total top and after dating for 3-7 years I could easily commit and be loyal to you/someone for the rest of my life. I prefer having sex with only one guy. If I want thrills I'll go to the movies or a concert, but when I come home I want what's true and steady. I want to appreciate what I'm used to and to cherish her/him. You can't replicate going through all of lifes up and downs with someone it ideally builds a unique connection.
    I like the part of you want one guy icon_smile.gif and you get your thrills at the movies icon_smile.gif that shows love and a relationships arnt disposable and really should and are meant to last icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:55 PM GMT
    I think guys often don't realize what they've got till it's gone. It's not about a commitment to the relationship as much as it's about a commitment to an individuals success in today's society. I can understand the benefit of both -- watching my grandparents married for 50+ years as well as watching my own parents divorce.
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:56 PM GMT
    I've met a lot of male/male couples that have been together for 15+ yrs. Many have already tied the knot and can reap the other's
    Social Security check if he were to die, as my parents will have one day.
    Not all men should marry, but find one that is willing to love you forever and there's no reason you can't live as happy and productive a life as your parents.
    I plan to.
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    Feb 22, 2014 9:59 PM GMT
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    David3000 saidI dont believe in men/men marriages anymore. In my experience most guys are not committed enough to get married to another guy, they say they're only 'curious' or just don't think marriage can be applied to men and chicken out at the last minute.


    David I'm so sorry :-( He wasn't right for you then. If you weren't a total top and after dating for 3-7 years I could easily commit and be loyal to you/someone for the rest of my life. I prefer having sex with only one guy. If I want thrills I'll go to the movies or a concert, but when I come home I want what's true and steady. I want to appreciate what I'm used to and to cherish her/him. You can't replicate going through all of lifes up and downs with someone it ideally builds a unique connection.
    I like the part of you want one guy icon_smile.gif and you get your thrills at the movies icon_smile.gif that shows love and a relationships arnt disposable and really should and are meant to last icon_smile.gif


    Awe you're sweet ^_^ Make sure when you find your first boyfriend to take things s-l-o-w it will feel like fireworks and just holding his hand will leave you feeling euphoric. I believe a lot of guys exist that are willing to be faithful if that's what you want. Unfortunately it's just when guys get hurt it leads to resentment and throwing in the towel icon_sad.gif

    I think the ones that are willing to be loyal sometimes put their trust too quickly in others. Meeting your boyfriends parents and seeing his relationship with them can provide major insight into their personality.

    Guys often find it odd that I ask what their relationship is like with their mother lol.
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    Feb 22, 2014 10:01 PM GMT
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    AnOriginal said
    David3000 saidI dont believe in men/men marriages anymore. In my experience most guys are not committed enough to get married to another guy, they say they're only 'curious' or just don't think marriage can be applied to men and chicken out at the last minute.


    David I'm so sorry :-( He wasn't right for you then. If you weren't a total top and after dating for 3-7 years I could easily commit and be loyal to you/someone for the rest of my life. I prefer having sex with only one guy. If I want thrills I'll go to the movies or a concert, but when I come home I want what's true and steady. I want to appreciate what I'm used to and to cherish her/him. You can't replicate going through all of lifes up and downs with someone it ideally builds a unique connection.
    I like the part of you want one guy icon_smile.gif and you get your thrills at the movies icon_smile.gif that shows love and a relationships arnt disposable and really should and are meant to last icon_smile.gif


    Awe you're sweet ^_^ Make sure when you find your first boyfriend to take things s-l-o-w it will feel like fireworks and just holding his hand will leave you feeling euphoric. I believe a lot of guys exist that are willing to be faithful if that's what you want. Unfortunately it's just when guys get hurt it leads to resentment and throwing in the towel icon_sad.gif
    Thankyou for your nice words icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 22, 2014 10:07 PM GMT
    Dennis89 said
    AnOriginal said
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    AnOriginal said
    David3000 saidI dont believe in men/men marriages anymore. In my experience most guys are not committed enough to get married to another guy, they say they're only 'curious' or just don't think marriage can be applied to men and chicken out at the last minute.


    David I'm so sorry :-( He wasn't right for you then. If you weren't a total top and after dating for 3-7 years I could easily commit and be loyal to you/someone for the rest of my life. I prefer having sex with only one guy. If I want thrills I'll go to the movies or a concert, but when I come home I want what's true and steady. I want to appreciate what I'm used to and to cherish her/him. You can't replicate going through all of lifes up and downs with someone it ideally builds a unique connection.
    I like the part of you want one guy icon_smile.gif and you get your thrills at the movies icon_smile.gif that shows love and a relationships arnt disposable and really should and are meant to last icon_smile.gif


    Awe you're sweet ^_^ Make sure when you find your first boyfriend to take things s-l-o-w it will feel like fireworks and just holding his hand will leave you feeling euphoric. I believe a lot of guys exist that are willing to be faithful if that's what you want. Unfortunately it's just when guys get hurt it leads to resentment and throwing in the towel icon_sad.gif
    Thankyou for your nice words icon_smile.gif


    You're more than welcome icon_smile.gif