Do you feel disappointed /annoyed / deceived when you hook up with a guy and he doesn't want to have anal sex? I've heard guys say anything else is foreplay and look at you like you're an alien if you refuse. Even to the point of asking you to leave if you don't put out?
Personally anal sex is intimate and it's the last thing I wanna duo five just met someone. Am I prude-ish? What are your thoughts?
First, I'm a bit confused. Did you mean to say "and YOU don't want to have anal sex", rather than "HE doesn't", in that first sentence? Because the next sentences seem to contradict.
I see nothing wrong with having sex during a first-time hook-up. If you like the guy why not? And in my case I've only hooked-up with guys who already interested me, which means I've had more first-time sex than not in my single days. (But always SAFE sex)
As for TYPES of sex, the way some guys specialize really surprises me. Some have just wanted to top me, and wouldn't consider anything else. Fine, I can bottom, but it usually won't get me off. So he fucks me and I'm left there with aching balls and a neglected hardon, because he won't blow or jerk me, I get to wank myself. For that I could have stayed at home.
Or he only wanted to be a bottom. Well, OK, I'm versatile. But also in my prime I was pretty big, and once in bed some guys realized they couldn't handle me. I'd offer to blow them instead (I think I give a great one), but no, only anal for them, no BJ or stroking, so goodnight, thank you for your interest, and don't forget your socks.
I don't find anal much more intimate than oral. Sucking a guy's cock, and him maybe cumming in my mouth, seems pretty intimate to ME. But everyone's different. So do what feels comfortable to you, and realize some guys specialize so highly that unless you do it exactly their way they'll send you packing. And I've run into some where that even includes wearing costumes and speaking from a script!