Feb 25, 2014 9:30 PM GMT
I have recently started dating a guy that I've know for about 2 years now. Before we started a relationship we hooked up all the time and would sometimes have sex and get off multiple times a day. My partner got a hemroid or something to that extent and at the same time it was painful for me to do anything even urinate so we stopped all sexual acts for two to three weeks. Once I felt better I wanted to start doing things again but we just never picked up from where we left off. Now, we never have sex and rarely get off. Since then we started a relationship, but that hasn't changed anything. He tells me that he is afraid to have sex because he doesn't want to get another hemroid and doesn't want to do anything because he thinks it will just lead to me wanting sex. He also has told me that he is not comfortable with himself and his self image and is uncomfortable with me seeing his body since he thinks he is out of shape. I have a hard time understanding what the real issue is. Before we started a relationship we got into a fight and stopped talking for awhile. During this time apart he hooked up with a guy and told me they had sex but he didn't enjoy it since he just thought of me the whole time. I just don't understand how he can have sex with some random guy but not with his now boyfriend. I'm just looking for advice on what might be going on and how to fix it.