JohnSpotter saidI've stopped responding to most messages.
-People who hot list me when they already have 500
-People who buddy list me who I've never had a conversation with
-Strangers who send generic messages like "Hello. How are you?"
Agreed. I used to buddy-list guys whom I liked, based on their posts. It was sort of a place marker for me, so I'd remember they were good guys I wanted to remember.
But that was misunderstood, guys thought I was hitting on them, which I wasn't. I think I've still got a few Buddies, mainly so I can easily email them, but I don't add buddies anymore.
I never Hot List anyone, because that would be misleading. I'm monogamously married, and Hot List suggests things I'm not gonna do. So that's right out.