Percent of gay or bi men who date or are married to women

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    Feb 28, 2014 2:30 PM GMT
    When I was younger I naively thought most everyone came to terms with their sexuality by 30. I was in NYC at the time and there just didn't seem much reason to be completely buried in the closet. When the internet chatting started in the early 90s, the chat rooms were flooded with married men. As I got older I started believe that out gay/bi men constitute only about 1/3 of all of non-heterosexuals. This feeling was confirmed when I met so many once married men, most with children who came out REALY late. There was a sex survey once in NYC where they found that 10% of married men who identify as straight, have sex on a regular basis with other men. In most sex surveys they take, someone's sexual identity on face value but in this one they proceeded to ask about behavior. I've also seen many posts on Craigslist in the M4M sections by guys who identify as straight. The point is that how one identifies is not necessarily how they innately feel. It was this post on CL missed connection that had me laughing and then wondering:

    Every time you ring me up at the Wilmington Food Lion I hate to leave. I am a married dude, but something about you makes me want to explore things I only did a couple of times when I was younger. I don't want to say which store because I am married and you deserve respect and a discreet posting. But if you think it's you and you want to meet after work for assistance with anything you are tired of handling on your own just send me a reply and tell me which store and your first initial. That way I will know it is you. I hope you see this, dude!
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    Feb 28, 2014 3:19 PM GMT
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    Every time you ring me up at the Wilmington Food Lion I hate to leave. I am a married dude, but something about you makes me want to explore things I only did a couple of times when I was younger. I don't want to say which store because I am married and you deserve respect and a discreet posting. But if you think it's you and you want to meet after work for assistance with anything you are tired of handling on your own just send me a reply and tell me which store and your first initial. That way I will know it is you. I hope you see this, dude![/quote]

    Oh honestly, what a pathetic, gutless fool. Why would anybody care enough about him to jump through all those hoops?
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    Feb 28, 2014 8:20 PM GMT
    pellaz saidthis is a good time to be gay, not always so. Older men you see now married because it was the expected thing. Their straight family life continues to decay, must be frustrating to try so hard at something that will ultimately fail.

    Even if it is a good time to be gay today, you still see men that are in the closet. For example; whole NFL, a multi million dollar organization, is in denial that just maybe 5% of their players are gay and have always been.



    Yes but when I was young, I also thought we had it much better than the older generation. I heard horrible stories of how cops would raid bars. So it didn't seem to make sense that so many men would stay in the closet. I think gays who remain in their provincial settings and immigrants who never leave their tight net community are most likely to stay in the closet. I just met someone the other day from rural Va. who never married but just recently came out and is over 50!