Do guys date anymore?

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    Feb 28, 2014 2:43 PM GMT
    So since I have been on here I have tried to ask myself this question. Do gay guys even date anymore? Like really go on a date. Not "hey I bought you food, so let's go to my place and have sex." I wonder about this because on here I can barely get a message reply. I tried to message someone and all I got as a reply was "do you have a dick pic"? If I had one of my dick posted, I doubt I would be on the site anymore because it's that awesome (I kid.... Kindaicon_smile.gif )

    But seriously. Is this so uncommon these days to date or even get asked out? Even conversation would be a nice change of pace. Maybe I'm not built like guys on here, although trying hard to change that, and that's why I can't get a message back. Sure I understand some guys I message who are states away probably can't go on a date tomorrow. But conversation never hurts.
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    Feb 28, 2014 2:49 PM GMT
    well i am totally new to all this and dating so i would actually like to know same thing as in my experience its all pics that others want and stuff like that lol
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    Feb 28, 2014 3:15 PM GMT
    I do, unless I'm looking for a hookup, I spend time dating first if I like the guy.
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    Feb 28, 2014 4:42 PM GMT
    Yes it can be a dating site. Hence something you look for on here is dates. It's an option for your profile. It's also social networking of gay men who care about fitness too. So yes, dates can happen from this site.
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    Feb 28, 2014 4:44 PM GMT
    Broseph said
    miznew201 saidSo since I have been on here I have tried to ask myself this question. Do gay guys even date anymore? Like really go on a date. Not "hey I bought you food, so let's go to my place and have sex." I wonder about this because on here I can barely get a message reply


    This isn't a dating site. Have you tried those?


    I've met dates from here before.
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    Feb 28, 2014 6:09 PM GMT
    Of course. Just recently I had a guy come over and cooked him a 4-course menu icon_cool.gif

    Afterwards we watched football and that was it.
  • onefortified

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    Feb 28, 2014 6:36 PM GMT
    Looking?
  • MikeW

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    Feb 28, 2014 6:52 PM GMT
    paz_the_gnome saidanybody besides me going like icon_rolleyes.gif reading the op's post? this thread sure makes you dateable.

    Paz, may I make a suggestion. And I don't mean this in a snarky way because I actually like you and I think other people here do to. You can be insightful at times.

    It's just that you *never* (that I see anyway) say anything positive. Why not try it sometime. Or, at the very least, say something that's neutral, just informative, without judgement. I bet if you set the goal of making just ONE positive post a day, over time it would change your whole life.
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    Feb 28, 2014 7:10 PM GMT
    Dennis89 saidwell i am totally new to all this and dating so i would actually like to know same thing as in my experience its all pics that others want and stuff like that lol

    Dating sites are like life itself. Ninety percent of the people you meet you neither like nor dislike. Maybe six or seven you're attracted to, maybe 2 or 3 totally rub you the wrong way. Of that six or seven, maybe two or three will turn out to be really good friends (which, by the way, you need more than a boyfriend right now, I think) and the rest won't work out for one reason or another. Perhaps one of them will turn out to be someone you can date.

    It's not a bad thing, it's just the way life is.
  • MikeW

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    Feb 28, 2014 7:28 PM GMT
    Sharka_Khan said
    Dennis89 saidwell i am totally new to all this and dating so i would actually like to know same thing as in my experience its all pics that others want and stuff like that lol

    Dating sites are like life itself. Ninety percent of the people you meet you neither like nor dislike. Maybe six or seven you're attracted to, maybe 2 or 3 totally rub you the wrong way. Of that six or seven, maybe two or three will turn out to be really good friends (which, by the way, you need more than a boyfriend right now, I think) and the rest won't work out for one reason or another. Perhaps one of them will turn out to be someone you can date.

    It's not a bad thing, it's just the way life is.

    ^^^^ This is very much my experience. I'm not in the 'dating game' at all but when I was younger I was. Back then, before the internet, the only way to meet people was in RL and there were advantages and disadvantages to that. It *helped* to have a place that was *not* a meat rack type bar and I was fortunate to have that. But nevertheless, what Sharka said is exactly what I experienced.

    I also think there are questions guys don't ask themselves such as: "Am *I* datable?" It takes a certain degree of honest self awareness to accurately answer that question. We all have illusions about ourselves. What is the truth? Understanding this isn't just about how good we look, either. Obviously it helps but as someone who was never an "A" gay I can tell you from experience personality is equally important. Probably in the long run even more so.
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    Feb 28, 2014 10:11 PM GMT
    From me anyway thank you Mike and Sharka icon_smile.gif advice taken and i have thought about that my self its a matter of my trying working out and i am at the beginning now so lol at me saying this but things can only get better ????? and i agree with Mike, come on Paz cheer up icon_smile.gif big hug icon_lol.gif from me try not to let everything get to you, like i let get to me !!! icon_smile.gif you can say this positive about you icon_smile.gif your a smart lad who can hold a great convo icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 28, 2014 10:15 PM GMT
    I've been with my man for well over 20 years, and we still go out on dates together.
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    Feb 28, 2014 10:29 PM GMT
    From what I've heard from everyone I know is that they aren't hooking up or dating anymore. Something happened with the internet and phone apps that changed everything. Back in the early and mid 2000s gay.com, gyms and sex clubs were all hopping with potentials to meet and date but not anymore. All the good looking guys disappeared into grindr and maybe private parties or somewhere else. I know a beautiful young blond lady that went on match.com and got 1400 responses in the first week, so it seems the super goodlooking aren't having trouble.
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    Mar 01, 2014 7:07 AM GMT
    So with reading all your posts, most were cool, I am curious. Who is Paz? And yea on my profile I used to have tons of info about me on it. I took most of it down. Seemed like a bit much. So I just left it as an open ticket to chat with me if you wanted to.
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    Mar 01, 2014 7:25 AM GMT
    miznew201 saidI am curious. Who is Paz?

    Yes, people date - it's just more difficult now. I know lots of guys who have dated and met BFs that way - but I'm not in a small city in Indiana.
    Paz? Pazzy, the guy who changes his screen name at least weekly. Apparently today it is "paz_the_gnome". Search on that at the top of the page, and you will get his profile. Search under "pazzy" on the forums, and you will come up with lots of posts in which he is discussed. Some of us less tolerant folks have him on ignore, and are spared reading his posts.
  • Karl

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    Mar 01, 2014 8:30 AM GMT
    nobody wants me and I am too picky.
    no date no love no blah blah blah.

    end of story.
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    Mar 01, 2014 2:16 PM GMT
    Yea everyone on this thread needs to calm down a little bit
  • Karl

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    Mar 01, 2014 2:33 PM GMT
    miznew201 saidYea everyone on this thread needs to calm down a little bit


    for my own experiences on here it's a story that I can even write a book about it.

    I barely break the ice with someone on here but sometimes I send a few messages to guys that I think they're interesting.
    Most of my message are pretty long (actually they sound like a total letter), so I often got replied back but the conversation often ends there as I have no dick pic or butt pics because I don't like uploading those things. And sometimes I got no reply because of some @#$@% preferences like "no black no fem no asians blah blah blah" , but that's not my problem.

    Don't feel bad when you don't get a message back because sometimes RJ is like a market. If they're not interested, they don't even read your message.
    Then ignore them, even when you're very well built and you get a thousand of messages everyday, do you like friends who come to you just because of your appearance ? Or you want friends that reply to you because they're really interested in you ?

    Last but not least, guys do date, you're living in the state and you have too many chances to meet guys out there, not like me, then be happy , keep messaging guys and see what happen icon_smile.gif

    that's what I think.

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    Mar 01, 2014 3:17 PM GMT
    not really, unless giving a quick bj is considered a date.
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    Mar 01, 2014 4:47 PM GMT
    morphic saidnot really, unless giving a quick bj is considered a date.


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    Mar 01, 2014 6:39 PM GMT
    theantijock said
    morphic saidnot really, unless giving a quick bj is considered a date.


    58519h_speed%20dating%20small.jpg

    That would be a quick bj orgy, switching from one guy to next guy.
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    Mar 02, 2014 12:19 AM GMT
    I still do, no good potential candidates close to home at the moment. The last guy I hung out with, he rushed it too fast and I wasn't feeling it.