Love And Affection, Fathers And Sons

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    Mar 01, 2014 7:26 AM GMT
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    President Obama said of his father: “I didn’t have a dad in the house. And I was angry about it, even though I didn’t necessarily realize it at the time.” Was your relationship with your father a good one? How do you think it has influenced your life?



    http://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/01/opinion/blow-fathers-sons-and-brothers-keepers.html?hp&rref=opinion&_r=0
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    Mar 01, 2014 9:16 AM GMT
    I would have to say that I think my father doesn't seem to understand me that well at times but we have an okay relationship. He is a very tough, strong willed direct, ballsy, stubborn individual but deep down I know he loves me and cares he is just not the type that shows it.

    I grew up on tough love.
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    Mar 01, 2014 9:18 AM GMT
    Nonexistent because I never met my father but I think this affected me in a positive way because I plan to be the best dad ever.

    btw what is a white non-hispanic?
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    Mar 01, 2014 12:40 PM GMT
    I would say some fathers are not worth knowing. I wish I never met my own personally butnsince the age of about 10 or 11 I never had to see him again icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 01, 2014 1:37 PM GMT
    Edward89 said
    I grew up on tough love.


    Same here.
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    Mar 01, 2014 3:41 PM GMT
    David3000 saidNonexistent because I never met my father but I think this affected me in a positive way because I plan to be the best dad ever.

    btw what is a white non-[h]spanic?


    In the USA, this includes arabs and whites (German, Dutch, anglo-saxons etc.)
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    Mar 01, 2014 3:53 PM GMT
    I lost my father at a pretty young age, but he was a real family man, who loved his family to bits. It's been over 15 years, but I still miss him every day.
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    Mar 01, 2014 4:14 PM GMT
    Asian fathers do not express love but what my father did show plenty of it. I missed him everyday.
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    Mar 01, 2014 5:07 PM GMT
    There's also a big difference, in my opinion, with dads of today versus dads of a generation ago. My dad never was affectionate towards me growing up but when he got older we always hugged while saying hello or good bye and he got so he always told me he loved me after phone conversations.

    I think it's something you develop but society's acceptance of men feeling more comfortable being affectionate has a lot to do with it. I always tell my son I love him when I see or speak to him and we always hug when in person. We have a close relationship and we both feel that. I also call him 'son' a lot instead of his name because he's the ONLY person that get's that greeting.
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    Mar 01, 2014 5:17 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidThere's also a big difference, in my opinion, with dads of today versus dads of a generation ago. My dad never was affectionate towards me growing up but when he got older we always hugged while saying hello or good bye and he got so he always told me he loved me after phone conversations.

    I think it's something you develop but society's acceptance of men feeling more comfortable being affectionate has a lot to do with it. I always tell my son I love him when I see or speak to him and we always hug when in person. We have a close relationship and we both feel that. I also call him 'son' a lot instead of his name because he's the ONLY person that get's that greeting.


    Aw, that's awesome. My relationship with my dad sucks haha
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    Mar 01, 2014 6:15 PM GMT
    I have a strong bond with my mom and dad.
    I like to let them know that I'm there for them now, like they've been for me all my life. We say, Love you, before hanging up on the phone or when I leave from a visit. I realize how lucky I am to have loving parents at my age.
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    Mar 01, 2014 8:34 PM GMT
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    David3000 saidNonexistent because I never met my father but I think this affected me in a positive way because I plan to be the best dad ever.

    btw what is a white non-[h]spanic?


    In the USA, this includes arabs and whites (German, Dutch, anglo-saxons etc.)

    Does that include italians and spaniards? Because both countries are very expressive and family oriented.
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    Mar 01, 2014 8:59 PM GMT
    wow "Every day"?--awkward!
    I would think this blows massive holes in the doctrine that most men are gay because their daddy never hugged them...


    eb925guy saidThere's also a big difference, in my opinion, with dads of today versus dads of a generation ago. My dad never was affectionate towards me growing up but when he got older we always hugged while saying hello or good bye and he got so he always told me he loved me after phone conversations.

    I think it's something you develop but society's acceptance of men feeling more comfortable being affectionate has a lot to do with it. I always tell my son I love him when I see or speak to him and we always hug when in person. We have a close relationship and we both feel that. I also call him 'son' a lot instead of his name because he's the ONLY person that get's that greeting.


    Funny to me that the grand kids get the cool/loving granddad, not the man I used to lie awake at night, planning how to kill.
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    Mar 01, 2014 9:56 PM GMT
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    David3000 saidNonexistent because I never met my father but I think this affected me in a positive way because I plan to be the best dad ever.

    btw what is a white non-[h]spanic?


    In the USA, this includes arabs and whites (German, Dutch, anglo-saxons etc.)

    Does that include italians and spaniards? Because both countries are very expressive and family oriented.


    Yup, all europeans too.