stevenbrianp saidEveryone should experience "the scene" while they are young, but have no business pursuing romantic relationships while being lost in it. Once you find yourself and decide you are ready in all ways for "that guy" then you will leave it behind without thinking twice.
This will only be true if you let the scene take over your relationship or harm your partner's physical or emotional state. No harm in enjoying a circuit or the "scene" once in a while, while in a relationship. It all comes down to the foundation of the relationship you have built and your self control.
Self serving rhetoric that just gives yourself an excuse to not accept the responsibility that comes with having an adult relationship. I would expect someone at your age to think this way.
Disagree, I don't think you fully understood what I mean and what a few have mentioned in the thread. And I believe we have a different view or definition of what a gay scene is, which may result in us disagreeing.
Basically what you are saying is that people that take part in the gay scene is irresponsible and incapable of reciprocating adult unconditional love. Unfortunately, I have a different opinion and I think it is a bit unfair that you are equating young age with irresponsibility. Anyone, regardless of age, is capable of being responsible in ANY situation or circumstances that they are in. It is up to that individual whether to relish what the gay scene has to offer or to allow it to take over and harm the relationship. There is a big difference between enjoying or having a laugh or dancing, and fully succumbing to drugs and sex.
Maybe you view gay scene as all about booze, party, sex, and drugs, and I don't disqualify that from the meaning (but neither do I condone these factors if it harms your relationships). Maybe you had prior experiences where the gay scene has ruined your relationship or for that matter, your friends' relationships and people you care about. But it is not all just about that. The gay scene is a broad term and can also mean in a positive light; it can be all about having fun with your partner and friends and bringing together the people you care about in one space. It's about you as an individual whether to partake in these events of drugs, alcoholism, hooking up or not. And stevenbrianp, I do agree with you - if the gay scene prevents you from having an "adult" relationship, then please gay scenes are detrimental to your personal relationships. STAY THE HELL AWAY. But I think you have to consider variety of situations where it can also be good and positive to the relationship.
The gay scene doesn't equal bad. It only becomes bad when it negatively affects your relationship. As Guy101 mentioned, "If you can allow a "scene" to alter your relationship then it wasn't meant to be."
Let's expand this a bit more. The gay scene is not the only scene, there are other "scenes" (for the lack of the better word) that can also harm relationships. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't completely cross off the "gay scene" from your list (whatever the hell gay scene means).