Import saidis he jeslous of u in some way?
Does he secretly want to be with you?
Does he like u more than a friend?
Maybe he chips away at u because he's mad he cannot be with you. Maybe he's jealous of you? and to make himself feel better takes digs at u?
Idk man. That sounds pretty annoying tho.
I had a friend like that--- would do anything for me. Was very loyal. However, would never say anything positive. Always critical and negative.
Eventually, I called him out for it and told him (like a child) if u dont have anything nice to say then keep ur mouth shut.
He ended getting me a card and apologizing to me. I accepted the apology, however I was also kinda like "whatever, dude...." as if I dont really care for him or his apology.
I eventually moved and we kinda dont talk anymore. And I dont really feel bad about it either. I thought I would.....but i dont/
So we tried dating for several months but I decided that friendship is the best route because we didn't meet each other's emotional needs. By "chipping away" I mean he is always telling me that I should alter a behavior. The way I dress. The things I like. The music I listen to. He is one of those guys who is constantly starting a comment to me with, "You should..." And rarely does he have a compliment. Whereas I am always congratulating him and telling him "good job". Bottom line is whenever we hang out, I know at some point he is going to try to get me to change something I like or do. And will get very little positive affirmation.
Dude, i think there's an underlying bitterness there cuz the attempts at dating did not work--- he still likes you.
So in order to feel liked and wanted...or needed by you....he points out shit u should do or should not do. He wants u to feel that he's important. He wants to feel needed by u. He wants u to know that he's "in the know" about lots of shit too....and that u need him.. It's prob his way of like.... connecting with you. He prob thinks u should be grateful to have him cuz, u know... he keeps u hot. He keeps u in the loop--- what would u do without him? He's almost acting like wifey material.
Do u guys have regular conversations like where it's give and take? moments of laughing? etc? like regular convos with friends.. talking and just bullshitting? Or is it more him talking at u the entire time? telling u what u should and should not be doing?