Who was/is it hardest for you to come out to?

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    Mar 03, 2014 9:18 PM GMT
    For those of you who are out, or thinking about coming out, who were you most afraid to tell? Mom? Dad? Maybe a certain sibling or friend?

    I always thought it would be harder to tell my Dad, but he seemed pretty understanding (even though he still doesn't really believe it :rollicon_smile.gif.

    The only people who I've spoken with about my sexuality are my 2 parents and my 2 closest friends. I still haven't completely figured out if I'm gay or bi, but whenever I do come to the conclusion I'm kind of worried about telling one of my brothers. I have 2 younger brothers, 20 and 17. We're pretty sure my 17 year old brother is gay, so I don't think my other brother will be too happy to find out I am as well.

    I also have a couple other friends who I'd be nervous coming out to. icon_sad.gif Even though they both have gay siblings, but I just don't know how they'd react to me being gay since I don't really think they suspect it.
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    Mar 03, 2014 9:35 PM GMT
    My mother, she literally fell to her knees when I told her. She was okay after she realized it wasn't the end of the world, but it wasn't easy saying it in the first place. I haven't told anyone else, but I really don't care to do so.
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    Mar 03, 2014 9:57 PM GMT
    No one, I didnt really "came out", I just showed up with my boyfriend. Then I just answered everyone's questions.
    What I can say is the hardest group to deal with was at work because I work in a very hetero field but Im proud to say I handled that alright and Im glad they know and I didn't have to make up excuses or any kind of bullshit.
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    Mar 03, 2014 10:12 PM GMT
    My oldest brother still doesn't know, I told the rest of my family years ago
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    Mar 03, 2014 10:31 PM GMT
    best friend. he kinda wandered off slowly the next few months. I didnt have to tell anyone else, i was outed
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    Mar 04, 2014 12:35 AM GMT
    David3000 saidNo one, I didnt really "came out", I just showed up with my boyfriend.Then I just answered everyone's questions.
    What I can say is the hardest group to deal with was at work because I work in a very hetero field but Im proud to say I handled that alright and Im glad they know and I didn't have to make up excuses or any kind of bullshit.


    This is ideally, how I plan on coming out to the rest of my family. I've never been the type to want to make a big deal out of it, but I just felt that my immediate family and the people I am closest with should hear it from me first.
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    Mar 04, 2014 4:40 AM GMT
    David3000 saidNo one, I didnt really "came out", I just showed up with my boyfriend. Then I just answered everyone's questions.
    What I can say is the hardest group to deal with was at work because I work in a very hetero field but Im proud to say I handled that alright and Im glad they know and I didn't have to make up excuses or any kind of bullshit.


    Isn't that also a way to come out? Just a different way. icon_neutral.gif

    I'm still not out, but I can tell many people are suspicious. I got asked directly a few times. icon_mad.gif
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    Mar 04, 2014 4:42 AM GMT
    Oh and to answer the question... I think it'd be hardest to come out to my friends because of religion.

    I believe my family would be accepting and understanding, but I still don't want to yet.
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    Mar 19, 2014 3:52 AM GMT
    Anyone else?
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    Mar 19, 2014 3:54 AM GMT
    Myself. I was in denial so long, it was hard to admit to myself that I liked guys. When I did, everyone else seemed so much easier.
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    Mar 19, 2014 4:02 AM GMT
    My best guy mate because we'd been so close we used to stay at each others houses (parents houses) and we'd share beds all the time and watch films until we fell asleep so I really worried he would have thought I'd been perving in some way. I told him and he told me he kinda already knew and our relationships exactly the same, we still share a bed and chat/watch films/have a few beers etc occasionally and we're still mega close.