It's harder for the gay community?

  • kentstrongtom...

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    Mar 04, 2014 11:26 PM GMT
    I have read an article on Huff Post about midlife crisis and they were saying that in this community, things aren't so dramatic due to the body culture, which implies that many young men are attracted to daddies with beards and/or muscles. Yea, we know that but my questions are: when does this feeling of getting old/older appears, at what age? In which ways were your social life and spirit damaged (i'm not sure if that's the right word but you get it) and how did you manage to bounce back? How can you prevent a midlife crisis? Sorry for my grammar, i'm still learning.
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    Mar 04, 2014 11:36 PM GMT
    I don't agree with that. The "daddy" thing is probably as common as the milf or cougar thing with young straight guys, younger girls with older men, etc.

    Mid-life crises happens to a lot of people be it straight, gay, men, women with an expected life span of 70+ years
  • kentstrongtom...

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    Mar 05, 2014 12:15 AM GMT
    Broseph saidHP is such a tabloid rag... but... I just read the same one hah:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/04/gay-midlife-crisis-_n_4892811.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular
    I forgot to insert the source, tks.
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    Mar 05, 2014 12:19 AM GMT
    Midlife crisis = problems


    Everyone has them at any different times of your life.
  • kentstrongtom...

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    Mar 05, 2014 5:57 PM GMT
    So nobody had been dealing with midlife crisis at one point after a certain age? I'm begining to think that it's only a str8 thing, lol.
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    Mar 05, 2014 6:07 PM GMT
    read some place statistically there is no such thing as a mid life crisis. I never felt it.

    The man at 40+y might be a looser tho if;
    -no professional accomplishments
    -no husband (in a SS marriage environment)
  • MikeW

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    Mar 05, 2014 6:18 PM GMT
    Sorry, but your OP question is a little confusing. It may be your language skills or it may be how you're thinking about what a "midlife crisis" is. I don't know. I also haven't read the article. A link would have helped.

    I first knew I was "getting older" at 25. I noticed college students began to look like 'kids' or teenagers to me. Just a few years earlier I'd been one of them. It didn't bother me much one way or another.

    "Midlife crisis" is a phrase people use to describe a period when an adult, in the middle of their life, feels insecure or unsure of themselves.

    It really isn't any different than feeling that way when you're younger or older.

    Usually it is just a feeling of insecurity or self-doubt
    --wondering if you've made the right decisions in life
    --wondering if your life would have been better if you'd made other choices
    --realizing you're not getting any younger and many of the things you hoped you would have accomplished seem to be getting further away
    --and so on.

    Most everyone has those kinds of feelings at one time or another in their lives, usually many times over, and ultimately it is just a form of self-absorption and self-indulgence and is really no big deal.
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 05, 2014 9:33 PM GMT
    Anyone who feels they are failing to achieve the goals they set for themselves will go into crisis mode. It can happen at any age. It can be over career dissatisfaction, or an unhappy relationship, or lack of relationship. I think it comes from a fear of dying without ever fully living.
  • kentstrongtom...

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    Mar 05, 2014 10:57 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidAnyone who feels they are failing to achieve the goals they set for themselves will go into crisis mode. It can happen at any age. It can be over career dissatisfaction, or an unhappy relationship, or lack of relationship. I think it comes from a fear of dying without ever fully living.
    I think your last phrase answered to all my questions.