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  • beaujangle

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    Dec 23, 2008 9:51 AM GMT
    How do you feel about people who expect you to foot the bill?

    I'm annoyed with a particular ethnic race that seems to be doing that to me since people from western societies are 'supposed to be weathier'.

    I feel pissed!
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    Dec 23, 2008 11:25 AM GMT
    beaujangle said
    I'm annoyed with a particular ethnic race that seems to be doing that to me since people from western societies are 'supposed to be weathier'.


    Well, are you rich? Better question, can you buy me sushi?
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    Dec 23, 2008 11:47 AM GMT
    And a plane ticket for me, s'il te plait.
  • beaujangle

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    Dec 23, 2008 4:05 PM GMT
    problem is that i'm not rich!!!!
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    Dec 23, 2008 4:10 PM GMT
    Well, stay home then.
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    Dec 23, 2008 4:18 PM GMT
    beaujangle saidHow do you feel about people who expect you to foot the bill?

    I'm annoyed with a particular ethnic race that seems to be doing that to me since people from western societies are 'supposed to be weathier'.

    I feel pissed!


    Dude, c'mon, this is a thread bomb if I've ever seen one. You leave the "particular ethnic race" up to interpretation, which could invite angry responses from just about every race.

    You don't give specifics, it just "seems to" be "done to you" (implies malice).

    And you self-identify as mixed race yourself - which in MY interpretation would mean you would be more sensitive to sweeping behavioral generalizations based on broad racial classifications.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Dec 23, 2008 4:23 PM GMT
    You only have yourself to blame if you allow yourself to be taken advantage of. When the bill comes, simply say to your friends "Should we just split this?" and don't let the server take away the check until everyone has chipped in.
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    Dec 23, 2008 4:31 PM GMT
    zzzzzz













    ....yawn
  • Rookz

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    Dec 23, 2008 4:33 PM GMT
    How about before you guys go eat, have a conversation about where to eat and how the bill should be taken care of. You'd be doing yourself, and that particular ethnic race (which shows your not a nice person by even stating that), a favor.
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    Dec 23, 2008 4:40 PM GMT
    If it upset you that much, you should have mentioned so. Otherwise, you're setting yourself up to thinking why do I let them...
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    Dec 23, 2008 4:44 PM GMT
    I agree about mentioning whose paying upfront.

    Beyond that, be as generous as you can be. I have never regretted buying someone a meal. This is about the simplest kindness one person can give another.

    Terry