Mar 09, 2014 8:04 AM GMT
Hi guys,
I need some advice to improve my knowledge on STDs. I am going to be direct to you in this post, hopefully you won't judge me for being paranoid, or revealing irrelevant stuff.
Here is the thing: Today, I had my first sex with some random guy that I met on Grindr. I know it is not the best way of having sex, but I am 27 and I was still a virgin. I wanted to change this. Overall, everything went well, . Of course, I was cautious for not getting an STD, so I used condoms during the intercourse.
But now, I came home and I started being paranoid about what happened with this guy that I picked randomly. To be more specific, during the intercourse, we had some oral play without condoms at the beginning, and he shitted on me (which sounds disgusting now) when I started getting into him (I was wearing a condom during this). I am only writing these to let you know the level of intercourse, so that you can understand the situation.
Now here are my questions:
(1) How safe was this intercourse? I know this guy is just random, and this is a risk factor on its own, but using condoms and all that, did I still do something wrong?
(2) Should I be worried about getting an STD now? Do I need to get tested immediately? Would it be too paranoid to do such a thing?
(3) If there is no point in being paranoid now, what are the symptoms that should alert me?
When I read the articles online, I get the impression that there is no such thing called safe sex. They are too cautious that, they only feed my paranoia. But when I think about amount of sex going on in the world, what I did cannot be that wrong, can it?
I guess since this was my first time, I am freaking out and feeling like I did something wrong. Doing this with a random guy wasn't the best choice, and I know that, but I was pretty stuck with this virginity thing that I wanted to pass this barrier, and had nobody that I know who I can approach for this.
I am open to all the advice that you can give, but please don't judge.
Thank you all for reading and comments...
I need some advice to improve my knowledge on STDs. I am going to be direct to you in this post, hopefully you won't judge me for being paranoid, or revealing irrelevant stuff.
Here is the thing: Today, I had my first sex with some random guy that I met on Grindr. I know it is not the best way of having sex, but I am 27 and I was still a virgin. I wanted to change this. Overall, everything went well, . Of course, I was cautious for not getting an STD, so I used condoms during the intercourse.
But now, I came home and I started being paranoid about what happened with this guy that I picked randomly. To be more specific, during the intercourse, we had some oral play without condoms at the beginning, and he shitted on me (which sounds disgusting now) when I started getting into him (I was wearing a condom during this). I am only writing these to let you know the level of intercourse, so that you can understand the situation.
Now here are my questions:
(1) How safe was this intercourse? I know this guy is just random, and this is a risk factor on its own, but using condoms and all that, did I still do something wrong?
(2) Should I be worried about getting an STD now? Do I need to get tested immediately? Would it be too paranoid to do such a thing?
(3) If there is no point in being paranoid now, what are the symptoms that should alert me?
When I read the articles online, I get the impression that there is no such thing called safe sex. They are too cautious that, they only feed my paranoia. But when I think about amount of sex going on in the world, what I did cannot be that wrong, can it?
I guess since this was my first time, I am freaking out and feeling like I did something wrong. Doing this with a random guy wasn't the best choice, and I know that, but I was pretty stuck with this virginity thing that I wanted to pass this barrier, and had nobody that I know who I can approach for this.
I am open to all the advice that you can give, but please don't judge.
Thank you all for reading and comments...