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    Mar 09, 2014 1:48 PM GMT
    Are they "necessary" in order to gain experience (as in, it's generally necessary to hookup like knowing how to pay a bill or how to become self-efficient in the real world)? I have some sexual experience but I've never hooked up with anyone, though I now feel the need to do so. However, I never knew how to initiate it, but I've grown weary of my lack of experience and would like to make some sort of change (though changes have been made lately).
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    Mar 09, 2014 2:43 PM GMT
    Junny saidAre they "necessary" in order to gain experience (as in, it's generally necessary to hookup like knowing how to pay a bill or how to become self-efficient in the real world)? I have some sexual experience but I've never hooked up with anyone, though I now feel the need to do so. However, I never knew how to initiate it, but I've grown weary of my lack of experience and would like to make some sort of change (though changes have been made lately).


    No it is not necessary. Why do you feel you need to? Pressure?
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    Mar 09, 2014 3:07 PM GMT
    AlanZSky said
    Junny saidAre they "necessary" in order to gain experience (as in, it's generally necessary to hookup like knowing how to pay a bill or how to become self-efficient in the real world)? I have some sexual experience but I've never hooked up with anyone, though I now feel the need to do so. However, I never knew how to initiate it, but I've grown weary of my lack of experience and would like to make some sort of change (though changes have been made lately).


    No it is not necessary. Why do you feel you need to? Pressure?


    Not pressure, but just me comparing myself to other people (my more experienced friends to be exact), and that if I was more experienced, then maybe I'd be more appealing. However, at the same time, if I wasn't so concerned about this, then I would appeared to be more attractive. It's a mixture of boredom, frustration, and insecurity.
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    Mar 09, 2014 3:17 PM GMT
    It's really easy to find a hookup online. You could just try it once with someone you find attractive and safe, and see if you like it. If you're looking to expand your sexual horizons and gain experience, it may help.

    Obviously some like to hookup, and others detest it.
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    Mar 09, 2014 3:38 PM GMT
    "if I was more experienced, then maybe I'd be more appealing"

    Really? Why? Experienced does not necessarily mean more appealing. Do you want to commit to a relationship?
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    Mar 09, 2014 4:28 PM GMT
    AlanZSky said"if I was more experienced, then maybe I'd be more appealing"

    Really? Why? Experienced does not necessarily mean more appealing. Do you want to commit to a relationship?


    Yes I do, but I figured that it would be a pain for some to date someone who was inexperienced, or that they wouldn't want to date someone because they're inexperienced.

    MCB_ saidIt's really easy to find a hookup online. You could just try it once with someone you find attractive and safe, and see if you like it. If you're looking to expand your sexual horizons and gain experience, it may help.

    Obviously some like to hookup, and others detest it.


    But what if I wanted to meet someone in person?
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    Mar 09, 2014 4:31 PM GMT
    u should hook up cuz u wanna get off and u wanna fuck....not cuz u wanna "gain experience" in the field....like it's some sort of job you're interviewing for.

    u should wanna hook up cuz ur so fuckin horny u need a warm hole to put that dick in and pound away and just fuck the living hell outta someone.
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    Mar 09, 2014 4:45 PM GMT
    Just say you are inexperienced. I am sure the master will teach the student. They are more than willing to teach. Be safe, bro.
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    Mar 09, 2014 5:06 PM GMT
    Import saidu should hook up cuz u wanna get off and u wanna fuck....not cuz u wanna "gain experience" in the field....like it's some sort of job you're interviewing for.

    u should wanna hook up cuz ur so fuckin horny u need a warm hole to put that dick in and pound away and just fuck the living hell outta someone.


    To be honest...that's what I kinda feel like doing.

    AlanZSky saidJust say you are inexperienced. I am sure the master will teach the student. They are more than willing to teach. Be safe, bro.


    I will. Thank you for the advice.
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    Mar 09, 2014 5:45 PM GMT
    It's a 2 edged sword. Hookups with guys that you find attractive can give you insight into what you enjoy sexually and what you eventually would want or desire in a partner. Experience in anything helps you better understand and appreciate what you're good at or enjoy, as well as what you can offer the other person. The other side is the stigma with hooking up outside of a relationship. It's often viewed as trashy and whorey.

    The same could be accomplished by dating but experiencing a variety of sexually related activities would be more limited and certainly slower as you dated over a period of time. Dating is also seen as more dignified. With dating there's also an expectation of deciding if the person is the 'right' one or not, whereas hookups are generally just for immediate one time pleasure. If dating and decide you enjoy someone enough to continue then you may not be able to experience fantasies sexually if the person doesn't share that desire. Discussing sexual desires, likes, dislikes is very important in this approach, in my opinion.

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    Mar 09, 2014 6:05 PM GMT
    It's a tough one. My first and only relationship ended after 6 months for the most part due go my complete lack of any prior experience. I nearly came to the hook ups conclusion too but then I figured why not wait and meet and date a really decent person because then even if you're not experienced they won't mind.
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    Mar 09, 2014 6:11 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidIt's a 2 edged sword. Hookups with guys that you find attractive can give you insight into what you enjoy sexually and what you eventually would want or desire in a partner. Experience in anything helps you better understand and appreciate what you're good at or enjoy, as well as what you can offer the other person. The other side is the stigma with hooking up outside of a relationship. It's often viewed as trashy and whorey.

    The same could be accomplished by dating but experiencing a variety of sexually related activities would be more limited and certainly slower as you dated over a period of time. Dating is also seen as more dignified. With dating there's also an expectation of deciding if the person is the 'right' one or not, whereas hookups are generally just for immediate one time pleasure. If dating and decide you enjoy someone enough to continue then you may not be able to experience fantasies sexually if the person doesn't share that desire. Discussing sexual desires, likes, dislikes is very important in this approach, in my opinion.



    ^^Seriously? That's the only drawback you can think of? Other people's judging eyes lol? Not the diseases, the denigrating of self-esteem, or the trust issues that develop - (over a series of sexual liasons where the only thing one can trust about the other person is that they only care about their own pleasure) - that endangers legit relationships in the future?
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    Mar 10, 2014 5:53 AM GMT
    theonewhoknocks said^^Seriously? That's the only drawback you can think of? Other people's judging eyes lol? Not the diseases, the denigrating of self-esteem, or the trust issues that develop - (over a series of sexual liasons where the only thing one can trust about the other person is that they only care about their own pleasure) - that endangers legit relationships in the future?

    You know, you're wisdom at 24 is amazing! You're just so wise and knowing. I guess your experience allows you to have a much better understanding than most others. Thanks for sharing your wisdom, perhaps now you could share your picture and get verified.