Why I've Given Up on Hooking Up

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    Mar 11, 2014 12:59 AM GMT
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lester-brathwaite/adventures-in-sex-and-sel_b_4921467.html



    My thoughts exactly, only really well written.
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    Mar 11, 2014 8:44 AM GMT
    I am not a big fan of random hooking-up either. But I didn't know people get themselves involve emotionally so much while interacting on such apps. I don't think it's worth it. I do login religiously to all the apps(2 in total), but just to kill my time when I am bored. I don't keep looking actively for my weekend fuckbud.
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    Mar 11, 2014 9:07 AM GMT
    The writer sounds like a crackpot.
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    Mar 11, 2014 4:06 PM GMT
    morphic saidI am not a big fan of random hooking-up either. But I didn't know people get themselves involve emotionally so much while interacting on such apps. I don't think it's worth it. I do login religiously to all the apps(2 in total), but just to kill my time when I am bored. I don't keep looking actively for my weekend fuckbud.


    Oh, I windowshop all the time on some sites, you are not alone
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    Mar 11, 2014 4:53 PM GMT
    killercliche saidThe writer sounds like a crackpot.

    I think he just sounds lonely, horny, and wildly insecure. That makes him like, oh, 88% of all gay men.
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    Mar 11, 2014 5:05 PM GMT
    killercliche saidThe writer sounds like a crackpot.


    we assume the writer just pours his sole out to us while we are reading his words. Likely tho; its a contract article that the publisher bought paid for.
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    Mar 11, 2014 5:20 PM GMT
    Sadly this is all too familiar and I especially see it here in Sydney with the whole you can't dump me coz I'm already over you and onto the next big thing. Not all are like that but a sizeable portion do. The fascination of being the perfect body lover and a real man is too much for some guys no wonder we have a high rate of mental health and addictions issues in and Unfortunately our own media even our attitudes make even those who come close to the mark as defined by porn and feel they are not worthy as a gay man. I hope things will change, chances are not likely anytime soon. Hey but look on the bright side . For me I'll keep having fun and see if anyone decent comes along that that isn't desperate, attached or only out for a short fling and thinks a relationship can flourish when it's open from the start. Guess that makes me just like the rest of you all
  • rnch

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    Mar 11, 2014 5:42 PM GMT
    The older (and hopefully more mature) I become; the less "hooking up" appeals to me.



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  • Import

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    Mar 11, 2014 5:51 PM GMT
    I love how when one opens grind on their phone like 4 ads come up advertising plastic surgery, getting a rounder booty, flatter abs, whiter teeth, thus reinforcing that idea of being perfect.....and of course sexy. One must always be sexy. No matter what.
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    Mar 11, 2014 5:58 PM GMT
    Import saidI love how when one opens grind on their phone like 4 ads come up advertising plastic surgery, getting a rounder booty, flatter abs, whiter teeth, thus reinforcing that idea of being perfect.....and of course sexy. One must always be sexy. No matter what.


    You're a fine one to talk, YOU STOOD THAT GUY UP IN THE OTHER THREAD !!!!!!!!!!!!! asshole !!!!!!!!

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3724450/
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    Mar 11, 2014 5:58 PM GMT
    Kataka said
    Import saidI love how when one opens grind on their phone like 4 ads come up advertising plastic surgery, getting a rounder booty, flatter abs, whiter teeth, thus reinforcing that idea of being perfect.....and of course sexy. One must always be sexy. No matter what.


    You're a fine one to talk, YOU STOOD THAT GUY UP IN THE OTHER THREAD !!!!!!!!!!!!! asshole !!!!!!!!

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3724450/


    lol, ok.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 11, 2014 8:29 PM GMT
    One very good reason not to hookup

    http://www.thegailygrind.com/2013/09/24/gay-man-savagely-beaten-hookup-app-encounter-video/

    Gay Man Savagely Beaten During Hookup App Encounter (Video)

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    Mar 11, 2014 10:29 PM GMT
    paz_daddy saidman, trill talk


    lol, who still says trill? That's so like 2004, bro. icon_rolleyes.gif

    trillville hoe. like when lil scrappy was popular.
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    Mar 12, 2014 12:20 AM GMT
    Looking for too much out of a hookup is a bad mistake, if you are hooking up, your mindset shouldn't expect more than. Sure, it's possible that a connection could be made through a hookup, but that's not always the case.

    And most of the time if you want to find something good, you have to refrain from putting out too quickly.
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    Mar 12, 2014 12:31 AM GMT
    Very insightful and I agree with what you said.
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    Mar 12, 2014 1:13 AM GMT
    "Insightful"?
    "Valid"?
    Sure, and could have been written by any 25 year old, Male or Female.
    I am not sure as I couldn't find the authors age, but it was written as if he's been doing this for a long time: "before internet".
    That being the case, it's just sad, more that he perpetuated it than just participated, because I'm sure he's not that unintelligent, just as I'm sure he never shot anyone else down because they didn't have abdominal to hard to nuzzle into.