The word 'LOVE' in a relationship

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    Mar 11, 2014 5:12 PM GMT
    So I and my bf have been together for 5 months. We are both in our early 20s. We have never said the word 'love' to each other because both of us think it is such a big term that needs to wait for the right moment (we usually use 'like' or 'really like' 'you're mine' to express our intimacy). But recently, when we hang out with friends, he usually refers me as his 'other half.' I feel so loved. But do you guys think 'my other half' is even a bigger term than 'love'?
    Is it the right time to say that L word yet? Our relationship is strange to me, because it does not depend on sex at all, we had j/o session like 3 times since we started dating. I don't care and actually I'm happy since we are pretty much in love. But it's strange because I knew when I first met him I noticed he had very strong sex drive, he came on very strong on me and was not reluctant to send dick pics during our first chat. He called it his slutty phase but do you guys think a relationship can change a person that much in a short period of time?
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    Mar 13, 2014 4:26 AM GMT
    It's strictly up to you guys - your love is however the both of you define it.

    I think it's adorable that he refers to you as his 'other half'.

    To your last question - yes and no. When I'm single, I do all sorts of things; I have the freedom of being as sexual or asexual as I want. When I'm in a relationship, I'm not sex-focused and I am content with the sexual relationship I have with my partner - doesn't mean that I still dont get horny or that I've "changed". My behavior depends on the circumstances and the obligations that I've chosen.

    Are you saying that he doesn't have a sex drive with you and that you're worried about something, or that you guys have a healthy sex-life that your relationship is not centered on and you find that strange?
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    Mar 13, 2014 1:47 PM GMT
    5 months is fine for your first 'i wuv u' earlier than that is a lil bit high school, its up to you if it feels right!
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    Mar 13, 2014 1:58 PM GMT
    Rolfron saidIt's strictly up to you guys - your love is however the both of you define it.

    I think it's adorable that he refers to you as his 'other half'.

    ^^^^
    This

    Everyone interprets the "L" word different (as my timid ex-BF called it). Some view it rather casually, while others (my ex) view it like making a lifelong commitment.

    Try to find out your BF's view. But when you think it's safe to use the word, I would. Because love is what I think you have.
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    Mar 13, 2014 2:06 PM GMT
    jocktrainee said
    He called it his slutty phase but do you guys think a relationship can change a person that much in a short period of time?

    No, a person doesn't change that much in a short period of time. What you may be observing are different aspects of the same guy, aspects that were there all along. Meaning that it could be genuine.

    I'm very much like your BF, if I understand this correctly. Very slutty when I'm single and on the hunt, but suddenly chaste & monogamous when I find a guy I like. It's like a switch gets thrown, I've never been able to explain it. I settle down with just 1 guy overnight. It was really what I wanted all along, the sluttiness was merely to have fun and throw a wide net in trying to find a guy that was right was me.

    So maybe he has this same switch, this same approach. If so, I'd consider you very lucky, and you should continue to see where this goes.