Wow! 5 years later How long have you been here?

  • Danskerb

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    Mar 11, 2014 10:06 PM GMT
    I just noticed that I have been posting in RJ since 2009.

    The odd thing is, I don't think I really know anyone that well on here.

    Is there a tight community of people here?
    Is there a bigger community of people who have been posting a little bit here and there for a long time (like me).

    I feel like I used Chat rooms and forums when I was in the closet to talk to people who were similar to me. Maybe because I have surrounded myself with caring and accepting people who know who I really am, I don't have the need to be in Chat rooms all the time.
    I do enjoy reading the gay news/news that goes on through here though.

    -Ben
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    Mar 11, 2014 10:15 PM GMT
    November 20th 2010

    4 years


    I was just myself from the beginning to the end. I have a few people here I can call a friend and others who wont like me because of what I assume is my personality. Doesn't matter to me anymore I have friends, haters, wannabes, the whole nine but I have enjoyed my time here. I didn't know what to expect when I joined here but its been cool
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    Mar 11, 2014 10:19 PM GMT
    bxp011 saidI just noticed that I have been posting in RJ since 2009.

    Just out of curiosity/nosiness, what were you doing in 2012? It looks like you have no posts for that year.
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    Mar 11, 2014 10:37 PM GMT
    realjock is the only remaining n american gay forum.
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    Mar 11, 2014 10:50 PM GMT
    I've been here since 2007, so almost seven years.
    There are many different groups of friends here. If you're not part of one, it may be because you don't make the effort to get to know anyone very well.
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    Mar 12, 2014 12:51 AM GMT
    Been here since July 2007. I don't have the double digit posts as I'm not on here a lot, but I do participate in some of the forums. I have a lot of RJ friends and even met my partner on here. Like others have said, you get out of it what you put into it.
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    Mar 12, 2014 2:19 AM GMT
    I usually don't socialize at gay venues like clubs or bars. After joining this site, I've met more guys here than I have in my own city.

    I've met in person around 20+ guys from a few meetups over the years. And I'm friendly with a lot of other guys on the forums.

    Personally, I didn't like the chat rooms much.
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    Mar 12, 2014 2:38 AM GMT
    Almost a whole year (though this is my 2nd account)

    And maybe you dont have many friends because you never post. Really 200 posts in 5 years?! Thats like sitting mute in the end of the class room for 5 years and expect to be the prom king.
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    Mar 12, 2014 6:42 AM GMT
    joined in 07, I've come and gone a few times and now I just can't be bothered coming or going I just post here when I'm bored.
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    Mar 12, 2014 6:46 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidjoined in 07, I've come and gone a few times and now I just can't be bothered coming or going I just post here when I'm bored.

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  • Danskerb

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    Mar 12, 2014 7:01 AM GMT
    David3000 saidAlmost a whole year (though this is my 2nd account)

    And maybe you dont have many friends because you never post. Really 200 posts in 5 years?! Thats like sitting mute in the end of the class room for 5 years and expect to be the prom king.


    Makes sense. I was a bigger fan of the chat rooms before.


    I think my issue could also be that this past year I've been only on my iPhone. It doesn't exactly work great with this website.


  • Danskerb

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    Mar 12, 2014 7:06 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal said
    bxp011 saidI just noticed that I have been posting in RJ since 2009.

    Just out of curiosity/nosiness, what were you doing in 2012? It looks like you have no posts for that year.




    I was working in Denmark and trying to learn danish. Taking a few online courses for my degree. Serving in a restaurant. Then I went travelling around the world. Through Central Asia, Singapore, Australia, tonga, Hawaii. Then it was back to classes in Winnipeg and when I started really spending time in the gym. I had a nice little holiday to Cuba in December that year.
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    Mar 12, 2014 4:04 PM GMT
    Early 2007 here. Been a good ride. Love the site and the friends I've made here. No other site like this for gays.
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    Mar 12, 2014 4:37 PM GMT
    October of 2010 , and have fancied those forums since.icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 12, 2014 4:39 PM GMT
    A little over 2 years! I love this place.
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    Mar 12, 2014 5:17 PM GMT
    I've been here over a year. Friends are hard to make no matter how nice you are but it's been a great education.

  • Mar 12, 2014 5:49 PM GMT
    bxp011 saidI just noticed that I have been posting in RJ since 2009.

    The odd thing is, I don't think I really know anyone that well on here.

    Is there a tight community of people here?
    Is there a bigger community of people who have been posting a little bit here and there for a long time (like me).

    I feel like I used Chat rooms and forums when I was in the closet to talk to people who were similar to me. Maybe because I have surrounded myself with caring and accepting people who know who I really am, I don't have the need to be in Chat rooms all the time.
    I do enjoy reading the gay news/news that goes on through here though.

    -Ben


    Hey Ben,
    You're not alone. I've been on here for a while, but for me it began with AOL in 1996. Even though I came out at 15, I never felt comfortable at the bars, or gay groups, or coffee shops or other gay real-life events, because there were so many rude, judgmental, overly dressed and basically unpleasant guys there. However, the one thing they had in common with me is that they were gay and out in public. But that's where it ended. Online, you have to remember that (I'm guessing here) about 60% of these guys are either not out at all, married/engaged/involved with women, or have come out but saw how badly the gay community treated them that they gave up trying to socialize with gay guys ever again, and a conversation on here is as good as it gets. All this feelgood crap about gay marriage yet most of us don't even know where, how or when to approach another gay guy to get to know better.

    Our problem, as I've mentioned before, is that we make up such a small percentage of the male population. And we forget that, yes, while there may be a lot of gay people in certain cities, there has to be more than just 'gay' to make a relationship or friendship work between two men. When you factor in location, mutual attraction/interests, age, sexual preferences, style, you could be waiting 20 years before you meet someone. And I think that's why most of what develops on here doesn't last. We say too much about what we're looking for and the 'right guy' just presents himself as that to you, and within about 3-6 months you realize he's not who he says he is. It's really frustrating.

    And no, things have not gotten better since 1996. We are still anonymous, closeted men are still marrying women with no intentions whatsoever of coming out, and the only thing that's noticeably different is that gay guys don't cruise adult bookstores or bars anymore since the internet has captured the majority of that audience.
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    Mar 12, 2014 5:52 PM GMT
    5-1/2
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    Mar 12, 2014 6:09 PM GMT
    toronto647 said
    bxp011 saidI just noticed that I have been posting in RJ since 2009.

    The odd thing is, I don't think I really know anyone that well on here.

    Is there a tight community of people here?
    Is there a bigger community of people who have been posting a little bit here and there for a long time (like me).

    I feel like I used Chat rooms and forums when I was in the closet to talk to people who were similar to me. Maybe because I have surrounded myself with caring and accepting people who know who I really am, I don't have the need to be in Chat rooms all the time.
    I do enjoy reading the gay news/news that goes on through here though.

    -Ben


    Hey Ben,
    You're not alone. I've been on here for a while, but for me it began with AOL in 1996. Even though I came out at 15, I never felt comfortable at the bars, or gay groups, or coffee shops or other gay real-life events, because there were so many rude, judgmental, overly dressed and basically unpleasant guys there. However, the one thing they had in common with me is that they were gay and out in public. But that's where it ended. Online, you have to remember that (I'm guessing here) about 60% of these guys are either not out at all, married/engaged/involved with women, or have come out but saw how badly the gay community treated them that they gave up trying to socialize with gay guys ever again, and a conversation on here is as good as it gets. All this feelgood crap about gay marriage yet most of us don't even know where, how or when to approach another gay guy to get to know better.

    Our problem, as I've mentioned before, is that we make up such a small percentage of the male population. And we forget that, yes, while there may be a lot of gay people in certain cities, there has to be more than just 'gay' to make a relationship or friendship work between two men. When you factor in location, mutual attraction/interests, age, sexual preferences, style, you could be waiting 20 years before you meet someone. And I think that's why most of what develops on here doesn't last. We say too much about what we're looking for and the 'right guy' just presents himself as that to you, and within about 3-6 months you realize he's not who he says he is. It's really frustrating.

    And no, things have not gotten better since 1996. We are still anonymous, closeted men are still marrying women with no intentions whatsoever of coming out, and the only thing that's noticeably different is that gay guys don't cruise adult bookstores or bars anymore since the internet has captured the majority of that audience.

    Really? You got all that out of Ben's post and think that is what he was trying to say?
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    Mar 12, 2014 6:11 PM GMT

    2007 lol, but profile clock says 2008 (it's wrong).
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    Mar 13, 2014 2:17 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    2007 lol, but profile clock says 2008 (it's wrong).

    Ah...we believe you...let's just make it easy and round it up to, oh, a life time! Close enough. icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 13, 2014 2:22 AM GMT
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    meninlove said
    2007 lol, but profile clock says 2008 (it's wrong).

    Ah...we believe you...let's just make it easy and round it up to, oh, a life time! Close enough. icon_lol.gif


    ...sometimes it feels like it an...hey waitaminnit.

    *beams sweetly* Eb, did you know that if you lick a metal lamp post when it's 30 below outside wishes are granted? Try it! icon_lol.gif
  • Webster666

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    Mar 13, 2014 2:56 AM GMT
    I've been a member since 02/28/2009.
    I like web sites with forums, where I can shoot off my big mouth. LOL.
    I like giving my opinion, and giving advice.
    RJ doesn't seem to be a very close knit community.

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    Mar 13, 2014 5:13 AM GMT
    I discovered the site long before I joined, but finally did June of 2007. I was part of the chat crowd back then and really had never seen or heard of forums. Back then it was an us versus them kind of thing. Very, very few guys chat guys as well as forum posters. Chat them got a bit nasty in attitude for me so I bailed and went to the forums. There really was healthy debate amongst us back them and also I was seemed to fall as chat vs forum seemed to have more and more guys that participated in both.

    Over the years, the dynamic has gotten expansive. Just my opinion, but the attitudes got nastier and nastier over the year. I was drawn into some pretty heat battles. I never deleted my account, but there are folks who know me that know I don't post nearly as much as I use to do so. And for a couple of years, I was basically a lurker.

    The site has always been and will always be a workout informational site for me first and foremost. But that does not negate some of the coolest guys I would never have met if not for this site. A good many are Facebook pals and a few of us have met in person and become good pals.

    All things change, but I hope Real Jock doesn't lose it's originality and heart.
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    Mar 13, 2014 5:23 AM GMT
    It's not always a chill spot.
    Like a cream puff packed with
    drama and way to serious opinions.
    Life rolls on all is well. I am better
    today than when I joined! I hope your all


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