Have you ever had a crush on a co-worker?

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    Mar 12, 2014 2:30 AM GMT
    If so, what did you do? Did you tell him? Did he want to date you or did he turned you down? Did it get weird afterwards? Did you changed jobs?

    Or did you stayed quiet not wanting to risk the relationship?
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    Mar 12, 2014 10:06 AM GMT
    Basic rule of thumb-don't shit where you eat. Straight, gay, bi, whatever.
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    Mar 12, 2014 12:54 PM GMT
    Yes, I have, but I keep it at that. Would never express something like that and jeopardize life and job. The interesting, the guy is a real homophobe, but he is handsome.
  • dbart93

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    Mar 12, 2014 2:36 PM GMT
    I do but I am trying to ignore it. Not worth messing up my friendship with him if he has no feelings about me in that way.
  • chadwick1985

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    Mar 12, 2014 2:44 PM GMT
    Yes I did. Became roommates with him too. That was a bad idea lol. Never told him, he knew I am gay and probably knew I would drop to my knees and blow him anytime he wanted but never happened lol.
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    Mar 12, 2014 4:47 PM GMT
    I had a terrible situation with a coworker. I'm married and was looking to meet someone online, and responded to a personal ad. The guy responded favorably to me and I chickened out. About 2 months later I ended up getting a job at his place of work, and he clearly didn't remember talking to me online (didn't know who I was). He was also married and super "hetero" in the way he presented himself, so when I kind of not-very-subtly dropped hints about who I was he just totally cold-shouldered me the entire time we worked together. He acted *terrified* of me at times. (I acted the same way, really.)

    I should have handled the whole thing differently. I think he was worried I would out him, or maybe he thought I wasn't interested since we hadn't met up when I responded to his ad in the first place. I don't really know, but it made my employment situation total hell for about a year and a half before I moved away.

    So... my situation was different from most, but I'd say you're pretty much guaranteed to run into some kind of awkwardness and unpleasantness if you hook up with someone at work. I had a coworker at the same place whose life was a living hell because she had been dating a guy there and it ended really badly.
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    Mar 12, 2014 5:02 PM GMT
    Yup, but the weird thing with this is we both are flirty but we're friends, so it's nice. I probably won't pursue anything romantically due to him being a manager but he's also transferring stores. But I'm sure we'll stay in touch. I also have a mild one on a new hire but same thing will probably happen were I just befriend him and nothing more. (I kind of seem slutty but I don't mean to be.)

    Funny story my old assistant manager from my old store had a crush on me, but I wasnt interested in him romantically. Though he decided to be awkward after he transferred, like I am all for being professional and friends with pretty much anyone but I hate when things turn awkward because I pick up on it really quick.
  • secret_ass1

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    Mar 12, 2014 5:07 PM GMT
    i had a crush on my boss. i was lucky he was staying by himself, after finishing the work we used fill each other uo.
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    Mar 12, 2014 6:49 PM GMT
    hoosier_daddy saidBasic rule of thumb-don't shit where you eat. Straight, gay, bi, whatever.


    Agreed, but fantasies are nice though
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    Mar 12, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    Yes. I didn't do anything, but I still look back on it with horror. To join a dating site and realise you have a ton of other options is a great thing.
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    Mar 12, 2014 9:03 PM GMT
    hoosier_daddy saidBasic rule of thumb-don't shit where you eat. Straight, gay, bi, whatever.
    But eating on the toilet saves so much time!
  • Syphon

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    Mar 12, 2014 9:58 PM GMT
    Yep, went horribly wrong though.

    I figured it would be inappropriate as his boss to make a move at work, so I decided to keep it to myself and not stir any shit. Then one day I saw him on grindr, so I sent him a message so that he knew we were on the same team, and it was a completely innocent "hey, it's me from work" kinda deal.

    Well that was a horrible mistake, he blocked the shit outta me and basically ignored my existence for about two months afterwards, wouldn't even give me a second of eye contact, would walk away from me when talking to him, would leave the room when I walked in, etc. He was out at work, and I knew he was gay as soon as I met the guy, so there was no issue there. We worked the same shifts so it was super awks after that until he quit two months ago for unrelated reasons. Meh.

    Moral of the story is: he has major social issues and missed out on something potentially good, and I will NEVER make that mistake ever again. =/
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    Mar 12, 2014 10:19 PM GMT
    Absolutely.

    But I never told them nor did anything about it. Doing so would have created a weird working environment and I see it as a rule of thumb to not date or have sex with your co-workers. I've seen such situations play out before and all of the drama that ensued. I'll pass on the drama.
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    Mar 12, 2014 10:29 PM GMT
    I respectfully refuse to answer so as not to incriminate myself...
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    Mar 12, 2014 10:31 PM GMT
    I will confess to mentally undressing a couple along the way, but really not much more than that.

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    Now if I worked with jonspringon... well, we might give the people watching the security cams something to talk about.
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    Mar 12, 2014 10:41 PM GMT
    Trolliosis said
    hoosier_daddy saidBasic rule of thumb-don't shit where you eat. Straight, gay, bi, whatever.
    But eating on the toilet saves so much time!


    Oh, but that is eating where you shit, so that is perfectly acceptable . . .
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    Mar 12, 2014 10:44 PM GMT
    TheQuest saidI will confess to mentally undressing a couple along the way, but really not much more than that.

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    Now if I worked with jonspringon... well, we might give the people watching the security cams something to talk about.


    It's OK Questy... I know all the nooks that the cameras don't cover...
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    Mar 12, 2014 10:53 PM GMT
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    TheQuest saidI will confess to mentally undressing a couple along the way, but really not much more than that.

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    Now if I worked with jonspringon... well, we might give the people watching the security cams something to talk about.


    It's OK Questy... I know all the nooks that the cameras don't cover...
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    What fun would that be?
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    Mar 12, 2014 11:26 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]TheQuest said[/cite]
    JonSpringon said
    TheQuest saidI will confess to mentally undressing a couple along the way, but really not much more than that.

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    Now if I worked with jonspringon... well, we might give the people watching the security cams something to talk about.


    It's OK Questy... I know all the nooks that the cameras don't cover...
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    What fun would that be?[/quote


    Three way three way lol


    Yes I have and we filled around around a couple of times
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    Mar 12, 2014 11:29 PM GMT
    Yes, wonder what they're up to. Little has come of it though.
  • Crooked_Izan

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    Mar 12, 2014 11:30 PM GMT
    COLORED TEXT GOES HERERESIZED TEXT GOES HEREI was in love with a co-worker and i made the mistake to tell him, he made sure i lost my job.. Never again !RESIZED TEXT GOES HERE
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    Mar 12, 2014 11:43 PM GMT
    Crooked_Izan saidCOLORED TEXT GOES HERERESIZED TEXT GOES HEREI was in love with a co-worker and i made the mistake to tell him, he made sure i lost my job.. Never again !RESIZED TEXT GOES HERE



    icon_biggrin.gif i am new here
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    Mar 13, 2014 1:21 AM GMT
    yep.
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    Mar 13, 2014 1:45 AM GMT
    Very interesting experiences. Thanks guys.
    Last year I told a co-worker/workout buddy/friend that I had feelings for him.

    He told me he only saw me as a good friend and got a boyfriend shortly after. It got weird for a while, but we're back to being friends now.

    I still wish I never told him at all as it made me very depressed. I was pretty sure he had feelings for me, but I guess I was wrong.

    I'm not sure if I'm over him or not, but I did tell him recently that I had moved on just to close that chapte of my life. I still think of what could've been...

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    Mar 13, 2014 1:59 AM GMT
    Yes I have and I got over it quick! Because I realized that a paycheck is more important than a crush.