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  • TYBOY

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    Mar 14, 2014 7:16 PM GMT
    I just moved down to AZ from MT looking for find myself and hopefully find a good guy. I can't stand feminine gay guys. Such a turn off. If you know of any cool, manly young guys. Hit me up!
  • TYBOY

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    Mar 14, 2014 7:18 PM GMT
    then I find myself typing like an idiot! #TypoMistake
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    Mar 14, 2014 7:20 PM GMT
    SUUUUUP
  • tazzari

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    Mar 14, 2014 7:23 PM GMT
    Hope you find what you're looking for, but "can't stand" makes a poor introduction.
  • MikeW

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    Mar 14, 2014 7:35 PM GMT
    ^^^ What he said. All of it.
  • Bunjamon

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    Mar 14, 2014 7:37 PM GMT
    MikeW said^^^ What he said. All of it.


    Ditto.
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    Mar 14, 2014 7:38 PM GMT
    Mama, Yente the matchmaker is coming!

    $2,500, non-refundable, up front. $750 for each date set up.
  • TYBOY

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    Mar 14, 2014 7:41 PM GMT
    I could have re-worded this a little better. I'm just stating I am not attracted to guys who act like girls. Settle down.
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    Mar 14, 2014 7:42 PM GMT
    you can tell when site activity is up to expectations
  • TYBOY

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    Mar 14, 2014 7:53 PM GMT
    What's that suppose to mean? I don't take selfies... I'm sorry I'm unrealistic because I've got pictures with some girls.
  • TYBOY

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    Mar 14, 2014 7:55 PM GMT
    Lol, I'm not shitting on anyone. I will engage myself in a relationship with someone who I find attractive. I don't treat those who I don't find attractive any differently.
  • MikeW

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    Mar 14, 2014 7:58 PM GMT
    TYBOY saidWhat's that suppose to mean? I don't take selfies... I'm sorry I'm unrealistic because I've got pictures with some girls.

    LOL… welcome to RJ… Don't take anything too personally, have a sense of humor and keep your flame retardant handy. Required.
  • Bunjamon

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    Mar 14, 2014 7:59 PM GMT
    TYBOY saidLol, I'm not shitting on anyone. I will engage myself in a relationship with someone who I find attractive. I don't treat those who I don't find attractive any differently.


    In that case, you should reconsider advertising yourself as someone who "can't stand [feminine guys]." That gives the distinct impression that you would indeed treat men that you find "too feminine" (and thus wildly unattractive, it would seem) differently.
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    Mar 14, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    TYBOY saidI just moved down to AZ from MT looking for find myself and hopefully find a good guy. I can't stand feminine gay guys. Such a turn off. If you know of any cool, manly young guys. Hit me up!


    This isn't just a match making site. There are other sites for that. This is a social website foremost, with the men here focusing on health, fitness, and life.

    Life includes friendships. Friendships include trans, bi, masculine, feminine, and everything in between.
    If you want to meet a man here for romance and/or sex, that can happen, too, usually by making friends.

    If you can't stand men you deem effeminate, and some of my friends may fall into your described category, then we can't be friends either as they come before you.
  • TYBOY

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    Mar 14, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    Thanks I guess. I'll take that as a compliment. I don't use tumblr.
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    Mar 14, 2014 8:54 PM GMT
    TYBOY saidI could have re-worded this a little better. I'm just stating I am not attracted to guys who act like girls. Settle down.

    You have to understand. After you've been here a while, you'll see it's okay to say "I can't stand" about many types of gays but it's not okay to say it about feminine men. Hypocracy is rampant.
    That said, it's always better to say who you're looking for instead of saying who you don't like. We have all sorts here, all deserving respect... sort of. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 14, 2014 10:49 PM GMT
    YourName2000 saidA couple of things:

    It's a worldwide site...not really a site of matchmakers looking to pair up n00bz. icon_wink.gif

    And I suggest finding ways to rework your "if I wanted to date a girl..." speech. You think it's a turn-off? Unfortunately for you, I think you'll find more guys find such a callous dismissal of a significant part of the community more of a turn-off than they do 'fem guys'. Of course each of us likes what we like (and I too favour guys that come off more like everyday guys). But when you're dating, negative talk just sounds like you being a negative person rather than articulating what you like. I'm sure you can imagine how odd it would be to go into McDonalds and go "yeah, feed me, but nothing gross --I hate that shit." Right? Normally you just say what you *want* rather than listing what you don't. icon_confused.gif

    Fem guys are often the ones who bore the most shit and abuse getting our community the recognition it has today. The "regular guys" just hid, because they could. So there likely wouldn't be an RJ or a gay community in AZ if it weren't for these guys really putting their necks out there for all of us over the years. Doesn't mean you have to sleep with them, but they deserve the same respect and dignity you'd give anyone. Further, fem guys have masc friends (go figure, lol). You might find having a fem friend opens doors for you in AZ that would be more challenging to open on your own. icon_smile.gif

    Anyway, have fun in your new city. And welcome to RJ.


    WOW, well said. Bravo.
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    Mar 16, 2014 6:54 PM GMT
    If you state very explicitly the kind of person you're attracted to, you don't have to say who you're not attracted to. Stating something positively comes across much better than negatively.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Mar 16, 2014 9:46 PM GMT
    TYBOY saidI could have re-worded this a little better. I'm just stating I am not attracted to guys who act like girls. Settle down.
    I don't blame you my friend. I don't care for guys that act like women neither. Wishing you the best of luck in Arizona. Just be careful because your new hometown of Glendale is unfortunately situated in Maricopa County which has that fascist for county sheriff.
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    Mar 17, 2014 5:27 PM GMT
    TYBOY saidI just moved down to AZ from MT looking for find myself and hopefully find a good guy. I can't stand feminine gay guys. Such a turn off. If you know of any cool, manly young guys. Hit me up!


    Welcome to the forums! I hope everyone has made you feel at home. Everyone here loves honest, open discussion, and no one will ever judge you for phrasing things indelicately.




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    Mar 17, 2014 6:30 PM GMT
    Well said Cartich.
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    Mar 17, 2014 8:46 PM GMT
    YourName2000 saidA couple of things:

    It's a worldwide site...not really a site of matchmakers looking to pair up n00bz. icon_wink.gif

    And I suggest finding ways to rework your "if I wanted to date a girl..." speech. You think it's a turn-off? Unfortunately for you, I think you'll find more guys find such a callous dismissal of a significant part of the community more of a turn-off than they do 'fem guys'. Of course each of us likes what we like (and I too favour guys that come off more like everyday guys). But when you're dating, negative talk just sounds like you being a negative person rather than articulating what you like. I'm sure you can imagine how odd it would be to go into McDonalds and go "yeah, feed me, but nothing gross --I hate that shit." Right? Normally you just say what you *want* rather than listing what you don't. icon_confused.gif

    Fem guys are often the ones who bore the most shit and abuse getting our community the recognition it has today. The "regular guys" just hid, because they could. So there likely wouldn't be an RJ or a gay community in AZ if it weren't for these guys really putting their necks out there for all of us over the years. Doesn't mean you have to sleep with them, but they deserve the same respect and dignity you'd give anyone. Further, fem guys have masc friends (go figure, lol). You might find having a fem friend opens doors for you in AZ that would be more challenging to open on your own. icon_smile.gif

    Anyway, have fun in your new city. And welcome to RJ.

    I just love that new, kindler, gentler RJ. Six months ago this reply would NOT have been the same!

    Very nicely put YN2000. Hopefully he'll read it and really think about what you've said AND go back up to his initial post, click edit and re-phrase what he has expressed so "indelicately".