I have a crush on this guy

  • Nearon

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    Mar 15, 2014 1:34 AM GMT
    But I think he's straight.

    He's the maintenance dude at the facility I work (old people's home) and he's so freaking cute, maybe a few years older than I am. He's like super-polite, always waving at me when we see each other.

    Like, for instance, I was filling water pitchers for residents...he so happened to be in the room with me. I was at the sink, he was on the opposite side of me. I guess he had to fix something under the sink. He was such a gentlemen, he said "I have to work underneath, but I'll come back once you're done." I told him "it's okay I'm finished, I'll get out of your way." And he was like "no, man, I can come back. I don't want you to get busted for not doing your job." and he grabbed my shoulder and smiled. My dick was so hard, I swear the sexual tension was through the roof (from my perspective)

    I want him!
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    Mar 15, 2014 1:40 AM GMT
    Was he being flirty? If so try flirting back icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 15, 2014 2:07 AM GMT
    In situations likes this you sort of have to discretely find out if the person is attracted to the same sex, unless you have no problem asking him straight up if he's gay. Though that might be a bit risky because if he happens to be straight he might find the question offensive or get creeped out and avoid you in the future.

    If he flirts with you then that's a pretty big sign. If he doesn't you can always observe how he acts and talks around guys and girls. Perhaps casually mention that you're gay in a conversation to see how he reacts.

  • Nearon

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    Mar 15, 2014 2:22 AM GMT
    Richenstein saidIn situations likes this you sort of have to discretely find out if the person is attracted to the same sex, unless you have no problem asking him straight up if he's gay. Though that might be a bit risky because if he happens to be straight he might find the question offensive or get creeped out and avoid you in the future.

    If he flirts with you then that's a pretty big sign. If he doesn't you can always observe how he acts and talks around guys and girls. Perhaps casually mention that you're gay in a conversation to see how he reacts.



    Yea, um, that could be considered sexual harassment since we work together. He'a very soft spoken and articulate but very masculine at the same time so he's hard to read.
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    Mar 15, 2014 2:29 AM GMT
    Maybe he doesn't know you're gay. I would mention an ex boyfriend or something subtle and eventually the wheels will start turning if he's interested.
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    Mar 15, 2014 2:51 AM GMT
    Ask him if he would like to go out for a beer.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 15, 2014 2:58 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidAsk him if he would like to go out for a beer.


    He's only 19
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    Mar 15, 2014 4:42 PM GMT
    jo2hotbod said
    AMoonHawk saidAsk him if he would like to go out for a beer.


    He's only 19


    Haha, I keep forgetting in the USA, old enough to serve but not be served ;)
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    Mar 15, 2014 4:43 PM GMT
    jo2hotbod said
    AMoonHawk saidAsk him if he would like to go out for a beer.


    He's only 19


    As if that ever stopped anyone. A lot of us have fake ID's icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 15, 2014 4:45 PM GMT
    Richenstein said
    jo2hotbod said
    AMoonHawk saidAsk him if he would like to go out for a beer.


    He's only 19


    As if that ever stopped anyone. A lot of us have fake ID's icon_smile.gif


    Yah a little criminal activity never hurt anyone
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    Mar 16, 2014 10:56 PM GMT
    lol are you top or bottom ?
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    Mar 17, 2014 6:58 AM GMT
    My instinct reaction whenever one of my friends tells me something to the extent of "I have a crush on..." is to reply with a "DUDE, YOU NEED TO GO FOR IT!" (even if that friend happens to be a girl), regardless of the rest of the details.

    Although you are not a friend of mine, I will extend this instinctive reaction to you.

    DUDE, YOU NEED TO GO FOR IT!

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    Mar 17, 2014 7:04 AM GMT
    Phoenyx saidMaybe he doesn't know you're gay. I would mention an ex boyfriend or something subtle and eventually the wheels will start turning if he's interested.


    Ha, this reminded me of something me and a group of friends did while on vacation and scoping out hot guys in our vicinity. We would randomly blurt out things like "Grindr" or "Adam4adam" or the name of a gay club in the area to see if we got anyone's attention nearby. Sure enough, a couple of heads came spinning around in our direction. It never lead to anything noteworthy but it was undoubtedly hilarious; we had way too much fun with that. Ahh, to be college kids on spring break again.

    Try the same psychology; say something "gay" and see if it gets any of his attention next time.