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    Mar 15, 2014 4:52 PM GMT
    In that back-slapping straight-guy world, where everything drips with juvenile homophobia, where do you draw the line between getting butt-hurt about machismo anti-gay banter, and betraying "the gay cause"?
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    Mar 15, 2014 5:04 PM GMT
    There's no "cause" but your own cause. If you are insulted by something said stand up for yourself and say something, if it's truly funny then laugh along
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    Mar 15, 2014 5:08 PM GMT
    I'm usually never offended about words if they're used in a playful manner. My best straight buds will sometimes make some light-hearted jokes about me being gay, but I know they're kidding so I don't take it personally. It's only if certain homophobic words or things are said in a way meant to bring me down that I'll find offensive. Sometimes they'll unintentionally say homophobic things that other gay people might find offensive, and I'll let them know to be careful when saying those things. I live in south florida though so in general most people aren't homophobic.

    I've actually come across more homophobic comments within the gay community itself. One guy on grindr once said to me "you're probably a faggot anyway, you flamer lmao" when I said that I don't do hook ups and wouldn't do anything with him. I'm not even feminine or a flamer, but I was really surprised that a gay person would say things like that.
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    Mar 15, 2014 5:20 PM GMT
    Richenstein saidI'm usually never offended about words if they're used in a playful manner. My best straight buds will sometimes make some light-hearted jokes about me being gay, but I know they're kidding so I don't take it personally. It's only if certain homophobic words or things are said in a way meant to bring me down that I'll find offensive. Sometimes they'll unintentionally say homophobic things that other gay people might find offensive, and I'll let them know to be careful when saying those things. I live in south florida though so in general most people aren't homophobic.

    I've actually come across more homophobic comments within the gay community itself. One guy on grindr once said to me "you're probably a faggot anyway, you flamer lmao" when I said that I don't do hook ups and wouldn't do anything with him. I'm not even feminine or a flamer, but I was really surprised that a gay person would say things like that.


    I'm sorry to hear that, some gay men can be ruthless.
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    Mar 15, 2014 5:44 PM GMT
    Definitely meant in a non-offensive way, though I probably should have just said "flamboyant gay" instead of "flamer".

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    Richenstein saidI'm usually never offended about words if they're used in a playful manner. My best straight buds will sometimes make some light-hearted jokes about me being gay, but I know they're kidding so I don't take it personally. It's only if certain homophobic words or things are said in a way meant to bring me down that I'll find offensive. Sometimes they'll unintentionally say homophobic things that other gay people might find offensive, and I'll let them know to be careful when saying those things. I live in south florida though so in general most people aren't homophobic.

    I've actually come across more homophobic comments within the gay community itself. One guy on grindr once said to me "you're probably a faggot anyway, you flamer lmao" when I said that I don't do hook ups and wouldn't do anything with him. I'm not even feminine or a flamer, but I was really surprised that a gay person would say things like that.


    I'm sorry to hear that, some gay men can be ruthless.


    On top of that it was a 35 year old guy saying that to me, I'd be less surprised if it was someone my age saying something stupid like that. I had to laugh it off.