The Art of Male Bonding

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    Mar 16, 2014 6:18 AM GMT
    In traditional Japanese culture, the art of male bonding holds a position of great significance. Customs and rituals can be traced back through the centuries to the cults, brotherhoods and clubs that men have formed--to affectionately pass time together within a rigorous framework of ceremonial rules. Some of these ceremonial rules are based on the seven ancient Japanese elements of "shibusa": simplicity, implicit, modesty, silence, naturalness, everydayness, and imperfection.

    Can you think of our Western male bonding experiences?

    (Based on an article in Spring & Summer 2013 issue of Fantastic Man.)
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    Mar 16, 2014 6:29 AM GMT
    Frat parties.
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    Mar 16, 2014 6:35 AM GMT
    I know a lot of guys who bond by grooming together which always makes me think of them monkeys that bond by eating bugs off of each other lol
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    Mar 16, 2014 3:08 PM GMT
    Playing sports together was always male bonding to me, Especially when we won lol. Usually handball,basketball and football. Other than that I usually just shoot pool with the guys or play video games.
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    Mar 16, 2014 3:34 PM GMT
    Going to the pub together and drinking (not my scene that though)
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    Mar 16, 2014 3:50 PM GMT
    Anyone with a workout partner can tell it's a very intimate bonding experience.
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    Mar 16, 2014 3:56 PM GMT
    Sure, I can think of some "western" male bonding experiences.

    Fishing, camping, football, video games, business ventures, creative ventures, hunting, gambling, drinking, partying, shared journeys, etc..

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    Mar 16, 2014 4:01 PM GMT
    tmac saidPlaying sports together was always male bonding to me, Especially when we won lol. Usually handball,basketball and football. Other than that I usually just shoot pool with the guys or play video games.


    My friends would give me the biggest celebratory hugs whenever our team won, so I have to agree with this.
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    Mar 16, 2014 4:02 PM GMT
    I'm more into male bondage
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    Mar 16, 2014 4:28 PM GMT
    The "I love you MAN" exclamation between two straight guys. The "bromance" movie genre of the last ten years using actors such as James Franco, Seth Rogen, and others.
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    Mar 16, 2014 4:47 PM GMT
    Camping for sure is .
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    Mar 16, 2014 5:33 PM GMT
    SOooo many topics I'd rather avoid….

    For me, male bonding always (and by that I mean from my earliest memories, around 3 or 4 years old) had an erotic component to them. Not necessarily *sexual* -- if you can sense the difference -- but most definitely erotic. Just being AROUND other guys could give me a stiffie. So, as I got a few years older bonding with some of the neighbor boys (2 to 3 years older than I), became almost an addiction. I was fortunate to be included in some of their many and often rough games. Barn lofts, tree lofts, the 'forts' we built in the woods, fields and snow, all the time we spent together naked at the swimming hole in the summer, being taken on weekend camping trips by even older boys, and later Boy Scouts… all this stuff was "male bonding" to me.

    I wasn't into sports at all but that was largely because getting all hot and sweaty was just too much of a turn on. It was EMBARRASSING! icon_redface.gif The good part is mostly I was not bullied or shunned, but did get some ribbing. *Teasing* was a male bonding tactic.
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    Mar 16, 2014 5:39 PM GMT
    Most bonding act with my friends is playing football or going to the stadium.
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    Mar 16, 2014 5:43 PM GMT
    Sweetooth saidI'm more into male bondage

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    Mar 16, 2014 5:44 PM GMT
    Poker (or whatever card game) night, bachelor parties, barber shops.
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    Mar 16, 2014 11:59 PM GMT
    definitely a gym partner

    -useful if your way over your head working on a car project
    -Nice to have additional hands putting up drywall
    -Have a geek bro to debugging a home network issue
    -when you need a framing nailer

    -when you need an honest opinion.
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    Mar 17, 2014 12:04 AM GMT
    Hiking is nice.

    I wish I had more male bonding time.
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    Mar 17, 2014 8:53 AM GMT
    Sweetooth saidI'm more into male bondage


    Very funny! And, er, ah, call me....lol icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 17, 2014 9:15 AM GMT
    Playing magic the gathering.
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    Mar 17, 2014 9:51 PM GMT
    My best friend of 15 years and I are restoring old furniture by stripping them down, restaining them and putting new hardware on them.... He's straight, recently married.
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    Mar 18, 2014 6:13 AM GMT
    I wish it was common to just give each other a peck on the lips or a hug like in other countries