Why do gay friends always hug each other?

  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Mar 16, 2014 5:45 PM GMT
    With my straight friends, we only ever hug if we're not gonna see each other for a semester or a year.

    With my gay friends, whom I see at least several times a week, we always hug each other before heading home after every night out. When we meet new gay friends, the hugging custom continues. It seems to cheapen the value of the hug, IMO.

    Is it like this in everyone's gay circles?
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    Mar 16, 2014 5:46 PM GMT
    Because theyre gay
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    Mar 16, 2014 5:48 PM GMT
    I don't have gay friends, my straight friends give me bro hugs all the time though.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Mar 16, 2014 5:48 PM GMT
    A hug is a very comforting and respectful way to say goodbye.

    Would you rather have these guys fondle each others rear endsicon_question.gificon_lol.gif
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    Mar 16, 2014 5:51 PM GMT
    I bro hug my straight friends (grab their hands for a handshake, and pull that sucka in)!

    I also hug my gay friends the same way. It never cheapens the value to me.
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    Mar 16, 2014 5:53 PM GMT
    Because they got beat up on the playground and they need some TLC.

    All joking aside it's because they're probably more comfortable in their skin when it comes to intimacy? Maybe that's why we cheapened sex as well (opps I'll get backlash for that). I can understand if the hugs feel more like an obligation than a genuine gesture.
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    Mar 16, 2014 5:54 PM GMT
    That's what women do. Basically we're girls inside. icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 16, 2014 5:54 PM GMT
    because sucking each other's cocks wouldn't be an appropriate salutation
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    Mar 16, 2014 5:54 PM GMT
    theonewhoknocks saidWith my straight friends, we only ever hug if we're not gonna see each other for a semester or a year.

    With my gay friends, whom I see at least several times a week, we always hug each other before heading home after every night out. When we meet new gay friends, the hugging custom continues. It seems to cheapen the value of the hug, IMO.

    Is it like this in everyone's gay circles?


    It's just the people you know, and hardly a gay thing.
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    Mar 16, 2014 5:57 PM GMT
    I don't hug my gay friends, nor do they do it.
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    Mar 16, 2014 5:59 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidThat's what women do. Basically we're girls inside. icon_twisted.gif


    The truth in that statement is culturally we are supposed to appear masculine (girls like pink and boys like blue). As someone else said it's not just a gay thing. Italians love to hug or a handshake with one arm around the others back. It's a nice gesture.
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    Mar 16, 2014 6:00 PM GMT
    hahas im usually the odd one out since i generally offer handshakes or just a nod.

    a hug means i havent seen you in months/years or i wont see you for a few months/years
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    Mar 16, 2014 6:01 PM GMT
    Truppensturm saidI don't hug my gay friends, nor do they do it.


    You're missing out boo.
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    Mar 16, 2014 6:01 PM GMT
    AnOriginal said
    Lumpyoatmeal saidThat's what women do. Basically we're girls inside. icon_twisted.gif

    The truth in that statement is culturally we are supposed to appear masculine (girls like pink and boys like blue). As someone else said it's not just a gay thing. Italians love to hug or a handshake with one arm around the others back. It's a nice gesture.

    We need to notch it up and do like the starlets do and touch cheeks while making kissing movements with our lips.
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    Mar 16, 2014 6:03 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal said
    AnOriginal said
    Lumpyoatmeal saidThat's what women do. Basically we're girls inside. icon_twisted.gif

    The truth in that statement is culturally we are supposed to appear masculine (girls like pink and boys like blue). As someone else said it's not just a gay thing. Italians love to hug or a handshake with one arm around the others back. It's a nice gesture.

    We need to notch it up and do like the starlets do and touch cheeks while making kissing movements with our lips.


    That's pretty much what they do in Argentina. I thought it was pretty hot icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 16, 2014 6:05 PM GMT
    It's partly a cultural thing. In the southern US, we hug everybody.
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    Mar 16, 2014 6:09 PM GMT
    Bro hugs are pretty common around here.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 16, 2014 6:59 PM GMT
    I have to admit that it seems to be that everyone wants a hug. I'm not a huggy type person. And then some also want to plant a friendly kiss and not just on the cheek, they go for the lips. I'm no prude, but I don't want to giver every single guy a kiss. I give them a bro shoulder bumped. It catches them a little off surprise, but I just smile and they smile back. Or best yet, just be the first to give them a fist bump and they are stuck with that's all your getting.
  • buddycat

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    Mar 16, 2014 7:01 PM GMT
    theonewhoknocks saidWith my straight friends, we only ever hug if we're not gonna see each other for a semester or a year.

    With my gay friends, whom I see at least several times a week, we always hug each other before heading home after every night out. When we meet new gay friends, the hugging custom continues. It seems to cheapen the value of the hug, IMO.

    Is it like this in everyone's gay circles?


    No, I have never done this with friends, I reserve that for guys I am attracted to.
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    Mar 16, 2014 7:02 PM GMT
    David3000 saidBecause theyre gay


    ^esto, obviamente...
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    Mar 16, 2014 7:11 PM GMT
    bonaparts01 saidI don't like hugs


    Blasphemy!
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 16, 2014 7:18 PM GMT
    To cop a feel
  • KaZT

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    Mar 16, 2014 7:19 PM GMT
    In last week, in age 21 for the very first time I went to the gay club in Poland. I stayed only for 40 minutes. I saw that gays hugs and kissess each other on welcome, I almost laughed it was so cheapicon_smile.gif I think the reason why they are doing that was they were felling like at home with whole familly and showed their emotions by hugs etcicon_smile.gif


    I didn t like it;)
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    Mar 16, 2014 7:37 PM GMT
    The young (allegedly straight) men at the gym hug each other every time they meet.
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    Mar 16, 2014 7:54 PM GMT
    My straight mates hug each other. It's a sign that two people are close friends.