How to not love someone

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    Mar 16, 2014 7:44 PM GMT
    So im gonna try to make this as short as i can...(i dont do good short but ill try)
    I been with a guy for about a year, loved him.He was THE FIRST, and at that time he was like THE ONE, I really loved him (idk if i still do)...
    He cheated on me, he made me suffer, he and he left me for some bald slut who is like HORRIBLE...dresses in fur... o.O (but i dont wanna get to much in detail).Still i managed to forgive him everytime, and love him as much, still he kept hurting me again and again(yes i know im the idiot).I still think i love this man.
    Now i am dating a really cute guy, and he is amazing with me but i still love my first and i just cant feel for the other guy...im really trying my best ...i mean this guy is perfect...let me see if i can attach a photo 1422457_1411763865724061_1802533908_n.jp
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    I really dont know how to stop my self to care for a guy who doesnt even remember my birthday...when God gave me a really cute man and patient and good with me...and i will fuck it up again :'(.Advice guys?
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    Mar 16, 2014 7:52 PM GMT
    Wow your new bf looks like a model icon_eek.gif

    Carry on spending more time with him and you'll learn to love him. Fact is the longer you go without seeing your ex, or his pictures etc you won't even remember what he looks like.
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    Mar 16, 2014 7:57 PM GMT
    Thom1993 saidWow your new bf looks like a model icon_eek.gif

    Carry on spending more time with him and you'll learn to love him. Fact is the longer you go without seeing your ex, or his pictures etc you won't even remember what he looks like.
    he actually is a model, well he doesnt work as a model anymore...he just likes to take photos lol
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 16, 2014 7:59 PM GMT
    I don't know if I believe you, but If you can't get your ex out of your head for this guy your there's something wrong
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    Mar 16, 2014 8:00 PM GMT
    Perhaps it wasn't the best idea to begin dating someone while still being in the process of getting over an ex. It really isn't fair to the guy you're currently dating if you're still thinking about a previous lover.

    My ex cheated on me as well, but I broke it off right then and there. It was really tough though because I loved him and I really didn't like the way things ended. Shit happens and you have no choice but to keep moving forward. The best way to get over someone for me is to completely cut contact with them (at least during the time that I'm getting over them) and avoid seeing pictures, old messages, and things of the like. Almost as if they're dead and don't exist anymore. You might want to try that icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 16, 2014 8:02 PM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidI don't know if I believe you, but If you can't get your ex out of your head for this guy your there's something wrong
    dont believe what?
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    Mar 16, 2014 8:05 PM GMT
    Richenstein saidPerhaps it wasn't the best idea to begin dating someone while still being in the process of getting over an ex. It really isn't fair to the guy you're currently dating if you're still thinking about a previous lover.

    My ex cheated on me as well, but I broke it off right then and there. It was really tough though because I loved him and I really didn't like the way things ended. Shit happens and you have no choice but to keep moving forward. The best way to get over someone for me is to completely cut contact with them (at least during the time that I'm getting over them) and avoid seeing pictures, old messages, and things of the like. Almost as if they're dead and don't exist anymore. You might want to try that icon_twisted.gif
    im trying to...been trying to for a few months...i cant leave him...idk i cant consider him dead...he is still part of me...i know its not fair what i do to Alex (the guy im dating) ...he is really good with me, but were nothing official yet...we just went out for a few times and we just kissed...still things are going somewhere
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    Mar 16, 2014 8:06 PM GMT
    Simple, it's too early for you to be dating other guys. Just take some time out to get over your ex, then get out there again.

    You'll only hurt yourself and this other guy if you try pursue a relationship when you're not ready.
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    Mar 16, 2014 8:09 PM GMT
    It can be challenging, especially with the first guy .. BUT, I am of the belief, that if you really want to move on, you will come up with a way to do it. You have to decide it is critical to your mental well being to move past it and focus on your future. Do it! Good luck for sure!

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    Mar 16, 2014 8:12 PM GMT
    bonaparts01 saidwhy would you post photos of your current bf? am i suppose to be jealous or something ?
    lets just say i dont do things without thinking icon_wink.gif so dont worry not meant for you icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 16, 2014 8:16 PM GMT
    ChrisMD said
    Thom1993 saidWow your new bf looks like a model icon_eek.gif

    Carry on spending more time with him and you'll learn to love him. Fact is the longer you go without seeing your ex, or his pictures etc you won't even remember what he looks like.
    he actually is a model, well he doesnt work as a model anymore...he just likes to take photos lol


    Tbf you both look like models so you're probably well suited. The more time you spend with someone the more stronger your feelings are so just keep on being persistent and it'll happen and then you'll forget about your ex.
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    Mar 16, 2014 8:19 PM GMT
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    Richenstein saidPerhaps it wasn't the best idea to begin dating someone while still being in the process of getting over an ex. It really isn't fair to the guy you're currently dating if you're still thinking about a previous lover.

    My ex cheated on me as well, but I broke it off right then and there. It was really tough though because I loved him and I really didn't like the way things ended. Shit happens and you have no choice but to keep moving forward. The best way to get over someone for me is to completely cut contact with them (at least during the time that I'm getting over them) and avoid seeing pictures, old messages, and things of the like. Almost as if they're dead and don't exist anymore. You might want to try that icon_twisted.gif
    im trying to...been trying to for a few months...i cant leave him...idk i cant consider him dead...he is still part of me...i know its not fair what i do to Alex (the guy im dating) ...he is really good with me, but were nothing official yet...we just went out for a few times and we just kissed...still things are going somewhere


    Well, no one likes being a rebound so don't use Alex as an experiment to get over your ex. I know it's cliche to say, but you definitely have to work on yourself first after a break up before jumping into another relationship.
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    Mar 16, 2014 8:24 PM GMT
    Something tells me this is your first love.
    Your first love is a very special love that you will remember for the rest of your life.
    You will ALWAYS love him, but you will also one day be able to move on and love again.
    Later in life you will love not only deeper, but truer.
    At your age, it often takes about as long as you were in the relationship to get over the loss before starting a possible new one.
    I went through something similar at 22.
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    Mar 16, 2014 8:34 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidSomething tells me this is your first love.
    Your first love is a very special love that you will remember for the rest of your life.
    You will ALWAYS love him, but you will also one day be able to move on and love again.
    Later in life you will love not only deeper, but truer.
    At your age, it often takes about as long as you were in the relationship to get over the loss before starting a possible new one.
    I went through something similar at 22.
    idk i think deep inside i dont want him to leave...i have to admit when i was with him he made me really happy...best guy ever :'(
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    Mar 16, 2014 8:35 PM GMT
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    Richenstein said
    ChrisMD said
    Richenstein saidPerhaps it wasn't the best idea to begin dating someone while still being in the process of getting over an ex. It really isn't fair to the guy you're currently dating if you're still thinking about a previous lover.

    My ex cheated on me as well, but I broke it off right then and there. It was really tough though because I loved him and I really didn't like the way things ended. Shit happens and you have no choice but to keep moving forward. The best way to get over someone for me is to completely cut contact with them (at least during the time that I'm getting over them) and avoid seeing pictures, old messages, and things of the like. Almost as if they're dead and don't exist anymore. You might want to try that icon_twisted.gif
    im trying to...been trying to for a few months...i cant leave him...idk i cant consider him dead...he is still part of me...i know its not fair what i do to Alex (the guy im dating) ...he is really good with me, but were nothing official yet...we just went out for a few times and we just kissed...still things are going somewhere


    Well, no one likes being a rebound so don't use Alex as an experiment to get over your ex. I know it's cliche to say, but you definitely have to work on yourself first after a break up before jumping into another relationship.


    You seem like a nice guy


    If that was directed at me - thanks!
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    Mar 16, 2014 8:49 PM GMT


    "He cheated on me, he made me suffer, he and he left me for some bald slut..."

    Here's my thoughts:

    So you're saying that when you didn't know about this stuff, he was the best guy ever......which really means you were in love with someone who didn't exist.

    Have a hug *hug*.
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    Mar 16, 2014 9:05 PM GMT
    meninlove said

    "He cheated on me, he made me suffer, he and he left me for some bald slut..."

    Here's my thoughts:

    So you're saying that when you didn't know about this stuff, he was the best guy ever......which really means you were in love with someone who didn't exist.

    Have a hug *hug*.
    i have a blame in this too, i have a short temper...
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    Mar 16, 2014 9:17 PM GMT
    ChrisMD said
    meninlove said

    "He cheated on me, he made me suffer, he and he left me for some bald slut..."

    Here's my thoughts:

    So you're saying that when you didn't know about this stuff, he was the best guy ever......which really means you were in love with someone who didn't exist.

    Have a hug *hug*.
    i have a blame in this too, i have a short temper...


    I have an ex or two that had tempers as short as your little finger. Even shorter. That didn't bother me; the personal attacks did. I didn't cheat; I left. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 16, 2014 9:30 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    ChrisMD said
    meninlove said

    "He cheated on me, he made me suffer, he and he left me for some bald slut..."

    Here's my thoughts:

    So you're saying that when you didn't know about this stuff, he was the best guy ever......which really means you were in love with someone who didn't exist.

    Have a hug *hug*.
    i have a blame in this too, i have a short temper...


    I have an ex or two that had tempers as short as your little finger. Even shorter. That didn't bother me; the personal attacks did. I didn't cheat; I left. icon_wink.gif
    true!