Do older men only hit on you?

  • Jake__Wright

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    Mar 16, 2014 8:54 PM GMT
    Hi,

    Does anyone else ever find that majority of the time the men that hit on them whether it be online at night clubs or just random, are a lot older then you say 15 - 20 years, I find that's the case most of the time it can be a little irritating. I prefer someone close to my own age, what do other people think?
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    Mar 16, 2014 9:08 PM GMT
    Yes, I can't stand it! Worst is when much older guys online actually lie about their age.

  • Jake__Wright

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    Mar 16, 2014 9:39 PM GMT
    The closet gay men in their 40's with a wive and kids who seek teens or guys in their 20's for a quicky, those men lol!
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    Mar 16, 2014 9:52 PM GMT
    I wouldn't care about age. If someone flirted/hit on me I'd take it as a compliment. How is age a big deal?
  • Jake__Wright

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    Mar 16, 2014 10:18 PM GMT
    I suppose, But! most people who are young won't date someone who could be their father. It's kinda sick that a man in his 50's would be flirting with all the newby 18's in a night club with 30 years age difference one of the unpleasant things about going to any night club lol
  • buddycat

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    Mar 16, 2014 10:23 PM GMT
    Opposite, younger mostly.
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    Mar 16, 2014 10:25 PM GMT
    True. 50 might be pushing it. My limit is likely 40 - no more than double my age.
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    Mar 16, 2014 10:29 PM GMT
    Jake__Wright saidHi,

    Does anyone else ever find that majority of the time the men that hit on them whether it be online at night clubs or just random, are a lot older then you say 15 - 20 years, I find that's the case most of the time it can be a little irritating. I prefer someone close to my own age, what do other people think?


    They want young guys, and think they have a better chance with the overweight ones.
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    Mar 16, 2014 10:39 PM GMT
    Dear OP, you should be thankful anyone of any age, any race, any species hits on you...at all. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Jake__Wright

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    Mar 16, 2014 10:56 PM GMT
    hentailover said
    Jake__Wright saidHi,

    Does anyone else ever find that majority of the time the men that hit on them whether it be online at night clubs or just random, are a lot older then you say 15 - 20 years, I find that's the case most of the time it can be a little irritating. I prefer someone close to my own age, what do other people think?


    They want young guys, and think they have a better chance with the overweight ones.



    Ha!, is that last bit supposed to be a insult lol just because I am a little overweight doesn't mean I'm for the desperate.

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    Mar 16, 2014 11:06 PM GMT
    No it's not. Your own profile says "overweight", so I assumed you're self-aware enough not to care. Just stating a truth in supply and demand
  • Jake__Wright

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    Mar 16, 2014 11:14 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidDear OP, you should be thankful anyone of any age, any race, any species hits on you...at all. icon_rolleyes.gif



    Dear Scruffypup,


    I do appreciate compliments from people, I am not a vain person, you don't even know me.
  • buddycat

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    Mar 17, 2014 2:38 AM GMT
    Who are you looking to hit on you? Someone more like yourself?
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    Mar 17, 2014 3:01 AM GMT
    Jake__Wright said
    Scruffypup saidDear OP, you should be thankful anyone of any age, any race, any species hits on you...at all. icon_rolleyes.gif



    Dear Scruffypup,


    I do appreciate compliments from people, I am not a vain person, you don't even know me.



    People know you from the words you speak, and you spewed some very hateful words about an entire group of people. Maybe you should take your own advice and realize you don't know every older person either.
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    Mar 17, 2014 3:12 AM GMT
    Yes; I'm polite about it.

    I know it can be frustrating. Going out to the club, waiting for Chris Evans to show up and start hitting on you - but not getting any attention except from older men in their 40s and 50s (I've been there). I am sure they mean no harm by it (most of them, at least). Look at it from their perspective, they're just out 'tryin'a get theirs' too.

    Be respectful about it and put yourself in the same situation. Imagine someone profiling you the way you have with older men and writing a ranting complaint about it.
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    Mar 17, 2014 3:28 AM GMT
    Rolfron saidYes, [but] I'm polite about it.



    +1
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    Mar 17, 2014 4:25 AM GMT
    older guys, younger guys, mid 30s guys, it runs the circle. But yeah, I'm polite about it if I'm not interested.
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    Mar 17, 2014 4:37 AM GMT
    Older guys love me!!! Haha icon_smile.gif
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Mar 17, 2014 5:20 AM GMT
    They always hit on me and one other friend, but never the hot friends in our circle lol.
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    Mar 17, 2014 5:20 AM GMT
    I like it when guys hit on me, regardless of the age. Sure, I'd prefer if it was a hot guy around 18-30, but still. It's kind of like when women hit on me, obviously I'm not going to do anything with them but it's nice to know that someone finds me attractive.
  • Svnw688

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    Mar 17, 2014 5:52 AM GMT
    (1) In person only guys my age and younger approach me. Online guys of ALL ages approach me. However, I don't get approached nearly as much as I'd like.

    (2) I only like guys my age or older, so I've always LIKED older guys hitting on me and have enjoyed it. But yeah, I suppose if I weren't attracted to older guys, then I might find it annoying (but probably just flattering).

    (3) I feel like anytime you PUT YOURSELF INTO THE PUBLIC SQUARE (e.g., walking into a bar at night after putting on your favorite jeans and shirt, or creating a public profile on a dating site), that you HAVE TO ACCEPT a certain amount of contact will be unwanted, and simply deal with it. Now, you don't have to be subjected to rudeness, cruelty, or harassment. But someone "hitting on" you does not qualify. When in the public, the public will talk to you.

    (4) Yourname2000 can hit on me ANYTIME he'd like.
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    Mar 17, 2014 6:20 AM GMT
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    Richenstein saidI like it when guys hit on me, regardless of the age. Sure, I'd prefer if it was a hot guy around 18-30, but still. It's kind of like when women hit on me, obviously I'm not going to do anything with them but it's nice to know that someone finds me attractive.

    Well this is it, it's not like the criteria for "hot" or "good looking" changes *that* much through different ages. I don't like the term "hit on", because I honestly don't think I do it (my interests are more towards guys my age). But I love being flirty with guys younger than my 'target', because they deserve it, I remember being a bit insecure and appreciating the feedback (I'm just paying it forward, lol), and it's fun (I hope for both of us).

    If 10s are macking on 6s, that's creepy regardless if the 10 to 6 factor is age related or not. Like I say to some hot guys I compliment in RL (a twist of the line from Family Guy): "if you were a gay guy, you could get a way better gay guy than me", which is just to say: just take the fuckin' compliment...that's all that was intended.

    I have no illusions that my time is past with a lot of just amazing young gay men coming into their own today. But dammit, my days telling them "you're awesome, you're going places, and some guy is gonna feel like he won the lottery when he pairs up with you"...those days will never be done. icon_wink.gif


    Flirting never hurt anyone and it's definitely all in good fun. I sometimes also compliment/flirt with guys older than my target age range, and I do it because I honestly do find them attractive. Am I going to go out with them or sleep with them? No, but I figure anyone likes to be complimented so why the hell not? Some of us do appreciate it so you can keep sending compliments our way icon_lol.gif
  • Jake__Wright

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    Mar 17, 2014 9:21 AM GMT
    So what I have gathered from most of these comments is you are more likely to be hit on by older men If you aren't the most attractive in a group, not slim&fit, shy and Innocent looking (I'm not shy) in my case I have a chubby baby face that makes me look 15. I am clearly all out of luck boys! time for plastic surgery lmao!
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    Mar 17, 2014 6:46 PM GMT
    Jake__Wright saidHi,

    Does anyone else ever find that majority of the time the men that hit on them whether it be online at night clubs or just random, are a lot older then you say 15 - 20 years, I find that's the case most of the time it can be a little irritating. I prefer someone close to my own age, what do other people think?


    I find it equally irritating when a kid IMs me. I clearly state 35+(45-60ish really). Not a pot shot at you, but a lot of kids seem to think they are irresistible, especially to older men. It doesn't work for me.....at all. So stop batting those Doe eyes icon_razz.gif
    But take it all in stride! It's a compliment!

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    Mar 17, 2014 6:58 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    Jake__Wright said
    Scruffypup saidDear OP, you should be thankful anyone of any age, any race, any species hits on you...at all. icon_rolleyes.gif



    Dear Scruffypup,


    I do appreciate compliments from people, I am not a vain person, you don't even know me.



    People know you from the words you speak, and you spewed some very hateful words about an entire group of people. Maybe you should take your own advice and realize you don't know every older person either.


    After a reread re the PO's comment: we are "irritating", "unpleasant" and "desperate". Jake you may not be vain (I disagree, you put us down to make yourself feel superior) but your attitude is despicable.

    I don't know you, but if someone used those 3 words to describe anyone they don't know, I would NEVER want to know them. Think about it.