Story of my life

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    Mar 17, 2014 10:06 PM GMT
    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110628171233AAygV3V , I hope this link works.... icon_confused.gif

    I was asking this same question for years and years and I'm so mad that it took me this long to finally realize the truth. Like the guy who asked the question in the link above, I too am sexually attracted to men but emotionally attracted to women. I just always thought that i would date and marry the woman of my dreams but that doesnt look like its going to happen anymore (our sex life would be horrible). And take into consideration that I'm a 22 year old, Christian?, virgin with no romantic relationship experience at all.

    Has anyone else more experienced than me been in this position before? If so, where do I go from here?.....
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    Mar 17, 2014 10:44 PM GMT
    if you were not the christian man you are i bet you would be more emotionally attracted to the Joe.

    Dont let someone else's ideas of morality rule your life. End of the day they dont seep in your bed.

    You need to figure this out now not later when you have a wife, children and a house. Basically a life that has you trapped in a situation you are going to fail.

    Have you dated any men, even on grinder? You have got to get out there and experience life. Everyone's sexuality so different. In the end being gay is the ability to better maintain a same long term relationship with a man.
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    Mar 17, 2014 10:46 PM GMT
    Yes, I have felt this way 100% before... when I was about 16 and in the closet.

    In other words, I don't think that you've yet completely swallowed the entire pill of accepting your sexuality. Especially in men that have been brought up/heavily influenced by Christianity/religion, your mind has been stamped with the idea that there is one man and one woman and no other truth or reality. As reality proves, this isn't always the case; people are much more complex than that (as you know).

    What you're calling an "emotional attraction" to women is more likely a platonic attraction. It's a bit odd to be emotionally attracted to someone without the sexual piece to go along with it; the two are intertwined. You seem to realize this when you say that it's not likely that you'll end up marrying the woman of your dreams - and I'm glad; that's a good step forward.

    I think what you need now is experience. The more you experience and explore other men, the more you'll find that being gay is perfectly normal; it's been around for civilizations before ours and it likely isn't going anywhere for very long. Once you open up to it, the idea of marrying the man of your dreams instead isn't all that hard to imagine.

    Good luck and congratulations for coming to terms with your sexuality.
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    Mar 17, 2014 11:38 PM GMT
    I understand the sentiment of your post. I met this girl and we had mega flirty chemistry and even though eventually I told her I was gay she felt because I was a virgin I might be confused and we should give it a go.

    I was seriously tempted to. I was 16 she was 17 and even at that young age she was like a mother hen who looked after everyone, she still is to be fair. All I had in my head at first was how well we had clicked in such a short period of time and how she would one day make a great wife and mother. Obviously we both deserved better than each other and it never happened and now I'm more comfortable with myself we're like besties. The chemistry we had originally is still there but we recognise it for what it is and we are like soul mates but in a platonic way.

    Like others have said you may just need to learn go be more comfortable in your own skin. It's difficult to do sometimes. I've still never kissed a guy (or at least a guy I liked)) in public and I had a boyfriend until recently so it's likely to be a slow learning process but I'm sure you'll get there icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 18, 2014 4:58 PM GMT
    thnks for all the comments so far. im glad that there are some people on here who are out to help others in need. i guess the next step is to attract a mate and see how things go from there! icon_biggrin.gif