Do you worry about finding someone who loves you?

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    Mar 18, 2014 1:54 AM GMT
    I really don't know what my chances are of this happening. Especially as I get older without any real lasting relationships.
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    Mar 18, 2014 2:02 AM GMT
    Maybe you're being too picky? (only guessing)

    Love is something we make for ourselves and it's essentially a contract - If someone promises me loyalty and companionship I can make myself love them over time.

    You just need to find someone and spend enough time with them and it'll happen.

    As a side note *I* wouldn't go for the guy you have an instant attraction too because it just ends up one sided and they'll be the one that let you down as they know you're already hooked.

    I'm not horrendously experienced in this but I've read a lot of stuff online and in ethics lessons at schools.
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    Mar 18, 2014 2:13 AM GMT
    I sort of agree with Thom. If you find someone who (and if you are a person who) is compatible in terms of values , outlooks, and sexual attraction, and who is ready to be in a commited relationship, I believe that love will develop as well. And remember that compatible often means complementary not identical. Good luck! (and p.s.you're still young and dorkiness is hot)
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 18, 2014 2:19 AM GMT
    Nope, everyone loves me. Even me.
  • TheSkyWasYell...

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    Mar 18, 2014 2:23 AM GMT
    No, because I gave up on it 100% many years ago. It's sort of liberating to accept that I'll always be unloved, because it eliminates the burden of trying/stressing.
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    Mar 18, 2014 2:24 AM GMT
    You know the saying "we ignore the ones that adore us, but adore the ones that ignore us"?

    I think that's the vicious cycle that people seem to suck themselves in. Why? I really don't know but it happens far too often.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 18, 2014 4:49 AM GMT
    No use in worrying about it. Que sera sera icon_confused.gif
  • buddycat

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    Mar 18, 2014 9:01 AM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidNope, everyone loves me. Even me.


    That is what I was thinking that too. How can someone love you if you can't love yourself. Do I worry about that? Not really. More like will I love them back or vise-versa?

  • Mar 18, 2014 9:08 AM GMT
    tmac saidYou know the saying "we ignore the ones that adore us, but adore the ones that ignore us"?

    I think that's the vicious cycle that people seem to suck themselves in. Why? I really don't know but it happens far too often.




    So. Damn. True...
  • BloodFlame

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    Mar 20, 2014 8:09 AM GMT
    tmac saidYou know the saying "we ignore the ones that adore us, but adore the ones that ignore us"?

    I think that's the vicious cycle that people seem to suck themselves in. Why? I really don't know but it happens far too often.


    He kind of has a point... lol
    But seriously, it's normal to feel the way you do. The important thing is to not wallow in it. The future is filled with clouds and nothing is certain. You just have to keep an open mind and perhaps, one day you'll meet the right guy.
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    Mar 20, 2014 9:19 AM GMT
    It's actually quite worse. It's not so much that I worry about finding love, it's that my faith in love itself has dwindled somewhat over the years.

    I see certain couples that I once thought of as perfect, now that I've learned about the lying/cheating that goes on in them, I'm not even so sure I want that. Even being involved firsthand in a relationship that turned out to be a hoax; unfaithful. Nor would I want a guy I love to leave me at some point randomly because of "the grass is greener" syndrome - gay men always seem to be out for themselves and always keeping a lookout for the next best thing to roll around.

    I still have hope for true love I guess; I wont succumb to doubt and uncertainty while I'm still alive. Still, the more I learn about love and relationships, the more depressing my outlook becomes. It makes me think about all of the perfectly happy couples that I've ever met - and what REALLY goes on when no one else is around, or what truths are yet to be uncovered between them.

    Ignorance is bliss.
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    Mar 20, 2014 2:59 PM GMT
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    Mar 20, 2014 3:46 PM GMT
    no
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    Mar 20, 2014 5:39 PM GMT
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    You cutt deep sir. Deep.
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    Mar 20, 2014 5:43 PM GMT
    TheSkyWasYellow saidNo, because I gave up on it 100% many years ago. It's sort of liberating to accept that I'll always be unloved, because it eliminates the burden of trying/stressing.

    Yup, this +100. I feel sorry for guys crying themselves to sleep at night because they're worried they're going to grow old single.