Older guys who like younger guys

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    Mar 18, 2014 5:10 AM GMT
    Guys who would consider a relationship (not just sex) with someone younger than themselves: What qualities do you look for in a potential boyfriend? What would a younger guy need to do or be like for you to consider a real relationship?

    Particularly interested in hearing from guys in their mid thirties and upwards icon_smile.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 18, 2014 5:16 AM GMT
    Thom1993 saidGuys who would consider a relationship (not just sex) with someone younger than themselves: What qualities do you look for in a potential boyfriend? What would a younger guy need to do or be like for you to consider a real relationship?

    Particularly interested in hearing from guys in their mid thirties and upwards icon_smile.gif


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    so old
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    Mar 18, 2014 5:23 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    Thom1993 saidGuys who would consider a relationship (not just sex) with someone younger than themselves: What qualities do you look for in a potential boyfriend? What would a younger guy need to do or be like for you to consider a real relationship?

    Particularly interested in hearing from guys in their mid thirties and upwards icon_smile.gif


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    so old


    I meant older relatively to 20 years old I'm not calling people old icon_smile.gif
  • TheSkyWasYell...

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    Mar 18, 2014 5:26 AM GMT
    I admit I'm an older jock, 41 (about 120 in gay years, right, LOL?) and I've always been the horniest for cute, somewhat twinkish-looking guys in their mid or late 20's. That's my ideal bottom.
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    Mar 18, 2014 5:29 AM GMT
    Thom1993 said What qualities do you look for in a potential boyfriend? What would a younger guy need to do or be like for you to consider a real relationship?
    I can't imagine myself getting into a relationship with a guy in his early 20's - but of 35-45 year olds that I have known that have had relationships with guys your age, the young guy was always much more mature than one would expect; overly intelligent, and interested in adult type things, rather than Brittany Spears and young scene music.
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    Mar 18, 2014 5:31 AM GMT
    I'm usually attracted to older myself..only this last year was the first time I even fucked a guy my age or younger
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    Mar 18, 2014 5:31 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidUgh, I don't know why there is so much disdain here for older men. I for one, am happy to seek them out and have no doubt that my next relationship will be with a man at least 10 years or older. And not to sound too vain, but I'm not horrible to look at either. Neither am I desperate or looking for a hand out. I just find myself physically and emotionally more connected with men who are a bit older. icon_biggrin.gif

    Of course, they still have to be very good looking, I will not budge on that. icon_twisted.gif


    I have no disdain. I'm trying to find out what I can do to be more successful in trying to attract an older man who wants a relationship.

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    Mar 18, 2014 5:49 AM GMT
    I never said 30 was old.

    I was just curious why I've been unsuccessful so far.

    I don't care if you think I'm ugly because I'm looking for someone who would look beyond my appearance.
  • buddycat

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    Mar 18, 2014 5:51 AM GMT
    Thom is 20 so 30 is a decade older. Who knows really. Different older men like different younger men. Older muscle guys tend to like younger muscle guys. There is simply no formula for attracting certain men. I know those who seek a relationship should dress more traditionally but that is certainly not the case, some dress more stylish and do OK with that.
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    Mar 18, 2014 5:59 AM GMT
    I just mean looks aren't the most important thing to me.

    I can't do much about my general appearance so there's no point in me trying.

    I value loyalty more than looks anyways and someone who can help me build my esteem and be like a guiding figure who can help me make good decisions in life etc.

    Plus I won't lie guys in their 30s to 50s are generally really attractive.
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    Mar 18, 2014 6:02 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    Thom1993 saidI never said 30 was old.

    I was just curious why I've been unsuccessful so far.

    I don't care if you think I'm ugly because I'm looking for someone who would look beyond my appearance.


    So in other words, you want someone ugly....icon_confused.gif

    You think an attractive man wants someone ugly?



    you muthafukin hoe#1 didnt I tell you to stay in line back in december ???
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    Mar 18, 2014 6:02 AM GMT
    Thom1993 saidGuys who would consider a relationship (not just sex) with someone younger than themselves: What qualities do you look for in a potential boyfriend? What would a younger guy need to do or be like for you to consider a real relationship?

    Particularly interested in hearing from guys in their mid thirties and upwards icon_smile.gif


    Nah, some guys in their 30s to 50s are butt ugly. Some make a lot of money though, with your attitude maybe find a butt ugly guy with tons of money to spend on you.
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    Thom1993 saidGuys who would consider a relationship (not just sex) with someone younger than themselves: What qualities do you look for in a potential boyfriend? What would a younger guy need to do or be like for you to consider a real relationship?

    Particularly interested in hearing from guys in their mid thirties and upwards icon_smile.gif


    Nah, some guys in their 30s to 50s are butt ugly. Some make a lot of money though, with your attitude maybe find a butt ugly guy with tons of money to spend on you.


    I don't care about money. I have a job, I study and I have a my own place. Hopefully once I've finished studying I'll get a better job too.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 18, 2014 6:08 AM GMT
    It is everyone's endless chase .... The one we want is looking for someone else .... And we are not looking for the one that wants us ... All hope is lost .... You either settle for the one that wants you ... Or you wait around hoping someone you want will settle for you.
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    Mar 18, 2014 6:09 AM GMT
    I've had long term relationships with guys 9 years older, as well as guys 9 years younger than me. Everyone is different so it's hard to say what what a younger guy wants as opposed to someone older.
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    Mar 18, 2014 6:16 AM GMT
    icefan saidI've had long term relationships with guys 9 years older, as well as guys 9 years younger than me. Everyone is different so it's hard to say what what a younger guy wants as opposed to someone older.


    I was seeing someone who is 31 but 6 months down the line I found out we weren't actually together and we were just having sex so I'm just trying to avoid that situation again really. I don't like hook ups etc so I want someone who actually does want to be with me.
  • buddycat

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    Mar 18, 2014 6:18 AM GMT
    Well we sometimes want what we can't have. The trick is to find someone who wants you as you want them. Unfortunately there simply is no magic formula for attracting someone with certain attributes. I would thick that everyone looks for the same or better but often it seems they are really looking for better.
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    Mar 18, 2014 6:38 AM GMT
    Regardless of age, I think the general rule applies.. Go after someone that has similar interests and outlooks on life.
  • MikeW

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    Mar 18, 2014 7:35 AM GMT
    Thom1993 saidWhat would a younger guy need to do or be like for you to consider a real relationship?

    I think so long as two guys are caught in seeing one another as either "older" or "younger" they can't develop a real relationship. This is difficult because in a May/December relationship, there is a certain reality to the fact that one is either "younger" or "older". It's part of the dynamic that makes it exciting for both. But, if either one only relates to the other not as a real human being but as a "type"--an image--then the relationship can't go very far.

    I don't know if what I'm trying to say makes sense. I'm not quite sure how to put it into words. Its like, I would be flattered if a younger man found me interesting and attractive, on one hand, but if they did so only because I was "older," because I fulfilled some pre-determined category in their mind, then at a certain point I'm going to feel objectified by that and feel like I'm not really being seen for myself. I would assume most younger guys would feel the same way from the other side of the equation. Do you want me to love you for who you are or for the fact you're "younger"?

    It is difficult for guys to really get to know one another because we're complicated beings. Most of us don't have a clue even about ourselves, let alone anyone else. I mean we all have personalities and our personalities are multifaceted. Some parts of ourselves we may know very well but other parts not so much. Some parts may be very attractive, others boring, some downright ugly or scary. And how do these different personalities fit together? And especially how do they fit together when one is so young it hasn't fully developed yet and the other so developed it has become almost set in stone, no longer flexible and growing?

    I would need a younger man who was willing to think about these things, be open to exploring questions like these while, at the same time, not taking them overly seriously. I would need someone who could love me for *all* that I am and who would feel comfortable sharing all that he is with me.

    This isn't a generalization, though. Everyone is different. I'm just talking about how I see it.
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    Mar 18, 2014 2:18 PM GMT
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    Thom1993 saidWhat would a younger guy need to do or be like for you to consider a real relationship?

    I think so long as two guys are caught in seeing one another as either "older" or "younger" they can't develop a real relationship. This is difficult because in a May/December relationship, there is a certain reality to the fact that one is either "younger" or "older". It's part of the dynamic that makes it exciting for both. But, if either one only relates to the other not as a real human being but as a "type"--an image--then the relationship can't go very far.

    I don't know if what I'm trying to say makes sense. I'm not quite sure how to put it into words. Its like, I would be flattered if a younger man found me interesting and attractive, on one hand, but if they did so only because I was "older," because I fulfilled some pre-determined category in their mind, then at a certain point I'm going to feel objectified by that and feel like I'm not really being seen for myself. I would assume most younger guys would feel the same way from the other side of the equation. Do you want me to love you for who you are or for the fact you're "younger"?

    It is difficult for guys to really get to know one another because we're complicated beings. Most of us don't have a clue even about ourselves, let alone anyone else. I mean we all have personalities and our personalities are multifaceted. Some parts of ourselves we may know very well but other parts not so much. Some parts may be very attractive, others boring, some downright ugly or scary. And how do these different personalities fit together? And especially how do they fit together when one is so young it hasn't fully developed yet and the other so developed it has become almost set in stone, no longer flexible and growing?

    I would need a younger man who was willing to think about these things, be open to exploring questions like these while, at the same time, not taking them overly seriously. I would need someone who could love me for *all* that I am and who would feel comfortable sharing all that he is with me.

    This isn't a generalization, though. Everyone is different. I'm just talking about how I see it.


    I don't exclusively like guys older than me and not all older guys possess the qualities I like. Generally speaking though I feel more secure around older guys and I feel I can trust them to be less judgemental. It's not always the case though because my ex dumped me for being frigid so I learned the hard way there that some guys are immature regardless of age.

    The guy I've had like a crush on for about 5 or 6 years but for some reason especially lately (to the point it's becoming unhealthy) is 27. He is mature so I don't care that he is a bit younger than my ex because personality wise he's awesome.
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    Mar 18, 2014 2:36 PM GMT
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    Thom1993 said
    jmusmc85 saidUgh, I don't know why there is so much disdain here for older men. I for one, am happy to seek them out and have no doubt that my next relationship will be with a man at least 10 years or older. And not to sound too vain, but I'm not horrible to look at either. Neither am I desperate or looking for a hand out. I just find myself physically and emotionally more connected with men who are a bit older. icon_biggrin.gif
    Of course, they still have to be very good looking, I will not budge on that. icon_twisted.gif

    I have no disdain. I'm trying to find out what I can do to be more successful in trying to attract an older man who wants a relationship.

    Well, you can stop being ugly. And then stop being naive.
    Listen here son, it's easy to attract any guy to fuck. But if you want to attract quality MEN, you have to think like one. I know I may act silly and stupid aound here, but it's all an act. I wouldn't actually let half this shit fly in front of Mr. X. Why? Because I'm not stupid.
    You are very wet behind the ears. The most you will be probably able to attract is Herbert the Pervert from down the street. The fact that you think 30 is old speaks volumes about your maturity level.
    The more you know...

    Although I agree with some of what jmusc says, his approach and comments are well beyond rude and show his level of maturity isn't sky high either, despite attempts to make it seem like an act.

    Having said that and as the 'older man with a younger partner' I have to agree that older men do look for a certain maturity level in a younger guy. I think most older guys look for the energy and youthful look accompanied by a guy that acts, communicates and displays an age beyond what they really are. The recognition and appreciation for someone that has experience and wisdom is also a big added bonus in my opinion.

    If you can display these things you'll attract an older guy interested in you not just tonight but tomorrow too!
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    Mar 18, 2014 2:47 PM GMT
    Where did OP run off to? icon_eek.gificon_surprised.gif
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    Mar 18, 2014 4:36 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidWhere did OP run off to? icon_eek.gificon_surprised.gif

    I hope this thread didn't scare him off. He seems like one of the nicer guys around here.
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    Mar 18, 2014 5:14 PM GMT
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    JumpMan_Josh saidWhere did OP run off to? icon_eek.gificon_surprised.gif

    I hope this thread didn't scare him off. He seems like one of the nicer guys around here.


    Nah, got an e-mail from him. Some RJ members reported him saying he was too young without any evidence. He got the ban hammer apparently.

    Instead of just banning him if the admin really think he is too young they should make him photocopy his I.D. or something. It's not fair to just get rid of one's account without rhyme or reason. icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 18, 2014 9:15 PM GMT
    I'M BACK!!