Hanging out with friends the first night.

  • goodmagic

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    Mar 19, 2014 5:13 PM GMT
    last night I was invited to hang with this guy I met at the gym. Anyway he wanted me to meet up with him and a group of friends drinks,which I did.Everything was going ok. Towards 11:00pm he tells me he gotta run because he needs to hook-up with someone. I was like hey I came here to hang with you now your going to go hook-up? I was alittle displeased about it because I think if you hang with a person on the first night you shouldn't ditch them to go get laid. I totally do not respect guys who do that sort of thing. I have never done that to a friend the first night we hangout.If you gonna go sleep with someone do that on your own time.I'm debating if I should even presume the friendship.
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    Mar 19, 2014 5:17 PM GMT
    Are you hurt he doesn't want to sleep with you?
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    Mar 19, 2014 5:19 PM GMT
    At least your gym guys wanna hang out.mine just wanna see my Weiner
  • Matras

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    Mar 19, 2014 5:20 PM GMT
    I think you are slut now, sorry.
  • goodmagic

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    Mar 19, 2014 6:01 PM GMT
    Sweetooth saidAre you hurt he doesn't want to sleep with you?


    I would not tolerate that if I was hanging with a woman either.As for me wanting to sleep with him that is not the issue.I don't sleep with friends.
  • Suetonius

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    Mar 19, 2014 7:26 PM GMT
    OP - your rules for how others ought to behave are not universally accepted etiquette. He apparently didn't invite you to spend the night. If he had a planned hookup at 11-ish, it was time to end the "hanging out" time, and go home to your own bed.
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    Mar 19, 2014 7:33 PM GMT
    I don't see the issue. If you two are really friends, then your response should have been to tell him to go have fun and be safe. And then contact you in the future to hang out again.
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    Mar 19, 2014 7:39 PM GMT
    uhh I don't see the problem here. You said he's a friend and he clearly informed you that he's got other plans. Don't get butthurt now
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    Mar 19, 2014 7:40 PM GMT
    he wasnt your friend, just a buddy from the gym. I agree that wasnt very polite of him to abbandon you to hook up with some guy, but its not like you 2 were in a date either. He probably thought you would hang out with the rest of his friends.
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    Mar 19, 2014 9:19 PM GMT
    _Behemoth_ saidAt least your gym guys wanna hang out. mine just wanna see my Weiner.

    Switch to a gym with open showers.
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    Mar 19, 2014 9:39 PM GMT
    I agree that it wasn't a considerate thing to do, friend or not. He invited you to spend time with he and his friends so he should accept that his ticket is punched for the night and getting laid is going to have to wait. I think it reflects poorly on his decision, I'd be disappointed also.
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    Mar 19, 2014 9:40 PM GMT
    If one of my friends ditched me to go hook up - or even if they pulled at a bar - and left me either on my own or with strangers I'd not speak to them until they made it up to me. It's happened to me before and it's awkward and horrible. If we're out with other friends I don't care but if it's just me and another then friends come first!
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    Mar 19, 2014 9:53 PM GMT
    I agree that it was rude, but perhaps after spending a few hours with the OP he decided that he wasn't his cup of tea and used that excuse because he knew it would quell any further interest from the OP. Not that that's a reasonable excuse for his behavior, mind you.
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    Mar 21, 2014 3:38 PM GMT
    If your friend told you ahead of time that he had prior engagements, then there would be no reason to be upset.

    However, since he didn't do that and just dropped you, then you have the right to be a bit pissed. I'd feel some type of way too if my friend just dropped me like that for a hookup, and imagining that, it seems rather upsetting and awkward.
  • goodmagic

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    Apr 02, 2014 9:10 PM GMT
    We don't speak anymore. I'm not upset about it I spoke my peace he decided not to continue the friendship.Do I have any regrets nope.
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    Apr 03, 2014 12:43 AM GMT
    That's weird. At least he could have made something up like "I have to go give my friend a ride" or something like that lol