Is it normal for straight guys to ask you if you find them attractive?

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    Mar 23, 2014 5:53 AM GMT
    Came out to his guy a while ago and since then he keeps asking me things like that. I have a crush on him but I don't act on it at all because I think he is straight?!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 23, 2014 7:27 AM GMT
    Yes, it is normal for them to ask such questions. It's human nature to want to know whether or not people find you attractive. Just say yes and if they weren't straight, they'd be high on your would like to date list.
  • buddycat

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    Mar 23, 2014 7:35 AM GMT
    arctick saidCame out to his guy a while ago and since then he keeps asking me things like that. I have a crush on him but I don't act on it at all because I think he is straight?!


    Could be just looking for a compliment or maybe he is a little curious about being with a guy. Either or, just answer honestly.
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    Mar 23, 2014 7:36 AM GMT
    Just tell him no. Otherwise, you're never going to hear the end of it.
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    Mar 23, 2014 8:18 AM GMT
    my stock standard answer is I look at them critically and answer with "yeah, your alright"

    guys seem to take that as both a compliment and none sexual.
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    Mar 23, 2014 8:43 AM GMT
    "You're definitely attractive but I don't fancy you because someone has to fancy me for me to like them in that way."
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    Mar 23, 2014 2:37 PM GMT
    haha thanks guys!

    He has been my best friend since high school and he was the first person i came out to. He's been fully supportive and if anything its brought us a lot closer.

    I can't help to be attracted to him though, he's VERY good looking, but as I said I do love him as a friend and I would never do anything to jeopardise that.

    Just find it odd the frequency he asks me stuff like that!
  • Webster666

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    Mar 23, 2014 8:44 PM GMT
    Everything is "normal."
    Nothing is "normal."

    From what you've said, I would be very much in doubt if your friend is anywhere near 100% straight.
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    Mar 23, 2014 9:21 PM GMT
    Because he knows you have a crush on him and/or you're acting completely different towards him to hide that you have a crush on him.

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    Mar 23, 2014 11:49 PM GMT
    Sure. I have a straight friend that wondered if I was attracted to him cause he did want to mess around. I said no, like him more like a brother. He doesn't like penis he said and doesn't understand why guys can kiss each other. So maybe he has issues.
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    Apr 20, 2014 5:04 PM GMT
    Yeh it's painful, but oh well :/
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:22 PM GMT
    Yup, perfectly normal. Watch out tho, the moment you tell them they are not your type they wont stop until u fully explain why lol.
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:45 PM GMT
    Yes, there's nothing wrong with it! And one of the reasons why the straight guy is asking you is because if you don't find him attractive, then women are not going to find him attractive either.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 20, 2014 7:24 PM GMT
    I see nothing wrong or abnormal about a straight guy asking a you if you find him attractive or beautiful. This could indicate that the straight guy is open minded and accepting of everyone. A homophobe would never ask another guy about whether or not he is attractive.
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    Apr 20, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidI see nothing wrong or abnormal about a straight guy asking a you if you find him attractive or beautiful. This could indicate that the straight guy is open minded and accepting of everyone. A homophobe would never ask another guy about whether or not he is attractive.


    I agree. Since he's been your bff, and now knows your Gay, he respects your opinion on male aesthetics. Straight guys are a lot cooler about that nowadays. It could even be a little flirting, a bromance kind of thing. Everyone has a sort of attraction to their friends, gay or straight, and everyone wants to feel attractive. But NOT necessarily sexually!
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    Apr 20, 2014 10:37 PM GMT
    charlitos saidYup, perfectly normal. Watch out tho, the moment you tell them they are not your type they wont stop until u fully explain why lol.
    yes, wtf is with that? and you tell them and they get all butt hurt. Weird are the straight males!