Interest in someone I previously rejected

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    Mar 23, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    Maybe my standards are dropping.

    Last night I was at a small party where a new circle of gay friends merged with ours... one looked vaguely familiar and pretty cute, partly because he was hilarious and spoke his mind. The company last night was whiter than St Patty's day, so I wasn't sure how we could've crossed paths.

    Turns out he had messaged me on POF a while ago but I had ignored him, because at the time his hair was dyed blond and looked really gay. He's still sounds pretty gay, but somehow I don't mind as much now.

    The only thing stopping me from reciprocating his advances is the fact that if I do, it would be the 4th time I dated among friends, and will elicit judging eyes from the other friends lol.
  • Amira

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    Mar 23, 2014 8:47 PM GMT
    Well, that's what you get. You rejected a guy based off his hair color when it turns out he has a nice personality. icon_lol.gif
  • ChiGuy999

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    Mar 23, 2014 10:14 PM GMT
    Don't overthink it. You saw him again in a completely different context (in comparison to plenty of fish). Forget what others think of you, make a move and see how it goes! Maybe something great will turn out I it. If not, shake it off and go on to the next one. Good luck, man!
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    Mar 23, 2014 11:32 PM GMT
    you got to have standards beyond hair color
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    Mar 23, 2014 11:51 PM GMT
    If he mentions it say you are really lazy on those apps and you never sent any messages to anyone.
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Mar 24, 2014 4:44 AM GMT
    ^^Are you paz_daddy or spaz_daddy? LOL always so angry...
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    Mar 24, 2014 9:15 AM GMT
    Could it hurt to reach out to him?

    As far as the judging friends go, who cares?
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    Mar 24, 2014 6:12 PM GMT
    u should just shoot him a message on POF anyway and be all "omg, so I didnt see this msg, ugh so sorry!" and then bam rekindle that old flame, u scallywag!
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    Mar 26, 2014 6:52 AM GMT
    The other thing is he came off as somewhat slutty, being only 19 years old and exploring, which I can kinda understand. I'm very image conscious, so although I might not write him off myself, knowing that my friends know that I know that he's easy forces me to let this one go lol.
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    Mar 26, 2014 8:57 AM GMT
    gooddaytoday saidThe other thing is he came off as somewhat slutty, being only 19 years old and exploring, which I can kinda understand. I'm very image conscious, so although I might not write him off myself, the fact that my friends know that I know that he's easy forces me to let this one go lol.


    Make up your mind already icon_mad.gif!

    The truth out there is this: everyone has their own dirt and insecurities, some just hide it better than others. So still, I say who cares about judgement? The ones that have already hit that (or worse) will be the first ones to call you out and shame you. The whole idea behind friendship is that they are supposed to be the people that do not judge you.

    So, fuck it icon_lol.gif.
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    Mar 26, 2014 10:55 PM GMT
    Lol get off your high horse ego and ask him out and be honest with him. I mean, what do you have to lose? Who cares what your friends say, they're probably just gossipy and jealous.