Getting Over An Ex...

  • BerkleeBoy118

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    Dec 26, 2008 8:58 PM GMT
    This past summer I was romantically involved with a 29 year old man named Frey. He was one of those myspace celebs with like 29875293745 friends and was very attractive and very sought after, and had way with words for sure. We were "dating" considering he lived in chicago and I lived in Delaware at the time. He was very controlling and immature and would snap at the smallest things, such as, me coughing on the phone...pressing the ignore button for no reason when I would call him etc and like stuff like that. He would insult my weight. bash my talents, and make me so upset on days that he knew mattered to me on purpose....such as graduation....family reunions...etc... but I put up with it. Long story short. One day I found out he was cheating on me with...6 other men....at the same time...and none of them had any idea that this was going on. we had a big fight etc....stopped communicating. however, I missed him alot and after alot of crap...we started building the bridge to be friends again. I still liked him very much, but it was apparent he had moved on. He promised me he had changed and that he was a totally diffrent person. HOWEVER, last night we talked and he was being QUITE romantic. and it got my hopes up quite a bit. we were talking on video chat. and then I had to go for 5 seconds to say goodbye to my friend lauren who is leaving for 4 months! he got EXTREMELY pissed and said that he couldnt beleive that i wasnt devoting my entire self to him. and signed off. saying he had to hang out with his roomate. he promised me his roomate was straight and that they were best friends. which i was cool with. however. as soon as he got offline he texted me telling me that they were dating and very much in love. that they have amazing sex. and i would never ever in my life have a chance with him again, to leave him alone, and fuck off....and called me while they were having sex so I could hear.........resorting right back to his old behavior... =/....this was a pretty lame description...but I hope it gave you all a gist of the situation....I don't understand why I'm still for some reason attracted to this guy. He's a total dick.....because of how he's made me feel. very insecure about myself and.so my question is......Has anyone ever been in a situation like this before? and How did you deal/cope with it... and move on?
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    Dec 26, 2008 9:01 PM GMT
    Advice: do not ever date long-distance. He was probably fucking all his 298000000 myspace friends while he was pretending to be your boyfriend.
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    Dec 26, 2008 9:56 PM GMT
    It'll pass.
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  • pelotudo87

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    Dec 27, 2008 1:06 AM GMT
    You just need to let that dude go. He's emotionally abusing you. Even though it hurts, you gotta just let him go.
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    Dec 27, 2008 1:10 AM GMT
    He's not worth the dirt under your feet.
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    Dec 27, 2008 1:34 AM GMT
    You're pretty young and still have your whole life ahead of you (nothing wrong with that). Take this as a lesson for you to get stronger as an individual because he's missing out on a really sexy and smart guy. Take it from me, you will only get hotter and sexier as you get older and gain more life experiences. Of course it's going to hurt trying to move on but you know it is what's best for you. No one deserves to go through this kind of emotional abuse let alone should you tolerate it from happening again.

    "Even though I really love you, I'm going to smile 'cause I deserve to." - Leona Lewis

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    Dec 27, 2008 1:35 AM GMT
    He really sounds like an insecure bastard!!

    Delete Pictures, Images and Photos him before is too late! icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 27, 2008 1:41 AM GMT
    I say whenever you feel like you miss him, read what you just wrote again and again.
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    Dec 27, 2008 1:45 AM GMT
    The doctor prescribes: "A little rebound action, 30 minutes, 3x daily".
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    Dec 27, 2008 1:47 AM GMT
    Let it go and move on. focus on something that makes you feel good about yourself- friends, family, hobbies, school/work. the hurt will pass. and in the long run, you will find yourself a stronger person for making it through a difficult period constructively.
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    Dec 27, 2008 2:09 AM GMT


    Hey BerkleeBoy118,

    Take a look at this guy from another perspective; a real lover should be located in the cheering section of the stands in the game of life. If he isn't giving you standing ovations, he isn't the one for you....

    You've clearly got a lot of stamina which is 10 points in the book of Bill and Doug, so don't let another wear it down. You have something huge to offer (heh, no pun intended) so don't toss it before someone who can't and even won't appreciate it.

    Some guys view another as something 'ta have' and you'll notice we say 'something' rather than 'someone' as therein lies the problem, they see others as things rather than people...and he seems like he knows how to flip sides on his record (remember them?) and play side 2 with just what sweet words to trap you with.

    Walk away satisfied. As Mom would say, the New Year is a new page - write on it!

    -Doug of meninlove
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    Dec 27, 2008 2:14 AM GMT
    sorry but what a MEAN BITCH is he... i cant believe some guys are really this much careless and cold hearted, ure better off without this idiot, go find someone who treats u well respects u and appreciates u with your goods and bads. this guy is an idiot and one day (if ever) he will find him self in deep misery. just move on and forget about him.
  • zakariahzol

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    Dec 27, 2008 2:25 AM GMT
    As good looking as you are, why do you wasting time with bastard. You find a better replacement for him withnin months. You are just 19, and still very inexperience in this matter. Take it from older guy like me, his not worth it, move on.
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    Dec 27, 2008 7:45 AM GMT
    As Dan Savage would say DTMFA!!!!

    (Dump the motherfucker already!)
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    Dec 27, 2008 8:07 AM GMT
    Run. As fast as you can.
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    Dec 27, 2008 8:17 AM GMT
    Come! I've brought smoke bombs! lets go! he'll never find you
  • SFGeoNinja

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    Dec 27, 2008 9:43 AM GMT
    I agree with Tony, DTMFA. He clearly never acted like your boyfriend, he only pretended to be serious with you so he could project his insecurities onto you and use you for attention when he felt like it. I would say not only dump him, but delete him from all aspects of your life, delete his number, delete him on myspace, everywhere else you'd run into his presence. A guy that age putting you through all that shit? He's not worth a second of your time
  • GQjock

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    Dec 27, 2008 12:24 PM GMT
    And you're grieving this process Why?

    Consider yourself LUCKY you got rid of this Fool
  • cityguy39

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    Dec 27, 2008 12:38 PM GMT
    Men are like public transportation, if you wait long enough, you will get a bus or subway car, that's clean and fresh on it's maiden run, you sit down and go AHHHH! Plus your very young, put this guy in your mental rolodex under Ass Hole, so you will recognize his type again when he crosses your path, because his kind will, just like the bus you catch every morning for work or school. The same one with the dings and dents that your learn to recognize each day. You will meet another guy who will make you forget all about him. Right now just get out and meet people and start having fun and some sex.
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    Dec 28, 2008 5:49 AM GMT
    Thank your lucky stars that its over...but from reading your post...im not sure it ever started. Why were you with him again. The guy sound like a control freak/loser. Why were you settling for him when its clear you deserve better. The fact that he text you saying he is having amazing sex is childish. And im sorry...he was cheating on you with not one, not two but SIX people...that you know of. There should be no getting over this ex...you should be OVER him.