piikea saidI was trying to get some perspective on my situation to see if it was an "unusual" amount of time or not (1.5 yr.'s). Unfortunately I am not the one able to decide in my case.
Apparently he decided:
"If there is(was) genuine and mutual chemistry, chances are it would have progressed......" and found someone else
But I was:
"left in the dark, that's when its an issue."
Not that I know what I could have done about it had I known he was thinking that. Tragic irony is just a week or two prior I'd thought to myself "we really are seeming/acting more comfortable & compatible with each other more than ever." It must've been one sided.
I understand how you feel.. Which is why I say dating can be such a run around. I usually find that those who just comfortable with "dating" you for months and months but with no clear direction usually are using that time to date others as well to find someone else that they actually want to settle with.
Which is why I personally think it's better for me to keep things at a friend level, getting to know the person and if we both do want more then we can pursue that. Rather than to emotionally invest in dating.
We never have control over how things go with others. At best we can do is be honest with others and hope they do the same. If a situation seems awkward, don't put too much into it.
Sorry that he gave you missed signals, you seem really nice!