Have you ever been rejected

  • Matthew56

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    Apr 01, 2014 11:08 AM GMT
    Have you ever been rejected by someone or worst the man of your dreams? If so how did it feel? Did you feel butt ugly or like there is something wrong with you looks wise?
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    Apr 01, 2014 11:28 AM GMT
    Lots of times.

    I was rejected by my father as he suspected I wasn't his although truth be told he was a drug user so I suspect it was more to do with his selfishness.

    I was seeing a retiree married man for a while but when his wife's retirement was coming up he basically tried to pay me off and told me to never contact him again.

    When I had a Saturday job whilst I was at college my colleague flirted with me all the time so we met for a drink and we did get intimate just the once. He blabbed to a friend and they told his boyfriend (who I never knew about). Long story short his bf kicked 7 shades of crap ought of me and my colleague never contacted me again and eventually I quit that job because it was mega awkward.

    There's been more occasions since then but they are my earliest big rejections. The reason I have listed more than one occasion is to illustrate rejection is a part of life. Nobody's life follows a permanently upward trajectory where they are loved by all. Rejection is natural and when (not if it happens) you just got to dust yourself off and get on with it.
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    Apr 01, 2014 12:01 PM GMT
    Of course i have never been rejected. This is so silly, how in the gay world do you rejected? You click on their grindr profile, send a message that says "blow me" and get a response back "where?"
  • Karl

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    Apr 01, 2014 12:09 PM GMT
    many many times
    nobody wants me lol

    but there will be, definitely.
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    Apr 01, 2014 4:27 PM GMT
    Ofcourse not. I've never been rejected. They were all just too afraid to admit that they couldn't handle my awesomeness....
  • 7913p

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    Apr 01, 2014 7:20 PM GMT
    I have been rejected a lot of times. It does not feel good. It makes you feel like not one wants you. But you do move on. I had a post called Feeling Rejected. It takes time. It is not easy.
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    Apr 01, 2014 9:28 PM GMT
    If you are alive and reading this I am 100% certain you were rejected at one point in your life and you will be rejected again in the future. It's just part of life. It's how you handle it that is most important.
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    Apr 01, 2014 9:29 PM GMT
    In relationship matters no, not really, that was more of a different category.

    But more on the culture and racist matters Yes in many awkward ways where it was more of a "Alienated" case Eg. back in collage days where Chinese students wont wanna like accept me in a group eg. group work cause I'm not fully a Chinese.
    Indians are very skeptical cause I'm mix and not fully Indian and I don't speak their language despite having an Indian name and I don't even look like any of the locals.

    Only a mix groups of individual usually I would say more openly mind will like "have to" form a group that most would be the case. Otherwise most of time I'm usually alone or a 3 in group case of that will be foreigners of mainly Iranians or Turkish like or 1, 2 random cool people I would say icon_cool.gif

    That said at this stage I cant be bothered the ones with a fish bowl mind, cause life goes with a dynamic to your standings and the confidence on knowing you and loving yourself!, after all we are all very distinctive individuals. And what more to be the free in mind as the wise of let it be! especially beings that are not to your concern just temporary, that's all! icon_wink.gif. Well It may also be that little optimism that's been planted in me since I was a kid of that very Happy go lucky kind.
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    Apr 01, 2014 9:34 PM GMT
    No, because I don't put myself out there enough to be rejected. I wait to be approached and never make a move, it's better like that.
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    Apr 01, 2014 9:40 PM GMT
    All the time that it feels natural.
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    Apr 01, 2014 9:50 PM GMT
    Rejection is part and parcel of being alive. It's the perspective you take to it that makes all the difference.

    Sometimes, rejection can be a good thing. E.g., you're a leader and folks don't understand, or are too afraid to follow. Other times, rejection is systematic of a behavioral issue in how you interact with others, or your body of work.

    It's important to be able to look at things you can influence, and..those you can't. E.g., I'll never play in The NBA. I'm o.k. with that.
  • Porkie

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    Apr 01, 2014 9:53 PM GMT
    I have been rejected, no one can appeal to everyone.
    Do I feel ugly? Yes, some days I feel "butt" ugly - but it hasn't got anything to do with any rejection issues. Some days you just wake up ugly.
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    Apr 01, 2014 9:56 PM GMT
    hmmm wen someone uve been talking to for a while stops talkin to u all of a sudden.. yes rejected many times.. never even had the chance to meet them offline.. seems so easy to cut people out these days..
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    Apr 01, 2014 10:11 PM GMT
    You mean like the time I got up to go to the restroom and came back to the table where the guy AND my beer were gone? Nope, never happened...icon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_redface.gificon_eek.gificon_eek.gif
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    Apr 01, 2014 10:19 PM GMT
    Yep. Many times. Doesn't feel nice.
  • toastvenom

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    Apr 01, 2014 10:21 PM GMT
    we're all just simple props to occupy one another's time (Yeah, a Michael stipe reference)
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    Apr 01, 2014 10:25 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidYou mean like the time I got up to go to the restroom and came back to the table where the guy AND my beer were gone? Nope, never happened...icon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_redface.gificon_eek.gificon_eek.gif


    Wow... what a Jerk that guy was. Sorry to hear that.
  • Amira

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    Apr 01, 2014 10:45 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidIf you are alive and reading this I am 100% certain you were rejected at one point in your life and you will be rejected again in the future. It's just part of life. It's how you handle it that is most important.


    Exactly.. We can't control how others feel, we can only control how we handle the situation and move on.
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    Apr 01, 2014 10:59 PM GMT
    I've been rejected 2 times. romantically speaking.

    Everyone gets rejected at least 1 time in their life & whoever says they didn't is prolly lying. or maybe they just never really had a life.

    Anyways I'm pretty sure being dumped by your bf/partner should also count as rejection.

    First time it was by a huge crush I had in college. We would flirt a lot forever but the one time I told him I liked him he goes oh I could never ever see you as anything but a friend. I didn't really feel sad as much as I felt angry. mostly bc I was feelin oh so sure he would feel the same way as I did. but anyways. In hindsight I guess the guy was sort of out-of-my-league. & I really do fckn hate that concept but say if I'm like a 6 or 7 this dude was prolly an 8.

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    Apr 01, 2014 11:01 PM GMT
    wtf double post.

    anyways yeah. rejection. sometimes it makes you think that you want someone when you really don't.

    it's kinda like that sayin the grass is always greener on the other side.

    people seem to always want what they can't have.

    like sometimes i see people being in a relationship and never really giving a fuck about their partner until they're dumped by them. then they get all in obsessive mode.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Apr 01, 2014 11:02 PM GMT
    Uh...
    Everyone has? lol
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    Apr 01, 2014 11:03 PM GMT
    Have you never been mellow?
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    Apr 01, 2014 11:21 PM GMT
    never understood why anybody would feel like NOBODY wants them just bc they were rejected by 1 person.

    unless you're being rejected a lot. like owl_bundy.

    then you're prolly just a good ol loser.
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    Apr 01, 2014 11:39 PM GMT
    Sure it sucks, but more often than not you come to realize they wouldn't be a good fit for you. As well you just need to understand that people have different things they find attractive.
  • davidchill45

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    Apr 01, 2014 11:42 PM GMT
    manboynyc said
    eb925guy saidYou mean like the time I got up to go to the restroom and came back to the table where the guy AND my beer were gone? Nope, never happened...icon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_redface.gificon_eek.gificon_eek.gif


    Wow... what a Jerk that guy was. Sorry to hear that.

    No shit, what an asshat.