How should I move ahead with him?

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    Apr 02, 2014 12:29 AM GMT
    So, I recently met this guy. There have been these two awesome dates. Though, I am not sure up to what levels, we both know and have already told each other that there's this spark!

    Now the problem is, due to work and other stuff going around every now and then, we are moving ahead so slow that sometimes I absolutely forget that I have dated him already! But again, I do not want to rush things only to give him a wrong impression. Believe me, this has happened already...I really like this guy and hoping to move and date him more frequently.

    How should I convey this to him in a well manner?
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    Apr 02, 2014 12:43 AM GMT
    Cards on the table just ask him where he sees it going and ask if he will be able to find time for you. If not move on.
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    Apr 02, 2014 12:45 AM GMT
    Maybe I'm just old fashioned or plain old dumb but I don't understand the problem. Why don't you talk and tell him how you're feeling. Which, as I understand it, is that you really like him and would like to progress further but are concerned that you don't want to blow it? Obviously this should be done in person or perhaps on the phone (not text!).

    I'm of the opinion that if one has to be *so careful* not to screw up a budding relationship then it isn't meant to go anywhere. Either you both like one another enough to take it to the next level or you don't. My apologies if I'm just being thick, but I don't get it.
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    Apr 02, 2014 12:46 AM GMT
    HamsterCheeks saidCards on the table just ask him where he sees it going and ask if he will be able to find time for you. If not move on.
    Glad I'm not the only one who sees it this way.
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    Apr 02, 2014 1:17 AM GMT
    Shouldn't there be goat entrails involved somehow?
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    Apr 02, 2014 1:51 AM GMT
    MikeW saidMaybe I'm just old fashioned or plain old dumb but I don't understand the problem. Why don't you talk and tell him how you're feeling. Which, as I understand it, is that you really like him and would like to progress further but are concerned that you don't want to blow it? Obviously this should be done in person or perhaps on the phone (not text!).

    I'm of the opinion that if one has to be *so careful* not to screw up a budding relationship then it isn't meant to go anywhere. Either you both like one another enough to take it to the next level or you don't. My apologies if I'm just being thick, but I don't get it.


    Okay, I am understanding the view with a better clarity now. I will definitely think of doing this.
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    Apr 02, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    mpyear2010 said
    But again, I do not want to rush things only to give him a wrong impression. Believe me, this has happened already...I really like this guy and hoping to move and date him more frequently.


    I say you just be honest and articulate that to him.

    As long as you aren't demanding or 'needy' about it, I dont see why he'd think that dating more frequently would be a bad idea - if he does indeed share the spark that you have for him.
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    Apr 02, 2014 8:39 PM GMT
    This is a very challenging part of a new relationship. I think it is best to have a take it or leave it attitude, and this must be expressed through actions not words. If you have the opportunity to meet any of his friends then make sure you take it - if they like you they will be in your corner when he is talking to them about you. This is doubly true if he has not been in a long term relationship .