hellass saidA) You're not into the gay scene
B) You're not fully out of the closet
C) You're pretty masculine (people can't tell you're gay)
I could relate to them a, b and c as well i was recently on a course and the other day i was texting and told someone who i have stayed in contact with about me and she said no one had a clue and thought there was something going on between me and a girl who i have become friends with so C is a struggle for me, B is ok as i am out, A is one that is a total struggle as well im not into the scene for many reasons as all i know of the scene is the gay villages near me e.g. Liverpool and Manchester are basically just full of night clubs and pubs and the sense i get from it is very tacky so i wouldn't want to enter that scene.
You could consider where you may have met lads previously as even when you look around everyone else seems to be in a relationship and or find them so easily when they break up.
The gym is a popular answer but lol i don't get that as nothing as come my way in the gym,
Going out to the pub is the same,
Online is for me abit weird really mainly due to the reason that everyone seems to be just time wasters or idiots.
Let me know if you manage anything that i could take as advise lol