Would you like to know when you will die?

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    Dec 28, 2008 5:10 AM GMT
    I watched The Bucket List , this evening and that was a question asked. I'm sitting on the fence with this one for a change.
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    Dec 28, 2008 5:26 AM GMT
    yeah I would.. my death is inevitable, I am going to die, I'd like to know when, would be useful, it would let me plan accordingly.. to make things right for my family and friends, to see how much I can fit into life..

    it would be useful, I know I certainly don't want to be old and dying slowly, I want it to be sudden, maybe a little unexpected totally random, unique.. or maybe go screaming with a smile on my face.. not sure yet, but I do know I want to be cremated and have my ashes thrown out or have my dead body donated to a necrophiliac.. at least then in death, i'd give someone some pleasure..

    Either way, when I'm dead, I wont give a shit.
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    Dec 28, 2008 7:41 AM GMT
    I know this sounds silly (and simplistic) but I read a quote that totally has relieved my fear of death.

    "The last day of your life will be like any other day, only shorter."
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    Dec 28, 2008 8:06 AM GMT
    Oh, sure I want to know - it's gonna help me plan my life better.
    For example, if I know I'm gonna die in 3 weeks, I wouldn't bother trying to build a life, I would simply try all the crazy things few people would actually do.
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    Dec 28, 2008 8:25 AM GMT
    "Who is John Galt?"
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    Dec 28, 2008 8:39 AM GMT
    Isn't it a given when being given a diagnosis for a terminal illness? If this question is in regards to general death (not related to a diagnosis but like a psychic discovery) then no.
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    Dec 28, 2008 9:20 AM GMT
    If I did I would prob go out and get all these loans max out my credit have gomorrah parties at Tao featuring DJ Jakebenson with a performance by dancerjack and fly my parents around the world before telling them oh yeah your son is bi and yikes I'm going to die soon. Surpriseicon_rolleyes.gif.
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    Dec 28, 2008 9:52 AM GMT
    i'd rather not. I like to come as the way it goes. If i know when I'm going to die, then I'm going to ALWAYS be thinking about that. Then the plannings going to start and stuff. Basically, think of it like this:

    it's just the same way that a cheater would spoil a video game for himself
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    Dec 28, 2008 10:17 AM GMT
    I'd like to know. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 28, 2008 4:22 PM GMT
    tasty_oblivion saidi'd rather not. I like to come as the way it goes. If i know when I'm going to die, then I'm going to ALWAYS be thinking about that. Then the plannings going to start and stuff. Basically, think of it like this:

    it's just the same way that a cheater would spoil a video game for himself


    I like that thinkin' on it. I don't think that is something I want to continuously think about.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Dec 28, 2008 4:37 PM GMT
    I wouldn't want to know...that feeling of impending doom would probably drive me nuts.
  • MuslDrew

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    Dec 28, 2008 5:02 PM GMT
    I'd rather not know. Ideally, I'd have a great day then pass in my sleep.
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    Dec 28, 2008 9:32 PM GMT

    Yes, so I cannot be under that piano that day.
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    Dec 28, 2008 9:41 PM GMT
    I want to know where it is going to happen, so that I can NOT be there. ... icon_lol.gif

    I want to see that movie. My last blood test shot up just a hair below where "the doctor would be concerned." Well, that's close enough for me to be concerned....so I wanna see the movie and take notes.
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    Dec 28, 2008 11:25 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidI wouldn't want to know...that feeling of impending doom would probably drive me nuts.


    You should already have a feeling of impending doom. The only question is the timing.

    For myself, the exact moment might be useful for planning purposes. But since I have already planned (more or less), I could also be surprised and it wouldn't be a great tragedy.

    Has anyone read Gore Vidal's Messiah?
  • Delivis

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    Dec 30, 2008 1:52 AM GMT
    Yes
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    Dec 30, 2008 3:03 AM GMT
    UGH - morbid topic, but yes, If I knew when Bill was going to dies and vice versa, then planning our lives etc would be very different. Time to say goodbyes and get affairs in order. My Dad died abruptly and Bill's went slowly. The family fared better with his Dad's death - by the time he went much had been said, much done, and closure sweeter. My Dad's death still is sending little shock/ripple waves out 12 years later.
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    Dec 30, 2008 8:11 PM GMT
    For those of you who know the Queens Of Comedy/Adele Givens.....

    "Buy a bitch a pizza and surprise a ho!"
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    Dec 30, 2008 8:16 PM GMT
    Nope.
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    Dec 30, 2008 8:28 PM GMT
    ABSOLUTELY! I would clean out my apartment give everything I own to Charity so my family would not have to do it when I'm gone. I would spare them that burden.
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    Dec 30, 2008 8:28 PM GMT
    Only if I had the option to 'unlearn' it.

    There is the lesson of Randy Pausch of wanting to be more effective in my life if I knew.








    ...on the other hand, there are a couple of people who's time I'd like to know.icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 30, 2008 8:32 PM GMT
    Sort of a spinoff of this question, I would like to die doing something I love doing (running) - because for me running has always been an escape - just the physical action of running away from something, which is how it began, which is why running is the best therapy for me.

    Last year I ran a marathon and one of the men running it had something called an 'athletes heart' and died right after completing the race. He apparently didn't know he had it, and of course neither did his family. But look at it this way - he died in his prime. He never had to experience cancer. Or growing old and living in pain. He never had to go through hospice. He never had to go through multiple heart operations, which, had he known about his heart, that would have been his life. For those of us who are known for our athleticism, could you imagine that being your life? There is no way I could ever be happy spending my time in and our of hospitals, and finally hospice; after 10 years of no real relationship prospects I'm beginning to realize my worst nightmare will be when I lose my parents, because I do not see a relationship happening in my lifetime, which means I am going to be alone for much of the rest of my adult life.

    Many people were upset about what happened to this man after the marathon (it was the Twin Cities Marathon) but hey, he was 49, in the best shape of his life, did all the right things concerning his health; when I pull back for a minute, I wonder, what's wrong with that? I understand the shock his family must have felt but on a personal level, it's a relief to know that you will be remembered as a strong, young, active man rather than a sick, dying, lifeless person spending months hooked up to equipment to be kept alive (usually for someone else). I want to choose when I go.
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    Dec 30, 2008 8:38 PM GMT
    DuluthMN saidafter 10 years of no real relationship prospects I'm beginning to realize my worst nightmare will be when I lose my parents, because I do not see a relationship happening in my lifetime, which means I am going to be alone for much of the rest of my adult life.

    Many people were upset about what happened to this man after the marathon (it was the Twin Cities Marathon) but hey, he was 49, in the best shape of his life, did all the right things concerning his health; when I pull back for a minute, I wonder, what's wrong with that?

    Mate, your 34, your life, isn't even half completed yet, the opportunities for relationships are still out there, you just have to grab them.

    And do you really wanna die running.. heres an idea that popped head..

    Your jogging along a path, you have a heart attack, you fall down, head first into the concrete, you scrap up your face pretty bad, along with your arms, knees and side.. your laying there slowly dying, your in pain from the scrapes and the heart attack... doesn't sound like the best way to do it icon_razz.gif hahaha

    Oh I'm being morbid.
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    Dec 30, 2008 8:58 PM GMT
    Nope I would not. I assume it is closer than it used to be though (pretty logical huh?).

    I think knowing when and how would skew the way you live your life, and not necessarily for the better. I must admit I would like to go while doing something I enjoy. Maybe trying to spike a tennis ball at the age of 90!
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    Dec 30, 2008 9:03 PM GMT
    I would definitely like to know, but only if it means that there is something I can do about it. If I were to die from old age and natural causes, I don't think I would want to know.
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