Electronic Disconnect

  • ChicagoSteve

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    Apr 03, 2014 1:01 AM GMT
    I saw an interview recently where an author was talking about her book and one of the things she talks about is how everyone is constantly either got a cell phone in their hand, the TV on or an ipod plugged in listening to music. Her point was that every day we should try to disconnect from the world and enjoy peace and quiet, at least for a few minutes. I am going to try to do that. How many of you guys already do that?
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Apr 03, 2014 1:03 AM GMT
    ahhh a digital detox.... I couldn't do it with school and work. But for a few minutes maybe.
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    Apr 03, 2014 1:08 AM GMT
    No I haven't but I'm going to try.
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    Apr 03, 2014 1:18 AM GMT
    I don't disconnect from the world with electronics. I didn't even bother getting a stereo as a kid and finally bought a used one off a friend upgrading in my senior year of high school. I did have a word processor as soon as they were commercially available and I was on bulletin boards before more sophisticated forums were developed.

    I like how electronics can enhance. I do not enjoy how they distract. I much prefer to hear the birds sing. I saw this crap happening from the start. I remember commenting when my niece and nephews were little that my brother would let them have electronics at the dinner table and that they never sat around to chat after eating just a few bites. My mother never would have allowed that at our table. I wouldn't either.

    My family and friends get that they might not get to me right away. I am not at their beckon call. My phone is often in the trunk of the car and likely turned off when in my pocket.

    I've no ipadpod, no earbuds, no headphones, no Bluetooth, no pocket internet. I abhor speaker phones and won't continue speaking if someone clicks theirs on. I don't text. I do forums, I've done chat and I email. I love google and wiki I love having so much research material so easily available and I still remember DOS prompts. So I guess that makes me computer literate, just not computer idiot.
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    Apr 03, 2014 4:08 AM GMT
    How about disconnecting from the wired world and connecting with the people right in front of you?
  • Webster666

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    Apr 03, 2014 4:18 AM GMT
    I was never drawn to video games or technology.
    I have a land line phone, no cell phone.
    I have a beautiful big flat screen TV, but I was watching only a few programs a week, so I cancelled my satellite dish subscription (about $50 a month).
    I do have a lap top that I use a lot.
    I love the peace and quiet...
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    Apr 03, 2014 5:21 AM GMT
    I don't watch TV or TV shows (e.g., on the computer or tablet) so my entertainment is books. I don't think the internet and web sites are that bad but do think that TV is very bad; you have to stop watching it for a good while to realize how bad it is. I've even come to the conclusion that movies are mostly just so-so; very few are really worth the time or money.
  • MikeW

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    Apr 03, 2014 5:34 AM GMT
    owl_bundy saidthread title sounds like a perfect name for a band or music group. icon_eek.gif

    Nah, too many syllables. Unless they're up there with Bob Marley and the Wailers, that just isn't gonna fly. Most of the greats had 5 or fewer.
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    Apr 03, 2014 1:42 PM GMT
    I do! When my bf and I go to dinner, neither of us pick up our phones until we leave the restaurant. This has become our rule and it has worked very well!
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    Apr 03, 2014 1:48 PM GMT
    theantijock saidI don't disconnect from the world with electronics. I didn't even bother getting a stereo as a kid and finally bought a used one off a friend upgrading in my senior year of high school. I did have a word processor as soon as they were commercially available and I was on bulletin boards before more sophisticated forums were developed.

    I like how electronics can enhance. I do not enjoy how they distract. I much prefer to hear the birds sing. I saw this crap happening from the start. I remember commenting when my niece and nephews were little that my brother would let them have electronics at the dinner table and that they never sat around to chat after eating just a few bites. My mother never would have allowed that at our table. I wouldn't either.

    My family and friends get that they might not get to me right away. I am not at their beckon call. My phone is often in the trunk of the car and likely turned off when in my pocket.

    I've no ipadpod, no earbuds, no headphones, no Bluetooth, no pocket internet. I abhor speaker phones and won't continue speaking if someone clicks theirs on. I don't text. I do forums, I've done chat and I email. I love google and wiki I love having so much research material so easily available and I still remember DOS prompts. So I guess that makes me computer literate, just not computer idiot.


    I like your style..but you knew that!
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    Apr 03, 2014 2:08 PM GMT
    theantijock said ... My family and friends get that they might not get to me right away. I am not at their beckon call. My phone is often in the trunk of the car and likely turned off when in my pocket ...
    dont think this would go over well for the average joe.
  • camfer

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    Apr 03, 2014 2:52 PM GMT
    No cell service where I live, no TV, no ipod. So "everyone" in her thesis is a presumptive exaggeration.

    Another approach is to have a technology fast. Turn it all off for a day. Then the next day, reintroduce technology into your life slowly.

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    Erik101 saidI do! When my bf and I go to dinner, neither of us pick up our phones until we leave the restaurant. This has become our rule and it has worked very well!


    I do something similar in that if my phone happens to be on and rings at a table, in a restaurant, even in a supermarket, I'll excuse myself where appropriate and even leave the building or find a discreet place to take the call. I don't disrupt diners at my table or around me with a phone call, nor do I talk on a phone at the checkout register which often delays the line so I think it incredibly rude to others.

    It was interesting to me to be at a restaurant years ago with my brother, his phone rang, and without us previously discussing it, he did precisely the same thing, excused himself and took the call at a location away from others. Mom raised us right.

    MCB_ saidI like your style..but you knew that!


    Yes I did and you would. You and a few other younger guys here are seriously fucking amazing and you'll hardly ever directly see anything like that come from my typing. Pardon the character break but your knowing my knowing without my saying made me smile.

    I almost wrote about your comment on your parents in a thread I was enjoying but then local life pulled me away before I could comment and by the time I got back to it that thread had already been buried. But I could tell from how you handle yourself that you were lucky in the parent department and I think it great how you appreciate it.

    I enjoyed similar, especially with the best mom ever, though the best thing she made for dinner was reservations, frequently. I swear that woman had a dried flower arrangement in the oven. And my father did have unresolved issues so inadvertently passed down some of that, but would never purposely hurt me, he's a loving guy, just very damaged by his upbringing. Plus I had a supportive and loving step-dad. So I consider myself lucky in that department as well. It's something not everyone gets.

    You've got some really good thinking there, very on target, and a great big heart: this shy and deceiving world will show its real self to you.

    "Open slightly your heart to me, and I will reveal the world to you."~~the Zohar

    pellaz said
    theantijock said ... My family and friends get that they might not get to me right away. I am not at their beckon call. My phone is often in the trunk of the car and likely turned off when in my pocket ...
    dont think this would go over well for the average joe.


    Certainly when I start working again I'll likely need my phone on more and I'd be more attentive to it as circumstances require. Just as when I learn of a friend having a hard time, I make myself more accessible and I check up on them.

    For some it took a while to get them to understand and I had a perfect example recently when my stupid phone pocket dialed the person I was with. See I said, that's why I keep the stupid thing off. But my favorite story for anyone who thinks I'm being rude by not always having my phone on is when I stopped on my way home to pee like a race horse when my phone pocket dialed the woman I'd been out with. Suddenly I heard my name calling out from my pocket, down where I was peeing, "________, is that YOUUUUUUU??????" That's when I started throwing the damned thing in the car trunk.

    Technology: convenient yet humiliating.

    Some friends still have trouble with me because I'm not on facebook, some of those seem to take it personally, and some of that has been detrimental to our friendship. That's regrettable but I don't let the world change me, I'm not a victim of fashion, I want to hear their voice, so a few times a year we catch up and talk nonstop for an hour. It is what it is.

    camfer said...reintroduce technology into your life slowly.


    We weren't talking about your vibrator.

    Sorry. Couldn't resist.
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    Apr 03, 2014 3:40 PM GMT
    That sounds like a good idea actually. Everyday I have my ipod on just as a buffer to keep people away from me really. It says, "Don't ask me for directions" and "Don't bother me because I'm not interested." Thinking about it now, it would leave me more time to get some more drawings in.
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    Apr 03, 2014 3:51 PM GMT
    I disconnect sometimes, other times I'm connected. For instance - I disconnect when I'm:
    * Having dinner with my s.o. or when we have people over;
    * In the gym, pool or my Yoga class;
    * Sleeping - I turn the phone off during the night;
    * In church or in meetings.

    To me, it's like answering your front door. Some people think that when the doorbell rings, they've got to drop everything and hurry to the door. NOT TRUE for me. If it is a salesman or someone I don't know or want to meet (like a process server, for instance) then I don't even go to the door. Same with my phone. If it is someone I don't know, or who has his number blocked, I don't take the call. It's simple. I'm not a slave to the phone. I pay for it to use when I want it.
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    Apr 03, 2014 4:00 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidI do! When my bf and I go to dinner, neither of us pick up our phones until we leave the restaurant. This has become our rule and it has worked very well!


    This is such a good rule!!

    I definitely to want to have times during the day where I just turn off all technology and either study, read or go on a hike or something. I hate how technologically dependent the world is becoming.
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    Apr 03, 2014 4:08 PM GMT
    theantijock said
    I do something similar in that if my phone happens to be on and rings at a table, in a restaurant, even in a supermarket, I'll excuse myself where appropriate and even leave the building or find a discreet place to take the call. I don't disrupt diners at my table or around me with a phone call, nor do I talk on a phone at the checkout register which often delays the line so I think it incredibly rude to others.


    See, I always thought this to be common-sense.
    If you're with friends and you get a phone call, you step outside or go into another room to take the call.

    I always get annoyed when I'm hanging out with my friends and they'll get a phone call and answer right in front of me. Then I'm sitting there listening to them have a conversation for 10 minutes with someone else. It's really rude.
  • BillandChuck

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    Apr 03, 2014 4:13 PM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidHow about disconnecting from the wired world and connecting with the people right in front of you?

    This! We do this daily, more than once, and it's amazing how it rounds your view of the world. Nature, the physical world, interacting in person with other human beings..... AMAZING! icon_biggrin.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 03, 2014 4:35 PM GMT
    I disconnect though usually because I start doing something. At the gym. Playing tennis. Having a meal with someone. Listening to music on the boat. Lying by the pool. If you think about disconnecting for the purpose of disconnecting, you'll fail. Just ignore your phone more often and find something else to do. I'm constantly amazed that people are shocked when I ignore the phone ringing. I ignore it because I'm doing something else! And stop playing mindless games on your phone when you're with someone. Pay attention to them. Talk.
  • toastvenom

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    Apr 03, 2014 5:38 PM GMT
    never jumped on the smartphone/disconnect bandwagon. ill use it when there is a need but by no means use it as a tool to look like im busy/preoccupied or more important that I actually am to the rest of society, cuz hey, guess what, nobody gives a fuck if ur sitting on the subway distracted or not. im still living like its 1999.
  • Latenight30

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    Apr 03, 2014 7:05 PM GMT
    http://www.cnn.com/2013/05/01/tech/mobile/digital-detox-camp/

    This isn't the article I was looking for, but it's to the same theme. If you are an outdoors person, take a long weekend, go into the woods and unplug.
    It is one of the best things you can do for you mind, your eyes and I think after a couple days it helps reset your circadian rhythm.
  • madsexy

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    Apr 03, 2014 7:14 PM GMT
    No joke here: I spend a lot of time when I'm out, away from my office or not home, interesting myself in what's going on around me, both visual and auditory. OK, admittedly it's mostly ogling hot guys . . . but still I'm not overly techno-addicted! icon_redface.gif
  • Lincsbear

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    Apr 03, 2014 9:23 PM GMT
    I don`t disconnect from the electronic/digital world; rather only occasionally connect to it!

    The real world is my priority...
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    Apr 04, 2014 1:22 AM GMT
    It is not difficult. I usually walk in parks/forests. Well, I think it is very important for me to feel the "real nature". icon_biggrin.gif