What are the BEST ways to forget and get over a failed romance or rejection?

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    Apr 03, 2014 5:12 AM GMT
    icon_rolleyes.gif Based on your experiences obviously.
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    Apr 03, 2014 6:21 AM GMT
    Hang out with friends tell the person. Realize its for the best?
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    Apr 03, 2014 8:55 AM GMT
    Stay FAR away from the nutella aisle. Seriously, that stuff z crack for broken hearts! Other than that, get back into your old routine (before you met him). Friends, work, gym, whatever. It really does take your mind off things. Channelling my energy into the lil puppys at the local shelter totally helped me when i finally came out of my nutella induced depression that is
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    Apr 03, 2014 2:08 PM GMT
    By the time I break off a relationship I'm so drained I'm relieved its over and happily skip away to the next one.

    My happiness does not depend someone else.
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    Apr 03, 2014 2:12 PM GMT
    depends on how long you have been in the relationship.
  • cois412

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    Apr 03, 2014 2:22 PM GMT
    After a relationship of 8 years I can testify that is is very hard to just move on. But its a relief and with great friends it makes it much easier. Justdont be alone too much.
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    Apr 03, 2014 3:08 PM GMT
    I just remind myself not to take on all the impact myself. By that token, you can't put all the blame on the other guy either. It's just not a good fit. It's better to part ways than to stay together in a bad situation.
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    Apr 03, 2014 3:17 PM GMT
    Sucks that op is gone or hidden. My question is how do they define the "rejection" part of this question? I view failed romance and rejection as two very different things
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 03, 2014 3:31 PM GMT
    Ya, depends on the length and depth of the relationship. 6 months to a year relationship, give yourself a couple of weeks to mourn and then go find meaningless sex. It really does help. But remember the new guy wants fun, not to hear your sad or angry story. But also talk and get to know him a bit. He may be a really nice guy. Start the process of talking and dating. If it was a many year relationship that was a true partnership, it may take a long time. Six months or so. If you think about it, you wouldn't want it to be easy.
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    Apr 03, 2014 3:39 PM GMT
    What are the BEST ways to forget and get over a failed romance or rejection?

    I always say that the best way to forget about an old love is with a new love.

    BUT, before I proceed to that step, I try to figure out why it BECAME an old love. I don't wanna go through the same thing all over again with the next guy.

    It helps if he told me so that I'm not totally guessing. Which is why I'll ask him if we're still talking.

    In my case I've been most commonly told that I'm too critical & negative, too controlling, too demanding & self-centered, even that I don't smile enough, too glum (that's just for starters!).

    Once I've heard the same things from several sources I begin to take them seriously, and especially if they seem to be linked to my relationship failures, something that needs to be fixed. The key is not to exempt yourself from criticism & blame. Doesn't mean it's all your fault, but a good chance some of it is. And there's always room for personal improvement.

    And so with the next guy I'd try to be less critical and more positive with my comments, idle back on the controlling, let him sit behind the wheel and do more of the driving, and smile, smile, smile. LOL!

    And actually over time it works. You really can retrain yourself, until those improved behaviors become natural, not consciously forced. So that with every new guy I've gotten better at it, and kept him longer. Until now I don't have to keep looking for new guys anymore. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 03, 2014 3:57 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    But remember the new guy wants fun, not to hear your sad or angry story.

    I agree with all your good advice, but want to particularly endorse this one.

    I find it a total turnoff when a guy fixates on trashing his ex(es). I understand the need to be honest and up-front, and to unload a little, and I'll listen sympathetically to help him get over it. It may also be his way of alerting me to his likes & dislikes in another man, important info for me to know. But some guys make it the sole topic of every single conversation. UGH!!! Which makes me think:

    - If we ever split I'll be the next one he'll be bad-mouthing all over town behind my back.
    - Lovers' intimate confidences & secrets mean nothing to him.
    - It's making him sound rather mean, petty & vindictive.
    - He's not ready for a new relationship yet if he's still living the last one.
    - He probably fought the breakup and will drop me in a heartbeat if his ex takes him back.
    - He's effectively telling me he's got a bad track record, not a winner here.
    - He may be inadvertently revealing more about his own serious flaws than those of his ex.

    And finally, to quote Louis Jordan's character's song line from the movie Gigi!: "She is NOT thinking of ME!"
  • secondstartot...

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    Apr 03, 2014 4:29 PM GMT
    I have a PHD in Rejection

    you need some of this ...its important that it has choclit

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    and this...I think animated is better...cause the last thing I want to see after a rejection is a man !!




    and one of these is imperative

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    Apr 03, 2014 8:49 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    Destinharbor said
    But remember the new guy wants fun, not to hear your sad or angry story.

    I agree with all your good advice, but want to particularly endorse this one.

    I find it a total turnoff when a guy fixates on trashing his ex(es). I understand the need to be honest and up-front, and to unload a little, and I'll listen sympathetically to help him get over it. It may also be his way of alerting me to his likes & dislikes in another man, important info for me to know. But some guys make it the sole topic of every single conversation. UGH!!! Which makes me think:

    - I'll be the next one he'll be bad-mouthing all over town behind my back if we split.
    - Lovers' intimate confidences & secrets mean nothing to him.
    - It's making him sound rather mean, petty & vindictive.
    - He's not ready for a new relationship yet if he's still living the last one.
    - He probably fought the breakup and will drop me in a heartbeat if his ex takes him back.
    - He's effectively telling me he's got a bad track record, not a winner here.
    - He may be inadvertently revealing more about his own serious flaws than those of his ex.

    And finally, to quote Louis Jordan's character's song line from the movie Gigi!: "She is NOT thinking of ME!"

    +1

    And, as everyone knows, the best way to get over a man is to get under a new one.
  • wellwell

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    Apr 03, 2014 8:58 PM GMT




    TIME

    and lot'z of it; but until then, chocolate & puppies really really help.
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    Apr 03, 2014 9:06 PM GMT
    hang out with friends, family, make new friends....do your things, have hobbies, go to the beach and yeah heal with time. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Schaffery

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    Apr 04, 2014 12:01 AM GMT
    I watch The Nanny and relate how pathetic her life is with mine.. But only from season 1 to 4.. Season 5 is not good..
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    Apr 04, 2014 12:52 AM GMT
    Schaffery saidI watch The Nanny and relate how pathetic her life is with mine.. But only from season 1 to 4.. Season 5 is not good..

    Pretty much any reality show works well for that purpose.
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    Apr 04, 2014 2:34 AM GMT
    get out of your head and do something that helps other people. Volunteer your time in a way that puts you into direct contact with people who have gone through real catastrophe, i.e. homeless shelter. Volunteering to help others will get your mind off of it, and it will make you feel good about yourself.
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    Apr 04, 2014 2:59 AM GMT
    Take your emotions out at the gym and become unquestionably hot, meanwhile forgetting he ever existed by talking to other guys
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    Apr 04, 2014 3:02 AM GMT
    Fuck another duck. OK, I don't mean literally, a duck.
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    Apr 04, 2014 3:03 AM GMT
    ^^^^^Exactly right. The only thing I can add is to just get out there and have fun meeting new and different guys. When you think about it, there are SO MANY guys out there that you haven't met. Go places you like - do things you like doing - and meet other guys who share your hobbies or your sport!

    Lastly - - - you won't meet anyone just sitting at home. Get up. Go out. Meet some of the male population and have fun!
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    Apr 04, 2014 3:23 AM GMT
    Thanks everyone. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 04, 2014 3:27 AM GMT
    watch scary films with a friend or two (and a magnum bottle of wine) and hug your cat(s)because they love you more than any smelly human could. As you can probably tell I am a bit of a loser lol.

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    Apr 04, 2014 3:27 AM GMT
    Time ... and someone better.
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    Apr 04, 2014 3:36 AM GMT
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