Do younger guys like older?

  • craycraydoesd...

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    Apr 04, 2014 1:25 AM GMT
    I'm a 40 something with a great body and decent face, and am mostly attracted to guys in their 20's. Unfortunately few of them are ever interested (the only ones I've met who were interested are quite unattractive, and/or seem to be looking for money and security.

    I know there's a lot of men my age who will say and pay anything to get into a younger guy's pants for just the night regardless of his personality, but I'm not one of them. I'm looking for a LTR and a genuine connection - among equals... just that I am not as attracted to older guys

    Is there hope for someone like me, or should I try to change my tastes in men?
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    Apr 04, 2014 1:34 AM GMT
    crazycrazydoesdoes said
    Is there hope for someone like me, or should I try to change my tastes in men?

    Surely there's hope.
    Change taste? well...I don't think anyone could do that without experiencing it first.

    Have you ever met/date people someone around your age? May be it'll change your feelings, or it just might be that you haven't met the right guy yet!
  • Phobophobia

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    Apr 04, 2014 1:41 AM GMT
    Yes, there is most definitely hope for you.

    As the other poster stated, have you tried looking at older men as well? Not to say you shouldn't seek a long term relationship from a younger male, but you may be surprised, one day you may come across one older guy who totally surprises you.
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    Apr 04, 2014 2:40 AM GMT
    I know everything is subjective but in my opinion, being in your 40s does not make you old. IMO, being over 55 is old.
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    Apr 21, 2014 1:54 AM GMT
    Phobophobia saidYes, there is most definitely hope for you.

    As the other poster stated, have you tried looking at older men as well? Not to say you shouldn't seek a long term relationship from a younger male, but you may be surprised, one day you may come across one older guy who totally surprises you.


    I've tried looking at older men, but it doesn't do anything for me. The best I can hope for is a man my age who looks 30 and has great skin... but that's one in a million.
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    Apr 21, 2014 2:07 AM GMT
    Of course. Like just personally. Older guys are awesome. Depends on the individual how flexible my judgement could be you know? But age is not the defining factor. Attraction and chemistry are. There's plenty of hope for you, just based on your self description alone. Just be open and expect the same.
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    Apr 21, 2014 2:17 AM GMT
    First of all the problem is you are looking exclusively at younger guys and guess what, most of them prefer younger guys. What about you at that age. Did you like guys in their 40s?

    Now to answer your question there are plenty of young guys who like older men. I'm 55 and I recently noticed that 3/4 of the guys who approach me on the internet are in their 20s to early 30s. And they aren't looking for money and would be offended if I assumed they were. Still I would never approach a guy 20 or 30 years younger as I would expect them to think I was way too old for them. A young guy who likes men much older is not the norm and a lot of them are looking for sex not a relationship.

    If you can't adjust your tastes with age then you should expect an awful lot of rejection. If your not attracted to any men your age then you must not find yourself sexy and the could be bad for your self esteem. Also what happens when you meet that hot young man and then he grows old? Do you dump him for another because his skin is beginning to sag?
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    Apr 21, 2014 2:27 AM GMT
    I like vuys older than me but I also like guys my own age. As much as I would like an older boyfriend I would be reluctant to get with an older guy who states he's only interested in guys who are younger for two reasons.

    1) I would worry he's only with me because I meet his age quota and he doesn't actually like me for me.

    2) I would worry that once I'm 25 or 30 I would get the boot for a man younger than me.

    You should not really put an age on it or you'll put off guys your own age who may be perfect for you and younger guys might think you only like them for their age.
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    Apr 21, 2014 1:25 PM GMT
    crazycrazydoesdoes said ... Should I try to change my tastes in men?




    YES