I can't believe I'm stooping this low..

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    Apr 04, 2014 6:30 PM GMT
    Here we go. We all look for love right? Right?!??!? It's a cycle. We all love the butterflies, intimacy the hope for the future. That being said. I am so exhausted with a capital "E" with people telling me "I deserve a god man!!!" Really???? Where is this man??? I think cynicism blossoms and begins at age 29. I am so much a great person ....I think...wait... you know what? I get told this more than once a day!!!!!! I KNOW I'm a good person ...I just want the fairy tale..but unfortunately for me so does thousands and millions of others! So here's my question. I don't care if this makes me sound desperate,needy,lower,hopeless; this is a social networking site anyways and while I do take them serious to a certain extent. I don't invest in the long term effects of my words. What in God's good name is wrong with me??? I am tired. I just want to talk on the phone with someone and fall asleep together. Do I believe it exists anymore? No. I do not. So with that being said ....with that being said....I want to understand? Why am I not finding the right person? Why is it that I am failing at every possible attempt to get to know someone? I know I can be shy and maybe that is mistaken for unapproachable but geez. I would love to just sigh....IDK.
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    Apr 05, 2014 12:10 AM GMT
    Its natural that most people seek companionship. I empathize with and all I can really say is that just do your thing in whats right for you and be confident.
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    Apr 05, 2014 12:28 AM GMT
    I ask myself the same question and I'm still none the wiser. If you find the silver bullet then do let me know.
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    Apr 05, 2014 1:41 AM GMT
    I'm sorry you feel this way. There can be a lot of reasons. You could be so masculine that no gay dude would risk approaching you. You could be smelly. Your standards could be too high. You don't look out of shape which is why I'm currently single. Your area could be full of closeted dudes and you don't see the discrete signs that they are into you.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 05, 2014 1:46 AM GMT
    IMO - there is no Prince Charming. There is no Mr. Right. Don't expect to meet someone 100% perfect and it's going to be love at first sight and passion forever. The man you meet and fall in love with will have flaws. He'll do things that get on your nerves. He'll have interests you don't share. He won't look like an underwear/fitness model. You be a guy who is honest and true and you'll find him.
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:20 AM GMT
    Timbales saidIMO - there is no Prince Charming. There is no Mr. Right. Don't expect to meet someone 100% perfect and it's going to be love at first sight and passion forever. The man you meet and fall in love with will have flaws. He'll do things that get on your nerves. He'll have interests you don't share. He won't look like an underwear/fitness model. You be a guy who is honest and true and you'll find him.


    Totally agree. What's more, I don't want a Prince Charming.

    Guys and girls are all imperfect. I just want that right balance of goods and bads to make him that Perfectly Imperfect guy! icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:33 AM GMT
    Timbales saidIMO - there is no Prince Charming. There is no Mr. Right. Don't expect to meet someone 100% perfect and it's going to be love at first sight and passion forever. The man you meet and fall in love with will have flaws. He'll do things that get on your nerves. He'll have interests you don't share. He won't look like an underwear/fitness model. You be a guy who is honest and true and you'll find him.

    I agree. Although I believe that when some people say "Mr. Right" they really mean "Mr. Perfect", and indeed that guy doesn't exist. Whereas I do think there's a Mr. Right for most of us, if we're willing to accept some flaws.

    An ex of mine wanted Mr. Perfect, and he was forever telling me why I wasn't him. Even while I was dating him, saying that I was pretty good, but he was still looking for something better.

    I found it kinda amusing for a while, because I thought he'd finally realize I was his best offer. But he never did, so I moved on. Only then did he phone me nearly a year later, to say he realized I was what he wanted after all. Too late, I told him, I've found a partner, whom I'm not giving up. Years later he's still single, and I remain partnered. Not with Mr. Perfect, but with Mr. Right. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 05, 2014 3:53 PM GMT
    I remember me when i was staring at the night sky all alone in the midst of the parking lot somewhere deep inside where no one can see me crying, thinking about being all alone and couldn't meet anyone. Being gay is about finding love and also fighting with your feelings when you are lonely. Sometimes we get confused as to what do we actually want. It was a really one of the heartbreaking nights for me. After few weeks from then, I met my angel. Just Hope. know this sucks to just hope but Life definitely hears everyone. Just stay true to your feelings.

    Hugs to you mate.
  • kentstrongtom...

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    Apr 05, 2014 9:16 PM GMT
    Luckly, i have found Mister Right.
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    Apr 05, 2014 10:16 PM GMT
    read your profile here:
    "I am religious and I am trying to build a solid relationship with God. I want honest TRUE people in my life and I am ready for long-term if its the right person"

    not a lot of religious gay men out there, say the gay population is 1 in 20 (5%). say a quarter of the gay men are religious, go to church regular. Are we down to 1% of the general population yet?

    Not saying your religion is or is not a good thing but I would seek out a gay affirming church in your area.
    -majority of gay men are not religious
    -you dont have to be religious to be a moral true person

    or open up your requirements, date an ignostic.
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    Apr 05, 2014 11:31 PM GMT
    taichiguy saidI'm sorry you feel this way. There can be a lot of reasons. You could be so masculine that no gay dude would risk approaching you. You could be smelly. Your standards could be too high. You don't look out of shape which is why I'm currently single. Your area could be full of closeted dudes and you don't see the discrete signs that they are into you.





    I must be smelly lol
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    Apr 05, 2014 11:31 PM GMT
    taichiguy saidI'm sorry you feel this way. There can be a lot of reasons. You could be so masculine that no gay dude would risk approaching you. You could be smelly. Your standards could be too high. You don't look out of shape which is why I'm currently single. Your area could be full of closeted dudes and you don't see the discrete signs that they are into you.





    I must be smelly lol
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    Apr 06, 2014 1:57 PM GMT
    No, but I obviously do not understand the process. Not to mention I am very closed off. I am also completely oblivious to attraction. The only time I notice people checking me out is when I have sunglasses on.
    I should not complain though. In my profile I do in a sense ask for a lot. I need to do some updating. I am just watching too many Romantic Comedies here lately. The cynical 29 y/o judgmental guy will be back with a vengeance soon.icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 06, 2014 7:51 PM GMT
    Stop looking around for the right person and try to BE the right person.