Do bigger, more muscular guys, still go for skinnier men.

  • Skipper18

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    Apr 04, 2014 10:14 PM GMT
    I'm just curious but I myself am on the skinnier side. Don't get me wrong I workout and stay in shape, I'm just not huge and wouldn't necessarily considers self a bodybuilder.
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    Apr 04, 2014 11:30 PM GMT
    Probably.
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    Apr 05, 2014 3:27 AM GMT
    I guess i'm pretty big. My last bf was 5'2 and pretty skinny. I have been on dates with guys who were skinny, a little husky, muscular, average etc.

    I think there's quite a few big guys who love smaller guys. From what I've seen anyways!
  • BloodFlame

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    Apr 05, 2014 6:31 AM GMT
    Yes, of course there. Now keep in mind, sure, a majority of those big guys most likely do prefer guys similar to themselves but there are also some who actually like guys the opposite of themselves in terms of body type.

    I'm a relatively thin guy and I have had a few instances where bigger muscular type guys expressed attraction towards my size (much to my surprise). It was pretty cool to experience because like you, I like bigger guys as well but I personally don't want to become big like them. I like the size I am and I feel as long as I keep exercising and taking care of myself, I'll be fine.

    But the point is, don't feel discouraged if you do get turned down by a few because at the end of the day, just because a few turned you down, doesn't mean the next one will. Good luck!
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    Apr 05, 2014 7:12 AM GMT
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    Apr 05, 2014 11:18 AM GMT
    Looollll
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    Apr 05, 2014 12:11 PM GMT
    As someone who's 6'2" and who was once 50lbs thinner, I can attest that I attract far more of these guys now than before. Paradoxically, becoming bigger makes you less shallow: since it's guaranteed that you will attract someone physically attractive to you, you don't have to compromise so much on moral character, personality, common interests... The guys I date now are not only better looking, they're better overall. Nowadays I'm even experiencing requited love! Becoming more muscular will open many doors and if you knew what you're losing you wouldn't even consider remaining skinny.
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    Apr 05, 2014 12:20 PM GMT
    yes. take it from a skinny guy.
  • suedeheadscot

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    Apr 05, 2014 12:22 PM GMT
    Occasionally. Not often enough. Surprisingly the muscle dudes I meet tend to be bottoms (makes me one very happy chappy indeed...)
  • Mitchell7665

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    Apr 05, 2014 1:12 PM GMT
    I think every thin guy wants this to be true, but in most cases its not. One of the more superficial reasons why gay guys workout and put so much time into their bodies to get muscles is to be attractive to other muscly guys, after all they are gay and are obviously attracted to men and their physique just the same as any other gay guy. In saying that there is a smaller number of muscled guys who are attracted to smaller, thinner guys.
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    Apr 05, 2014 1:34 PM GMT
    Mitchell7665 saidI think every thin guy wants this to be true, but in most cases its not. One of the more superficial reasons why gay guys workout and put so much time into their bodies to get muscles is to be attractive to other muscly guys, after all they are gay and are obviously attracted to men and their physique just the same as any other gay guy. In saying that there is a smaller number of muscled guys who are attracted to smaller, thinner guys.


    I just don't agree with "superficial". The shallow ones are the skinny guys who lack the power to seduce muscular guys. The skinny ones who are only into bigger guys are the ones who will compromise on everything: personality, moral character, generation gap, etc, because compromising on looks is very difficult and beyond their control.

    As I said in my post, the guys I date now are not only better looking, they are better overall and more compatible in many non-physical traits because now I have more selection power than before.
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:12 PM GMT
    Gross
    No
    Yall bruise to easily.
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    Apr 05, 2014 3:10 PM GMT
    This question has been asked like a million times icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 05, 2014 4:27 PM GMT
    I think gay men worry too much about their bodies aesthetics instead of focusing on health and looks at the same time and doing it for them selves!

    I think this is not just due to the fact of trying to attract muscle men but more due to the fact that they as a man will be naked infront of another man and thats where they feel bodies will be compared.
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    Apr 05, 2014 5:32 PM GMT
    What are YOU into? Muscular men? If you have a fetish, it's your job to pursue it.

    Do some muscular men fetishize skinny men? Yes. Try Craigslist. Or Grindr. Someone out there is possibly compatible with you. But that's not really the question, is it?

    What's odd to me about these (often posted) questions is how passive the asker sounds. "Will the man of my dreams stumble upon me as I lay in the middle of the road?" I realize it does take some effort to literally lie in the middle of the road, but it's so aimless...if we're to stretch the metaphor.

    If a skinny man wants a muscular man, won't the successful skinny man be really adept at casting his net? Get to work, I say.
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    Apr 05, 2014 6:25 PM GMT
    ^^^ True. But isn't the theme of all these threads really, "Are there any muscular men interested in me?"
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    Apr 05, 2014 6:27 PM GMT
    shortbutsweet said^^^ True. But isn't the theme of all these threads really, "Are there any muscular men interested in me?"
    Lazy net casting? Oh, my word...
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    Apr 05, 2014 6:34 PM GMT
    mickeytopogigio said
    shortbutsweet said^^^ True. But isn't the theme of all these threads really, "Are there any muscular men interested in me?"
    Lazy net casting? Oh, my word...

    Pretty much. icon_wink.gif
  • toastvenom

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    Apr 05, 2014 6:37 PM GMT
    so is being skinny like the new fat or something? unnerving how gay dudes have been conditioned to accept only one body type as acceptable/desired (the jacked up on steroids and/or protein shakes/bar type) kinda ironic that the gay symbol is a rainbow.
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    Apr 05, 2014 6:47 PM GMT
    Toastvenom saidso is being skinny like the new fat or something? unnerving how gay dudes have been conditioned to accept only one body type as acceptable/desired (the jacked up on steroids and/or protein shakes/bar type) kinda ironic that the gay symbol is a rainbow.


    I don't believe it's conditioning. The preference for mesomorphic body types is universal and present even in isolated communities that never saw TVs or magazines. See "Survival of the Prettiest" for an evolutionary explanation of the convergence of preferences.
  • MNGUY

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    Apr 05, 2014 7:57 PM GMT
    bachian saidAs someone who's 6'2" and who was once 50lbs thinner, I can attest that I attract far more of these guys now than before. Paradoxically, becoming bigger makes you less shallow: since it's guaranteed that you will attract someone physically attractive to you, you don't have to compromise so much on moral character, personality, common interests... The guys I date now are not only better looking, they're better overall. Nowadays I'm even experiencing requited love! Becoming more muscular will open many doors and if you knew what you're losing you wouldn't even consider remaining skinny.


    Hmm interesting, don't you question why so many more are into you, does it bother you that it's on your physical appearance and not actually who you really are? Would they have given you the time of day before you got fit? These are questions I'm going to wonder about once I get more fit..
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    Apr 05, 2014 8:15 PM GMT
    No they don't. I can be honest and say I do not find thin men attractive. Also I haven't come across one muscular gay guy I am friends with who is into thin men. I am not saying they dont in general as I cant speak for everyone but not in my experience.
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    Apr 05, 2014 8:28 PM GMT
    Neon saidHmm interesting, don't you question why so many more are into you, does it bother you that it's on your physical appearance and not actually who you really are? Would they have given you the time of day before you got fit? These are questions I'm going to wonder about once I get more fit..


    Those who are only into the body and not the personality will sooner or later demonstrate it. In my experience guys tend to be honest about their intentions. Once I say "I'm not into casual sex", most of them will leave me alone.

    But if you're making this question philosophically, then it's a different matter. Many people, unfortunately, believe in unconditional love. Familial love is conditional and romantic love has even more conditions than those that arise from family ties. Straight men will never fall in love with men, even if they are comrades, best friends, share common interests, respect, loyalty, mutual appreciation and all the things that make a romance successful. The one thing that stops straight guys from falling in love with their best guy friends is called physical attraction.

    If you want romance, if you want to experience requited love, it's determinant to be physically attractive to the one you're looking for. There is no escape from this rule. While physical attraction alone doesn't make a romance, no attraction makes it impossible.

    I believe this popular false dichotomy -- body or personality -- should go away. In a romance you want both.
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    Apr 05, 2014 9:09 PM GMT
    Love, friendships, business deals, are NEVER unconditional.

    The way your body looks is a direct reflection of your discipline, experience, genetics, value set, in life. E.g., fat folks don't wake up one morning hairy and 300 pounds overweight. It takes years of bad life to to get that bad. The way a person looks is very telling about that person's attention to detail, persistence, patient, discipline, self preservation. You can, and should, judge a book by its cover.

    Do I have a lot in common with a lard ass who sits at home? Probably not. Maybe technology, etc., but, if someone is not able to share in your experience, you've missed half the fun.

    Am I attracted to someone insecure and too lazy to have a physical component in their life? Probably not. It's just too one sided.

    Does that make me shallow or evil? Nope.

    We can celebrate our differences, but, our likenesses and mutual interests empower our partnerships and shared adventures.

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  • Aodhan

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    Apr 05, 2014 9:22 PM GMT
    I'm skinny, some muscular guys like me but like everything else, it just depends on the guy.