charlitos saidI don't hotlist people out of respect for my fiance, that does not mean I don't think anybody is hot around here, that would be highly delusional. It is a personal choice to make and just because someone is hot-listing others does not necessarily mean that he is cheating on his partner, it just means he thinks these other guys are hot.
But I've noticed guys that are in "committed relationships" and still flirt or comment on other's dudes private pics. That's a bit disrespectful for a partner. Why are gays the only ones to do this?
I've have been in the middle of plenty of straight drama with girls going insane because her boyfriend liked some other girl's selfie on Instagram. If you want to mute your natural instincts and keep them to yourself that is up to you and to how open minded your relationship is. Both parties should always know, that just because somebody did not say it, doesn't mean he did not think it. I compliment guys and girls in front of my fiance, in the beginning he didn't like it (if it was a guy, girls were ok), we talked about it and he realized that it is ok to be ourselves and now he does it too which is funny...actually he should probably stop doing that
Point is, don't judge people from whatever little information you can obtain from an online profile. All of us are different and the combinations of two of us are exponentially different. Honestly, let just people figure out their lives at their own rhythm without having others telling them what standard they should hold themselves to. Remember all of these society presets are subjective and there is not a right or wrong way in most cases, just a generic way of doing things.