Do you think it's cheating if a guy is dating but still on these type of sites and hot listing guys?

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    Apr 05, 2014 2:23 PM GMT
    I find it a bit odd. Especially for dudes that preach so much about not being slutty or being monogamous. If a man already found his partner, why is he looking around at other dudes profiles? (Unless it's solely for fitness purposes)
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:30 PM GMT
    I don't see any reason why a guy who is dating or monogamous shouldn't be here. Hot listing isn't cheating. People are here for different reasons. Out in the real world there are lots of great looking guys, and if you're dating or monogamous it doesn't mean you can't look at them.
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:32 PM GMT
    AlmondJoy saidI don't see any reason why a guy who is dating or monogamous shouldn't be here. Hot listing isn't cheating. People are here for different reasons. Out in the real world there are lots of great looking guys, and if you're dating or monogamous it doesn't mean you can't look at them.


    If they already have a partner, why keep looking?
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:35 PM GMT
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    AlmondJoy saidI don't see any reason why a guy who is dating or monogamous shouldn't be here. Hot listing isn't cheating. People are here for different reasons. Out in the real world there are lots of great looking guys, and if you're dating or monogamous it doesn't mean you can't look at them.


    If they already have a partner, why keep looking?


    Who said they're looking? There are different reasons to be here. If you had a b/f would you delete your hot list or delete your account?
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:37 PM GMT
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    AlmondJoy saidI don't see any reason why a guy who is dating or monogamous shouldn't be here. Hot listing isn't cheating. People are here for different reasons. Out in the real world there are lots of great looking guys, and if you're dating or monogamous it doesn't mean you can't look at them.


    If they already have a partner, why keep looking?


    Who said they're looking? There are different reasons to be here. If you got a b/f would you delete your hot list or delete your account?


    No, but you shouldn't flirt with other dudes or hot list them or even comment on their private pics. That is cheating. Btw, I said unless it's solely for fitness purposes. Maybe just looking for friends, but if you're dating, don't go around flirting with dudes or looking at their penis pics.
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:42 PM GMT
    I don't hotlist people out of respect for my fiance, that does not mean I don't think nobody is hot around here, that would be highly delusional. It is a personal choice to make and just because someone is hot-listing others, it does not necessarily mean that he is cheating on his partner. It just means that he thinks these other guys are hot and maybe he wants to keep a list to come back and jerk off to them later, who knows.
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:45 PM GMT
    charlitos saidI don't hotlist people out of respect for my fiance, that does not mean I don't think anybody is hot around here, that would be highly delusional. It is a personal choice to make and just because someone is hot-listing others does not necessarily mean that he is cheating on his partner, it just means he thinks these other guys are hot.


    But I've noticed guys that are in "committed relationships" and still flirt or comment on other's dudes private pics. That's a bit disrespectful for a partner. Why are gays the only ones to do this?
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:45 PM GMT
    Xavier92 said
    AlmondJoy said
    Xavier92 said
    AlmondJoy saidI don't see any reason why a guy who is dating or monogamous shouldn't be here. Hot listing isn't cheating. People are here for different reasons. Out in the real world there are lots of great looking guys, and if you're dating or monogamous it doesn't mean you can't look at them.


    If they already have a partner, why keep looking?


    Who said they're looking? There are different reasons to be here. If you got a b/f would you delete your hot list or delete your account?


    No, but you shouldn't flirt with other dudes or hot list them or even comment on their private pics. That is cheating. Btw, I said unless it's solely for fitness purposes. Maybe just looking for friends, but if you're dating, don't go around flirting with dudes or looking at their penis pics.


    Some people have a flirty personality even when they're in a relationship, but it doesn't mean they're looking for someone else or are going to cheat. One time I asked a guy about his hot list, and he said the guys on it aren't all necessarily physically hot to him, but there's something he likes about their profile or something he likes about their forum posts.
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:46 PM GMT
    Depends on how you use this site.
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:48 PM GMT
    Xavier92 said

    But I've noticed guys that are in "committed relationships" and still flirt or comment on other's dudes private pics. That's a bit disrespectful for a partner. Why are gays the only ones to do this?


    Do you have any straight friends at all?

    Cause I'm not dead.
    I spend a lot of time on the Tesla web site also--He's more worried about that.

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    Apr 05, 2014 2:49 PM GMT
    AlmondJoy said
    Xavier92 said
    AlmondJoy said
    Xavier92 said
    AlmondJoy saidI don't see any reason why a guy who is dating or monogamous shouldn't be here. Hot listing isn't cheating. People are here for different reasons. Out in the real world there are lots of great looking guys, and if you're dating or monogamous it doesn't mean you can't look at them.


    If they already have a partner, why keep looking?


    Who said they're looking? There are different reasons to be here. If you got a b/f would you delete your hot list or delete your account?


    No, but you shouldn't flirt with other dudes or hot list them or even comment on their private pics. That is cheating. Btw, I said unless it's solely for fitness purposes. Maybe just looking for friends, but if you're dating, don't go around flirting with dudes or looking at their penis pics.


    Some people have a flirty personality even when they're in a relationship, but it doesn't mean they're looking for someone else or are going to cheat. One time I asked a guy about his hot list, and he said the guys on it aren't all necessarily physically hot to him, but there's something he likes about their profile or something he likes about their forum posts.


    Um, that I agree on but there is a difference between simply saying " Nice abs dude. Keep on the good work." or " Nice muscle definition" to saying things with sexual connotations like "I want to suck your cock" or "I would like to fuck you hard" etc.
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:51 PM GMT
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    charlitos said It just means that he thinks these other guys are hot and maybe he wants to keep a list to come back and jerk off to them later, who knows.


    That seems like cheating to me.


    Some guys think masturbating is cheating.

    It's all how you define your relationship.
    There are plenty of guys that leave this site after they find the one.
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:52 PM GMT
    bonapart01 saidYou are stupid or something how is that cheating?


    You're a dickhead. I can't take you seriously.
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    Apr 05, 2014 2:58 PM GMT
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    Yeh, but some don't and stay here to hit on others. If a dude is "poly" then fine but if he is monogamous then he should behave like a monogamous person.


    As defined by whom?

    Am I allowed to look?

    Should a chastity cock ring be applied?

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    Apr 05, 2014 3:00 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    gabriel88 said
    Yeh, but some don't and stay here to hit on others. If a dude is "poly" then fine but if he is monogamous then he should behave like a monogamous person.


    As defined by whom?

    Am I allowed to look?

    Should a chastity cock ring be applied?

    Is Dinner at Twin Peaks out?


    As by monogamous people themselves that are very preachy. Ironically.
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    Apr 05, 2014 3:00 PM GMT
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    Xavier92 saidI find it a bit odd. Especially for dudes that preach so much about not being slutty or being monogamous. If a man already found his partner, why is he looking around at other dudes profiles? (Unless it's solely for fitness purposes)


    i asked my husband, he is aware of what i post here.

    realjock is a connection to the gay community


    Then you are not cheating because he knows.
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    Apr 05, 2014 3:11 PM GMT
    woodsmen saidI don't think it is cheating. I flirt and I look and I coo. It is an expression of beauty that you see in another man. Merriam-Webster defines cheating as "to be sexually unfaithful." Flirting, looking and cooing are not sex.


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    Apr 05, 2014 3:15 PM GMT
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    charlitos saidI don't hotlist people out of respect for my fiance, that does not mean I don't think anybody is hot around here, that would be highly delusional. It is a personal choice to make and just because someone is hot-listing others does not necessarily mean that he is cheating on his partner, it just means he thinks these other guys are hot.


    But I've noticed guys that are in "committed relationships" and still flirt or comment on other's dudes private pics. That's a bit disrespectful for a partner. Why are gays the only ones to do this?



    I've have been in the middle of plenty of straight drama with girls going insane because her boyfriend liked some other girl's selfie on Instagram. If you want to mute your natural instincts and keep them to yourself that is up to you and to how open minded your relationship is. Both parties should always know, that just because somebody did not say it, doesn't mean he did not think it. I compliment guys and girls in front of my fiance, in the beginning he didn't like it (if it was a guy, girls were ok), we talked about it and he realized that it is ok to be ourselves and now he does it too which is funny...actually he should probably stop doing that icon_evil.gif

    Point is, don't judge people from whatever little information you can obtain from an online profile. All of us are different and the combinations of two of us are exponentially different. Honestly, let just people figure out their lives at their own rhythm without having others telling them what standard they should hold themselves to. Remember all of these society presets are subjective and there is not a right or wrong way in most cases, just a generic way of doing things.
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    Apr 05, 2014 3:18 PM GMT
    charlitos said
    Xavier92 said
    charlitos saidI don't hotlist people out of respect for my fiance, that does not mean I don't think anybody is hot around here, that would be highly delusional. It is a personal choice to make and just because someone is hot-listing others does not necessarily mean that he is cheating on his partner, it just means he thinks these other guys are hot.


    But I've noticed guys that are in "committed relationships" and still flirt or comment on other's dudes private pics. That's a bit disrespectful for a partner. Why are gays the only ones to do this?



    I've have been in the middle of plenty of straight drama with girls going insane because her boyfriend liked some other girl's selfie on Instagram. If you want to mute your natural instincts and keep them to yourself that is up to you and to how open minded your relationship is. Both parties should always know, that just because somebody did not say it, doesn't mean he did not think it. I compliment guys and girls in front of my fiance, in the beginning he didn't like it (if it was a guy, girls were ok), we talked about it and he realized that it is ok to be ourselves and now he does it too which is funny...actually he should probably stop doing that icon_evil.gif

    Point is, don't judge people from whatever little information you can obtain from an online profile. All of us are different and the combinations of two of us are exponentially different. Honestly, let just people figure out their lives at their own rhythm without having others telling them what standard they should hold themselves to. Remember all of these society presets are subjective and there is not a wrong or right in most cases, just a generic way of doing things.



    I agree but my point is that if someone always preaches so much about not being a slut and being loyal, they should behave like so. If they want an open relationship or polyamory, then they need to be open and tell their partner.
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    Apr 05, 2014 9:14 PM GMT
    bonapart01 said
    Xavier92 said
    bonapart01 saidYou are stupid or something how is that cheating?


    You're a dickhead. I can't take you seriously.

    how the fuck is communicating with other people cheating ? You smashed your head on the wall or something ?

    +1

    The OP is mentally like six years old.
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    bonapart01 said
    Xavier92 said
    bonapart01 saidYou are stupid or something how is that cheating?


    You're a dickhead. I can't take you seriously.

    how the fuck is communicating with other people cheating ? You smashed your head on the wall or something ?

    +1

    The OP is mentally like six years old.


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    Apr 05, 2014 11:03 PM GMT
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    charlitos said
    Xavier92 said
    charlitos saidI don't hotlist people out of respect for my fiance, that does not mean I don't think anybody is hot around here, that would be highly delusional. It is a personal choice to make and just because someone is hot-listing others does not necessarily mean that he is cheating on his partner, it just means he thinks these other guys are hot.


    But I've noticed guys that are in "committed relationships" and still flirt or comment on other's dudes private pics. That's a bit disrespectful for a partner. Why are gays the only ones to do this?



    I've have been in the middle of plenty of straight drama with girls going insane because her boyfriend liked some other girl's selfie on Instagram. If you want to mute your natural instincts and keep them to yourself that is up to you and to how open minded your relationship is. Both parties should always know, that just because somebody did not say it, doesn't mean he did not think it. I compliment guys and girls in front of my fiance, in the beginning he didn't like it (if it was a guy, girls were ok), we talked about it and he realized that it is ok to be ourselves and now he does it too which is funny...actually he should probably stop doing that icon_evil.gif

    Point is, don't judge people from whatever little information you can obtain from an online profile. All of us are different and the combinations of two of us are exponentially different. Honestly, let just people figure out their lives at their own rhythm without having others telling them what standard they should hold themselves to. Remember all of these society presets are subjective and there is not a wrong or right in most cases, just a generic way of doing things.



    I agree but my point is that if someone always preaches so much about not being a slut and being loyal, they should behave like so. If they want an open relationship or polyamory, then they need to be open and tell their partner.


    well i thought sluts were guys who slept with a bunch of other guys not guys who have a list if hot guys on a realjock. I have an album full of hot guys on pinterest, I guess Im slut? Well fuck it, if that makes me a slut then a slut I am and the more I say it the more i like being one.
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    Apr 05, 2014 11:05 PM GMT
    charlitos said
    Xavier92 said
    charlitos said
    Xavier92 said
    charlitos saidI don't hotlist people out of respect for my fiance, that does not mean I don't think anybody is hot around here, that would be highly delusional. It is a personal choice to make and just because someone is hot-listing others does not necessarily mean that he is cheating on his partner, it just means he thinks these other guys are hot.


    But I've noticed guys that are in "committed relationships" and still flirt or comment on other's dudes private pics. That's a bit disrespectful for a partner. Why are gays the only ones to do this?



    I've have been in the middle of plenty of straight drama with girls going insane because her boyfriend liked some other girl's selfie on Instagram. If you want to mute your natural instincts and keep them to yourself that is up to you and to how open minded your relationship is. Both parties should always know, that just because somebody did not say it, doesn't mean he did not think it. I compliment guys and girls in front of my fiance, in the beginning he didn't like it (if it was a guy, girls were ok), we talked about it and he realized that it is ok to be ourselves and now he does it too which is funny...actually he should probably stop doing that icon_evil.gif

    Point is, don't judge people from whatever little information you can obtain from an online profile. All of us are different and the combinations of two of us are exponentially different. Honestly, let just people figure out their lives at their own rhythm without having others telling them what standard they should hold themselves to. Remember all of these society presets are subjective and there is not a wrong or right in most cases, just a generic way of doing things.



    I agree but my point is that if someone always preaches so much about not being a slut and being loyal, they should behave like so. If they want an open relationship or polyamory, then they need to be open and tell their partner.


    well i thought sluts were guys who slept with a bunch of other guys not guys who have a list if hot guys on a realjock. I have an album full of hot guys on pinterest, I guess Im slut? Well fuck it, if that makes me a slut then a slut I am and the more I say it the more i like being one.


    lol dude, trust me, there are a bunch of "conservative" dudes on this site that would label you a slut. That's why I can't stand them.