What is a good gay guy?

  • FuerteC

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    Apr 06, 2014 8:19 PM GMT
    How would you find a good gay guy? What are the qualities of a GOOD gay guy?

    Assertive? Humble? Caring? Intelligent?

    All relationships need hard work and I don't think there are soul mates. There may be ones that are close to that but you have to work at it. Many gay guys find compatibility a challenge.
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    Apr 06, 2014 8:21 PM GMT
    Any male attracted to the same gender who is always trying to do the right thing and make his world and others a better place.
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    Apr 06, 2014 8:21 PM GMT
    All of the traits that you mentioned. I think intelligence is a +. I wouldn't want to be with a guy that is very athletic or sporty but extremely dumb. Low IQs are a turn off for me.
  • 1AlanZSky

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    Apr 06, 2014 8:22 PM GMT
    They have to fit and healthy, anything else is a plus.
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    Apr 06, 2014 8:24 PM GMT
    Bonis saidhonest, down to earth, polite, intelligent ....
    but then again who cares

    there is no such thing as nice gay guys, every person has their bad and good qualities that you like and that annoy you.


    it's stupid to look for a guy that is ''perfect''


    Perfection is relative and subjective. Nobody has said anything about being perfect, however.
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    Apr 06, 2014 8:42 PM GMT
    Xavier92 saidAll of the traits that you mentioned. I think intelligence is a +. I wouldn't want to be with a guy that is very athletic or sporty but extremely dumb. Low IQs are a turn off for me.


    What if they have low IQ, but have a fit body and a caring mind?
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    Apr 06, 2014 8:45 PM GMT
    AlanZSky said
    Xavier92 saidAll of the traits that you mentioned. I think intelligence is a +. I wouldn't want to be with a guy that is very athletic or sporty but extremely dumb. Low IQs are a turn off for me.


    What if they have low IQ, but have a fit body and a caring mind?


    Why a fit body? Also, most guys that are "fit" aren't very caring of others.
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    Apr 06, 2014 8:49 PM GMT
    Transcends stereotypes, takes care of his mental and physical health, values every moment of his life, takes responsibility for his every decision, and does his best to look beyond the superficial things in this world.

    I just find that most gay guys I've met have one or none of these valuable traits.
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    Apr 06, 2014 8:58 PM GMT
    AlanZSky said
    Xavier92 saidAll of the traits that you mentioned. I think intelligence is a +. I wouldn't want to be with a guy that is very athletic or sporty but extremely dumb. Low IQs are a turn off for me.

    What if they have low IQ, but have a fit body and a caring mind?

    I love stupid people. As long as they're not stupid and think they're smart, who cares?
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    Apr 06, 2014 8:59 PM GMT
    I did that. Seven years with a stupid but very handsome man. It was tiring.
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    Apr 06, 2014 9:06 PM GMT
    I don't think anyone has indicated the need for a gay guy to be "young." I agree with the other traits mentioned in this topic. It appears to me that in the gay community it is a bad thing to be "old" and gay. I happen to be old, gay and disabled which to a lot a gay guys is a major turn off. It is a good thing that I love my own company. LOL Just saying!
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    Apr 06, 2014 9:06 PM GMT
    The word "fit" is so misleading.
    I met a guy once, years ago, who had told me he went to the gym and was fit. Unfortunately, he meant he had a good heart rate and low body fat. Sorry to be lookist, but I never saw anyone with a body that oddly shaped before.
    And he smelled funny.
    "Fit" or even "in good shape" doesn't mean "attractively shape."
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    Apr 06, 2014 9:38 PM GMT
    What about stupid people who know they are stupid?
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    Apr 06, 2014 9:41 PM GMT
    So long as someone actually liked me the rest wouldn't bother me too much
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    Apr 06, 2014 9:41 PM GMT
    Bonis said
    AlanZSky saidWhat about stupid people who know they are stupid?


    there is no such thing


    Why?
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    Apr 06, 2014 9:41 PM GMT
    Bonis said
    AlanZSky saidWhat about stupid people who know they are stupid?


    there is no such thing


    There is. You are a great example. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 06, 2014 10:07 PM GMT
    Bonis said
    AlanZSky said
    Bonis said
    AlanZSky saidWhat about stupid people who know they are stupid?


    there is no such thing


    Why?

    what do you mean why? if the person is aware of it's doings that person is not mentally compromised then. realising your strengths and weaknesses is not stupidity


    Do you find these people interesting to you? Would you date a man who is aware of his strengths and weaknesses?
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    Apr 06, 2014 10:53 PM GMT
    A good gay guy is simply a good guy who happens to be gay.

    Don't confuse "goodness" with "attractiveness!" That is a very common mistake. The basic qualities of human decency have nothing to do with race, religion. gender, age, education, socioeceonomic status, physical ability/disability, or sexual orientation.

    And if you have to ask what those basic qualities are, then you have a lot more living and reflecting on life to do first.

  • starboard5

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    Apr 07, 2014 4:29 AM GMT
    I don't understand this. The traits that make someone "good" transcend sexuality.
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    Apr 07, 2014 4:32 AM GMT
    It's hard to define good gay guy. I'd say the one that's compatible with you is your good gay guy.
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    Apr 07, 2014 4:33 AM GMT
    starboard5 saidI don't understand this. The traits that make someone "good" transcend sexuality.


    Couldn't have said it better myself.
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    Apr 07, 2014 4:35 AM GMT
    Alexxx5 saidA good gay guy is simply a good guy who happens to be gay.

    Don't confuse "goodness" with "attractiveness!" That is a very common mistake. The basic qualities of human decency have nothing to do with race, religion. gender, age, education, socioeceonomic status, physical ability/disability, or sexual orientation.

    And if you have to ask what those basic qualities are, then you have a lot more living and reflecting on life to do first.



    Or maybe the value of those charecteristics are as discoverable as the difference between shallow ecology and deep ecology.
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    Apr 07, 2014 4:36 AM GMT
    th3ro said
    starboard5 saidI don't understand this. The traits that make someone "good" transcend sexuality.


    Couldn't have said it better myself.


    Though those traits are often conflated :'(
  • FuerteC

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    Apr 07, 2014 9:42 AM GMT
    So where are these good gay guys? Who know how to treat other people well.
  • 1AlanZSky

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    Apr 07, 2014 2:48 PM GMT
    immunity said
    AlanZSky saidThey have to fit and healthy, anything else is a plus.
    So you're saying that fit and healthy makes someone a good person and any personality traits they possess are irrelevant? icon_neutral.gif


    Well, would you want a guy who is UNFIT and UNHEALTHY?