Have you ever fallen in love. . .

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    Apr 06, 2014 9:48 PM GMT
    . . with someone's personality?

    Last weekend I took at trip to Santa Barbara with a good friend of mine (Kr) and we picked up a friend of his (El) on the way.

    Now, this guy El was really attractive but what REALLY got my attention was how perfect he was. He's the type of guy that's nice to EVERYONE, random people on the streets, bartenders, store-employees. . . You get the point. .

    Anyways, by the end of the weekend, I'm totally in love with this guy but I now realize that it's because I've never met anyone with a personality like his before. He's the type of guy that deserves a good person in his life. Hopefully he doesn't settle for less.

    So, ever fall in love with someone's personality?
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    Apr 06, 2014 9:48 PM GMT
    Yes.
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    Apr 06, 2014 10:41 PM GMT
    It's because it's rare to find a gay man who doesn't take himself super seriously and is not narcissistic.
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    Apr 06, 2014 10:43 PM GMT
    LC92 saidIt's because it's rare to find a gay man who doesn't take himself super seriously and is not narcissistic.


    Exactly!
    I didn't want to say that because I was afraid of how many guys here would take it offensively but you're right.
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    Apr 06, 2014 10:44 PM GMT
    LC92 saidIt's because it's rare to find a gay man who doesn't take himself super seriously and is not narcissistic.


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    Apr 06, 2014 10:52 PM GMT
    LC92 saidIt's because it's rare to find a gay man who doesn't take himself super seriously and is not narcissistic.


    Yes...Actually I know two fellas like that. Good men they are...Plus they have partners who love them to bits.

    I wish I was partnered with someone like that!

    *Le Sigh*
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    Apr 06, 2014 10:53 PM GMT
    I believe I am right now!
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    Apr 06, 2014 11:04 PM GMT
    Yes. He was very bubbly, exuberant, sweet and he liked to sing along to the radio, but...

    He had trouble telling the truth. I'm talking whopping lies.
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    Apr 06, 2014 11:22 PM GMT
    I fell in love with someone. It wasn't instantaneous it was more of a slow burner. Unfortunately he was married but I knew that and he was kind and decent or so I thought. Long story short he was a user and his poor wife is welcome to him. She probably deserves better though!
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    Apr 06, 2014 11:24 PM GMT
    I think it's rare that people focus on personality. I mean, that way, almost everyone would be in a relationship. Anyone can be nice and fun but not everyone can be "sexy" icon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 06, 2014 11:27 PM GMT
    Xavier92 saidI think it's rare that people focus on personality. I mean, that way, almost everyone would be in a relationship. Anyone can be nice and fun but not everyone can be "sexy" icon_neutral.gif

    Yeah but once you like someone for them you don't notice their looks. Trust me when I say I loved someone in spite of their looks.
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    Apr 06, 2014 11:33 PM GMT
    That has happened to me before, a good personality isn't something you run across often and it can be lovable.
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    Apr 07, 2014 6:46 PM GMT
    Xavier92 saidI think it's rare that people focus on personality. I mean, that way, almost everyone would be in a relationship. Anyone can be nice and fun but not everyone can be "sexy" icon_neutral.gif


    I agree with this 100%

    There are PLENTY of nice guys out there with amazing personalities but some are overlooked because they aren't the best-looking guys.

    Good-looking guys always have our attention so when we see one that has a great personality, we realize it immediately.

    Definitely a shallow world we live in.
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    Apr 07, 2014 7:26 PM GMT
    What type of love do you mean? All too often we throw the word love around with such abandon it has no real depth or meaning.

    It's no accident that the FIRST thing you mention about the guy is that "Now, this guy El was really attractive..." We are all, first and foremost, drawn to someone by the physical. After all, we are not pure spirits. Now, if he were what you would consider unattractive and he was at your local club and came up to you to start a conversation I'd bet dollars to donuts you would be thinking of your escape plan, but since you were a captive audience (in car during a road trip) you had the opportunity to get to know his personality.

    I'm first attracted to someone because there is something about them physically that draws my attention but if something akin to love is going to develop they had better have a personality I find even more attractive.
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    Apr 07, 2014 7:40 PM GMT
    I have fallen in love but it was someone out of my reach.
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    Apr 07, 2014 7:44 PM GMT
    Love---bah. Love is an invention of the Hallmark corporation.
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    Apr 07, 2014 7:45 PM GMT
    Sharkadelic saidLove---bah. Love is an invention of the Hallmark corporation.


    lol I think that way too. sigh Love is so elusive.
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    Apr 07, 2014 7:51 PM GMT
    yupp thats the only way i fall in love.. my ex had such a passion for life n helping people... he once paid for a random family in this restaurant because he saw how the parents were struggling with their misbehaving kids.. it was soo niceeeee T_T... i tend to fall for guys that have such a brightness to them in terms of the way they see the world and people around them.. its that optimism and passion, as well as their ability to see good in everyone is what makes them special icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 07, 2014 7:54 PM GMT
    OH....YES!
    My RJ crush was a chubby guy. ... he was handsome, but we cannot see any muscles in his body. ... but his way of conversation, melted my heart. ..
    Now. ...if someone asks me- I will say that, he is hottest guy on earth. .....woo ooohh. ...
    - ROB.....YOU STEAL MY HEARTicon_biggrin.gificon_redface.gif
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    Apr 07, 2014 8:26 PM GMT
    Sharkadelic saidLove---bah. Love is an invention of the Hallmark corporation.


    this shark breaks my heart.

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    Apr 07, 2014 8:54 PM GMT
    I think the time I will be seen ever in being fallen in love sincerely is being strip naked with a cold shower. And let him know all that I'm.

    But it takes great a tragedy for it to happen, till then it will be the likes in the Judging room in heaven.


    As personality?

    I don't know but there are things that goes more with than the likes of personality, subject how deep , raw , genuine a person is and it can be seen by certain lookout to it on The first Day of meet up! *that goes to individuals, there are some care free type , some sensitive deep ones, it varies that take things important to them.

    I'm more Mr.Intuition so I do take certain notice of things on a different level, that will pronounce more whether It is the One. Emotions are terrible as untreated water it needs to be taken care with a mind that is healthy not just wishful in loving and let emotions does its ways simply.

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    Apr 07, 2014 11:48 PM GMT
    keho92 saidyupp thats the only way i fall in love.. my ex had such a passion for life n helping people... he once paid for a random family in this restaurant because he saw how the parents were struggling with their misbehaving kids.. it was soo niceeeee T_T... i tend to fall for guys that have such a brightness to them in terms of the way they see the world and people around them.. its that optimism and passion, as well as their ability to see good in everyone is what makes them special icon_smile.gif


    Perfect example he sounds like an amazing guy. :^]
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    Apr 08, 2014 1:54 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidWhat type of love do you mean? All too often we throw the word love around with such abandon it has no real depth or meaning.

    It's no accident that the FIRST thing you mention about the guy is that "Now, this guy El was really attractive..." We are all, first and foremost, drawn to someone by the physical. After all, we are not pure spirits. Now, if he were what you would consider unattractive and he was at your local club and came up to you to start a conversation I'd bet dollars to donuts you would be thinking of your escape plan, but since you were a captive audience (in car during a road trip) you had the opportunity to get to know his personality.

    I'm first attracted to someone because there is something about them physically that draws my attention but if something akin to love is going to develop they had better have a personality I find even more attractive.



    The kind of love where you personally believe that that person doesn't just get to be with someone, he DESERVES to find someone as good as him. This guy "El" is the type of person that doesn't come around often and he's the king of guy I truly wish the best for.

    Referring to your second question-
    I totally agree with you, and posted this:

    Ri_Gene said
    There are PLENTY of nice guys out there with amazing personalities but some are overlooked because they aren't the best-looking guys.

    Good-looking guys always have our attention so when we see one that has a great personality, we realize it immediately.

    Definitely a shallow world we live in.
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    Apr 08, 2014 3:23 AM GMT
    Yes, a bitter-sweet sensation....
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    Apr 08, 2014 3:29 AM GMT
    Ri_Gene said
    So, ever fall in love with someone's personality?

    Personality is the ONLY thing I've ever fallen in love with. What should I fall for instead? A body with NO personality appealing to me? For his money, perhaps?