Coming out for him..then you break up. :/

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    Apr 07, 2014 9:25 PM GMT
    Hey all,

    So basically I met this dude online. We fell in love and I came out for him. We lasted four months and I started wanting to have sex with other guys. I felt like I wanted to get my chance at being out. You know, coming out and have fun.

    Every time though, I think about him, my heart rips in too. I feel like I should be with him forever then at the same time my brain wants me to go and try and talk with other dudes. I don't know why..I love him so much. Why do I screw it up every time..am I insecure about stuff in my life? What's wrong with me...

    I keep crying and just think about him all the time. I don't know why I chose to tell him I wanted to be single. I can't explain why I made this stupid decision.

    This was also my first real relationship..I never loved anyone as much as I did him. I just somehow ruined it all...certain days I wanna be single and others I just know he is it. Am I bipolar?

    Someone tell me this is normal and I am making the right decision. I never knew what love was until now...to tell you the truth, it is nothing but pain.
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    Apr 08, 2014 4:20 AM GMT
    Story as old as time.
    It's how/why a lot of us come out--so in love you want to tell the world.
    You must have loved him a lot; it's going to hurt like hell.
    It's also why so many of us won't date a closeted guy: the general theme of being let loose on an open market you were to afraid to explore.
    What sucks is you get out there and find out you really weren't missing anything.

    Have you told him?
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    Apr 08, 2014 4:26 AM GMT
    um..you are gay 21. That is the equivalent of being a 12 year old girl relationship-wise. Until you have fucked 7 guys, dont fall in love. Although you can save him for later.
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    Apr 08, 2014 4:30 AM GMT
    Apparition saidum..you are gay 21. That is the equivalent of being a 12 year old girl relationship-wise. Until you have fucked 7 guys, dont fall in love. Although you can save him for later.

    Ignore that advice it reads serious but I suspect it's sarcasm lol.

    If you do love your boyfriend then stick with him because being single and finding someone sucks! You're not missing anything.
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    Apr 08, 2014 8:15 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidWhat sucks is you get out there and find out you really weren't missing anything


    Those who understand this are ready for a committed relationship.

    It really is an issue of maturity. It doesn't sound like you were wrong for your guy or that he was wrong for you, rather, it was simply just the wrong time.

    It really is true though; "the grass is always greener". It's all perspective.
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    Apr 08, 2014 1:46 PM GMT
    bro5492 said ... fell in love and I came out for him ...
    you came out because you wanted
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    Apr 08, 2014 6:06 PM GMT
    Thanks everyone! I guess everything you guys said makes sense...but I did come out cause of him. I did it out of feeling comfortable with a dude finally. I would say I did it for myself and cause of him. He is awesome..miss him so much.
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    Apr 08, 2014 7:27 PM GMT
    send him a text that you miss himicon_exclaim.gif
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    Apr 08, 2014 7:40 PM GMT
    bro5492 saidThanks everyone! I guess everything you guys said makes sense...but I did come out cause of him. I did it out of feeling comfortable with a dude finally. I would say I did it for myself and cause of him. He is awesome..miss him so much.


    Regardless if u came out for him or whatever. The point is you're out. Nothing wrong with that. In fact, he did u favor by having u come out. Congrats.
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    Apr 08, 2014 7:45 PM GMT
    pellaz saidsend him a text that you miss himicon_exclaim.gif


    For his sake, don't do it until you're done with your slutty phase icon_lol.gif .
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    Apr 08, 2014 7:49 PM GMT
    That's what I told him...it sucks..it's like you want both and if you don't have self control, you are screwed. It's annoying. I don't like it. But it is what it is. Thank you for all the help everyone! Love this website. Haha