CRAZY about a guy after only two dates?

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    Dec 29, 2008 7:52 AM GMT
    Hey guys, first of all sorry for the long post, but... here's the deal:
    I've been going out with a boy I met two days ago and I feel as if I have been waiting my whole life for him... icon_lol.gif haha it's weird, cause I'm not the type who falls in love with every guy he sees, I actually have a hard time even LIKING someone, let along think about our future together. But this time... it's so different, I think about him all the time and ever since we kissed I'm like a different person - always smiling, always excited about something (without even knowing what it is) ... it's a new feeling for me.
    Now the problem is that he's leaving Bulgaria in two weeks to go back in the Netherlands, where he lives. So... I really want to be with him, kiss him and hold him all the time, but it's obvious that he wants to sleep with me and I would sleep with him too, but I'm afraid... sleeping with the guy is probably going to make him even crazier about him and we could never be in a relationship, so I'm just gonna make myself suffer... The thing is I don't really have casual sex with people I simply want to sleep with. Sex is meaningful to me and in some other situation I probably wouldn't have even thought about sex after two dates, but knowing that I can only have him for a few weeks makes me want to get every bit of him I can... oh, I'm so confused.

    So my question to you is - what would you do if you were in my shoes? icon_confused.gif
  • qalbi30

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    Dec 29, 2008 12:58 PM GMT
    Please do'nt think that this is an unsympathetic response to how you are feeling,but stand back a bit and look at your situation.

    You say that after two days you feel that he is the one,perhaps after a while he could be,but time will show.

    Try not to let your heart rule your head,COOL IT,for your sake and his !

    With all good wishes,R.icon_smile.gif
  • Sayrnas

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    Dec 29, 2008 1:48 PM GMT
    I've been there and it's amazing...Now astral project (watch for that'll be on a pop quiz later) like 50 ft back. He maybe some kind of cute, some kind of hot, some kind of sexy, hysterically funny, but not funny lookin' for these last two/three days...but you don't know him. It takes a while to know someone.

    Like qal and another very bad rapper said..."Step step don't know me like that..."
  • cityguy39

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    Dec 29, 2008 2:30 PM GMT
    You sound like another young pup who just met a guy the other night, they rented a hotel room and had a great first night, he's in love too, you guys should get together and compare notes. His sounds like love at first sight also or at the very least love after the first dateicon_neutral.gif.
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    Dec 29, 2008 2:46 PM GMT
    You're 18! Weren't you just waiting your whole life to drive?!
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    Dec 29, 2008 4:13 PM GMT
    Ah puppy love! Your emotions are real but they are based on a fantasy of who he really is. It is impossible to know someone well after only two days so you are creating and internal expectation of what you dream he could be which most likely has nothing to do with who he is. If it is any consolation adults well into middle age are often guilty of the same crime.
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    Dec 29, 2008 5:30 PM GMT

    Hey fulldelight,

    None of us know the quality or depths of the conversations you've had with each other.

    Take it slow or take it fast, both have their pitfalls. Bill and I are guilty of taking it fast.

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    Dec 29, 2008 5:34 PM GMT

    Young Love, take a listen to Janet.....

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    Dec 29, 2008 5:44 PM GMT
    Have (safe) sex with him, if he wants it, too. You will have a wonderful memory, even if you should never see him again. And be learning about life & love, at the age when you should be.

    Your first loves are usually not your last, but normal stepping stones to full maturity. You will have ups & downs, with fun one day, heartache the next, all the while learning & growing. Far better than to be underprepared in your 20s or 30s, when you might want to settle down, but don't know enough to be successful at making it happen.

    Someone here called you a pup, and I think that's neither unkind nor untrue, just a place we all have been. Pups learn by playing, so play safe, and let nature run its course.
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    Dec 29, 2008 7:16 PM GMT
    Thanks for the replies everyone icon_smile.gif
    I suppose it does look like a cliche but it feels too right to be wrong, so I'm gonna take a risk this time. I think being overprotected is not always the best solution, so I'm just gonna let it be... icon_smile.gif
    I guess the worst thing that could happen is sleeping with him and then breaking up which wouldn't be the end of the world, I guess....
    Thanks again icon_smile.gif

    And for those of you who think of this as a laughing matter - maybe I'm not the only one who's immature around here after all icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 29, 2008 9:15 PM GMT
    As someone who moved from the US to be with my German BF that I met in China (long story), and only knew for about a week, I can say that I know your situation. I swear I'm not desperate or super crazy, I'm just up for the adventure, so I came to Germany and am going to school here now.

    I never really liked anyone before him (beyond sexual attraction), even people I dated for months.

    We rearranged our lives, and its been working out really well, though its admittedly only been 3 months so far. My advice however, is that you just have to realize that it's been 2 dates, and you haven't had the opportunity to get annoyed by the whole package yet. We can all put on a good facade (some better than others), but people's true personality doesn't come through for a bit longer. We all have quirks, etc. that are potentially off-putting to partners. That is why some of the older, I mean wiser, people here are so quick to tell you not to go for it.

    If you do rearrange things to be together, just be realistic, and realize that you like him, and you hope it will work, but you better have a fall-back plan because the odds are really stacked against you.
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    Dec 29, 2008 9:30 PM GMT
    go to wikipedia. search: love.
    scroll down to "Chemical Basis".
    There is a physiological reason for the way you're feeling.
    don't let people tell you you're crazy.
    it's just the chemicals in your body and brain saying,
    "that one! I want that one!"

    does it mean he's the one? no.
    does it mean it won't work? of course not.
    if his body is doing the same thing, you should be gravy! lol
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    Dec 29, 2008 10:25 PM GMT
    oh young people icon_sad.gif