What are counterintuitive things people can do to be happier in life?

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    Apr 08, 2014 6:48 PM GMT
    icon_wink.gif Positivity thread 3
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    Apr 08, 2014 6:51 PM GMT
    learn to say no. no to requests for things, no to your wants, no to yourself, no to other people. Learn how to say no because saying yes isn't always right nor does it make you happy.

    Work out what is a need, what is a want. Satisfy the needs.
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    Apr 08, 2014 6:58 PM GMT
    In my case is not sleeping too much if you don't want to feel tired all the time.
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    Apr 08, 2014 7:02 PM GMT
    immunity said
    Xavier92 saidIn my case is not sleeping too much if you don't want to feel tired all the time.
    Definitely!! Oversleeping can cause you to feel just as tired as not getting enough sleep.


    And depressed too.
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    Apr 08, 2014 7:03 PM GMT
    I always feel better after shooting a right-winger. I know, I know, but it's such a nice feeling.
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    Apr 08, 2014 7:04 PM GMT
    Sharkadelic saidI always feel better after shooting a right-winger. I know, I know, but it's such a nice feeling.


    I feel better by feeding them to the lions.
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    Apr 08, 2014 7:48 PM GMT
    I feel the same way about religious fundamentalists, Sharkley. The nice part is that there seems to be an unlimited supply locally.

    Another thing I may do is to make brownies for my roomie. It may get me five minutes of more or less pleasantness. Maybe even more if I triple the ExLax.
  • Lincsbear

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    Apr 08, 2014 7:51 PM GMT
    Listen to sad music.
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    Apr 08, 2014 7:57 PM GMT
    The most counterintuitive thing you can do to be happy is to put the happiness of others before your own.

    It's called love.
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    Apr 08, 2014 8:00 PM GMT
    Bonis said
    Alexxx5 saidThe most counterintuitive thing you can do to be happy is to put the happiness of others before your own.

    It's called love.


    Blah blah blah


    Dude, you're a psychopath.
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    Bonis said
    Alexxx5 saidThe most counterintuitive thing you can do to be happy is to put the happiness of others before your own.

    It's called love.


    Blah blah blah


    A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.
    Have a nice life. . .
  • LJay

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    Apr 08, 2014 8:05 PM GMT
    Serious answer:
    Do something for someone else.
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    Apr 08, 2014 8:20 PM GMT
    Bonis said
    Alexxx5 said
    Bonis said
    Alexxx5 saidThe most counterintuitive thing you can do to be happy is to put the happiness of others before your own.

    It's called love.


    Blah blah blah


    A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.
    Have a nice life. . .


    I know value of few things, but putting happiness of others before your own is not an achievement, it's called stupidity


    Wow-- you are one bitter, angry man. I guess you've been hurt so many times you've lost your basic humanity. Very sad.
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    Apr 08, 2014 8:46 PM GMT
    Alexxx5 said
    Bonis said
    Alexxx5 said
    Bonis said
    Alexxx5 saidThe most counterintuitive thing you can do to be happy is to put the happiness of others before your own.

    It's called love.


    Blah blah blah


    A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.
    Have a nice life. . .


    I know value of few things, but putting happiness of others before your own is not an achievement, it's called stupidity


    Wow-- you are one bitter, angry man. I guess you've been hurt so many times you've lost your basic humanity. Very sad.


    It's not the putting of others' happiness before your own that is stupid; it's the making others happy at the EXPENSE of your own that is.
  • MikeW

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    Apr 08, 2014 10:16 PM GMT
    Be more like this guy:

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    Apr 08, 2014 10:25 PM GMT
    MikeW saidBe more like this guy:



    That reminded me of this

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    Apr 08, 2014 10:38 PM GMT
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    immunity saidExercise is actually proven to help with many ailments including depression, but if you have depression it's definitely counter-intuitive because all you want to do is lie in bed all day with no motivation.
    for some people such as myself, that doesn't work. then again, i've diagnosed as being clinically depressed so...
    So am I. My psychiatrist has told me to exercise on numerous occasions.

    I've always felt cheated in that department. I've read again and again that exercise will release endorphins and make you feel better. It doesn't work for me. WHY?
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    Apr 08, 2014 10:41 PM GMT
    JohnSpotter said
    I've always felt cheated in that department. I've read again and again that exercise will release endorphins and make you feel better. It doesn't work for me. WHY?
    We should talk somehow because it should be happening. To know, though, I'd have to learn a lot more about you and what you are doing at the gym.
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    Apr 08, 2014 10:42 PM GMT
    Xavier92 said
    Bonis said
    Alexxx5 saidThe most counterintuitive thing you can do to be happy is to put the happiness of others before your own.
    It's called love.

    Blah blah blah

    Dude, you're a psychopath.

    I guess not everybody here understands the simple word "positivityness!"
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    Apr 08, 2014 10:44 PM GMT
    IMO, a counterintuitive thing to do to be happy is not caring what others think about you and never to seek validation.
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    MikeW said
    JohnSpotter said
    I've always felt cheated in that department. I've read again and again that exercise will release endorphins and make you feel better. It doesn't work for me. WHY?
    We should talk somehow because it should be happening. To know, though, I'd have to learn a lot more about you and what you are doing at the gym.

    Meet me tomorrow at Gold's at 3. I'll be wearing a rainbow carnation.
    (I'm doing the exact same thing my partners are doing. Yet they get the endorphins!)
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    Apr 08, 2014 10:50 PM GMT
    Don't answer the phone
    Don't reply back to that text message
    Don't go out Saturday night
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    Apr 08, 2014 10:50 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidDon't answer the phone
    Don't reply back to that text message
    Don't go out Saturday night


    lol
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    Apr 08, 2014 10:53 PM GMT
    Feed the cute Morman missionaries some spiked brownies, and watch them get all happy?
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    Apr 08, 2014 10:54 PM GMT
    JohnSpotter said
    immunity said
    owl_bundy said
    immunity saidExercise is actually proven to help with many ailments including depression, but if you have depression it's definitely counter-intuitive because all you want to do is lie in bed all day with no motivation.
    for some people such as myself, that doesn't work. then again, i've diagnosed as being clinically depressed so...
    So am I. My psychiatrist has told me to exercise on numerous occasions.

    I've always felt cheated in that department. I've read again and again that exercise will release endorphins and make you feel better. It doesn't work for me. WHY?
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    Not everyone gets endorphin rush from exercise. I get it even with light exercise (Lucky me!! icon_biggrin.gif).

    Do you tend to find pain strongly or not? Do opiate based pain medications work well for you? Some people just plain have less endorphins, which will make pain stronger and opiate based medications less effective.