The most popular guy in high school

  • Nearon

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    Apr 09, 2014 12:19 AM GMT
    Is now kinda my best friend, but it sucks cause now high school is over (c/o 2013 baby!!!) and it don't really mean shit. We both go to the same university, and he's like all over me now...

    I mean back then he wouldn't even give me the time of day, now every text is "when do you get out of class?" or "where are you, I'm bored" We sat next to each other in AP english all senior year and if I were lucky, he'd ask for a pencil. But this guy was homecoming king, prom king, president of our senior class, and the varsity QB....a total bro. Arguably THE MOST popular guy at my high school...

    and now we're besties....but only cause I think I'm the only familiar face and maybe he is struggling to meet people. It's nice that i'm his gay wingman thoicon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 09, 2014 1:31 AM GMT
    My first crush in high school. Remember the locker room?
    Ninth grade the year I discovered I was GAAAAYYYY
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    Apr 09, 2014 2:07 AM GMT
    Ehhhh well you seem to like him so w.e?
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    Apr 09, 2014 2:23 AM GMT
    Nearon saidIs now kinda my best friend, but it sucks cause now high school is over (c/o 2013 baby!!!) and it don't really mean shit. We both go to the same university, and he's like all over me now...

    I mean back then he wouldn't even give me the time of day, now every text is "when do you get out of class?" or "where are you, I'm bored" We sat next to each other in AP english all senior year and if I were lucky, he'd ask for a pencil. But this guy was homecoming king, prom king, president of our senior class, and the varsity QB....a total bro. Arguably THE MOST popular guy at my high school...

    and now we're besties....but only cause I think I'm the only familiar face and maybe he is struggling to meet people. It's nice that i'm his gay wingman thoicon_biggrin.gif


    maybe he'll grow out of you after he find friends lol.

    it's weird because i find myself not over people during high school and college. i like my own bubble too much.

    also, enjoy college, but make sure you're still putting school/career first.
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    Apr 09, 2014 1:24 PM GMT
    What the hell is the point of this thread?
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    Apr 09, 2014 1:29 PM GMT
    That's pretty common actually. When people go to a new school they have a tendency to bond with people they're familiar during the first year or so. It might turn into a great friendship but if there's nothing in common, you both may go your separate ways as you meet people more aligned with your interests.
  • bfirbs

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    Apr 09, 2014 1:53 PM GMT
    If he didn't give you the time of day in high school, why are you bothering with him now? It obviously bothers you that your only NOW being his best friend and that you practically didn't exist to him before. I'm not saying be rude to him, but if it bothers you that someone wouldn't acknowledge you before, perhaps you shouldn't acknowledge them now.
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    Apr 09, 2014 2:27 PM GMT
    For my school all of the unattractive/unpopular guys are now attractive and successful. The beautiful/popular people are now married, have 4 kids, unattractive from excessive drinking and partying, and amounted to nothing. Funny how life works.
  • 1AlanZSky

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    Apr 09, 2014 2:36 PM GMT
    Ckfeezy saidFor my school all of the unattractive/unpopular guys are now attractive and successful. The beautiful/popular people are now married, have 4 kids, unattractive from excessive drinking and partying, and amounted to nothing. Funny how life works.


    Hahaha. The ugly duckling. At the beginning those who think they are beautiful DO NOT CHERISH it. They take it for granted.
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    Apr 09, 2014 2:46 PM GMT
    So... when are you gonna tap that?
  • SomeSiciliano...

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    Apr 09, 2014 3:19 PM GMT
    Ckfeezy saidFor my school all of the unattractive/unpopular guys are now attractive and successful. The beautiful/popular people are now married, have 4 kids, unattractive from excessive drinking and partying, and amounted to nothing. Funny how life works.


    +1 Same with allot of my classmates.

    Sounds like your friend is having a hard time adjusting to his New Reality. Allot of people have a hard time going from being the proverbial the Big Fish in a small pond to being an Average Fish in a huge pond. You are going to see this in your career later on.

    You said yourself that you are a familiar face and his social skills may not be as advanced due to his innate 'popularity' in high school. If he is not being a pain in your ass then what's the big deal? Just be prepared for him to possibly push you away when/if he finds his tribe.
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    Apr 09, 2014 5:01 PM GMT
    Sounds like you might be hanging with him because you hope to hook up with him, or you are attracted to him. Maybe he is hanging with you because he wants to experiment, but the opportunity hasn't arisen. Maybe.

    If it's as you say and that he just hasn't found friends at your university, then it is really nice for you to be a touchstone for him, but you don't have any obligation to keep him occupied. If he is annoying, wean him off of you by being less available gradually. He'll eventually seek out other people.
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    Apr 09, 2014 5:04 PM GMT
    Ckfeezy saidFor my school all of the unattractive/unpopular guys are now attractive and successful. The beautiful/popular people are now married, have 4 kids, unattractive from excessive drinking and partying, and amounted to nothing. Funny how life works.


    exactly---most of the popular studs in my high school class ended up out of shape and losers
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 09, 2014 5:05 PM GMT
    I wouldn't worry about it if you like him. Probably in high school he was just busy and it isn't a sin to be successful. It doesn't sound like he was mean to you, just didn't see you. Besides, people reinvent themselves in college. If the two of you are the only ones from your school, it suggests he and you were looking for more than just an extension of high school. Give him a chance. If he's a good guy, he's a good guy.